How do you survive after major losses?!

i have lost 2 of my children. both were my sons. It is hard and i know exactly what you may be going through, i went so far into a depression i shaved my head! Nothing you do is ever going to remove the pain. Time is the best healer of pain from loss. The best thing you can do is keep them in your memory and occupy your time the best way you can. They will always be on your mind but you have to be the one to say its happened but my life must go on. Things eventually get better, i promise. I still have my bad days, but i keep pushing myself on. Counseling could help, but in the end, it is all up to you! BE STRONGHealth Question & Answer

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I totally understand, my twin brother died unexpectedly at age 49 of a heart attack.

I talked with our minister for about 3 months on a weekly basis, that helped me allot and I understood the cycles of life much better plus the ultimate relationship with God.


Good luck, you will make it through but you do need to talk with your minister or a counselor. Health Question & Answer

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I am sorry to hear for you losses. Believe it or not, counseling helps and it is offered free from churches and some hospitals. From a health perspective, there are products that are natural and can help as well. Some examples are 5-htp and st johns wart, which you can get at your local health store. I lost my twin brother so I understand the pain.....Health Question & Answer

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therapy and counseling.
they provide a friendly ear and can help guide and support you through ur losses.
also, support groups and any friends or family u may still have.
good luck to uHealth Question & Answer

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I am very sorry for your losses. Go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter. Call: The Grief Recovery Institute (U.S.A.) 1-800-445-4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email jo@samaritans.org Chatrooms and forums: www.chatmag.com/topics/health/grief.html and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/ and http://messageboards.ivillage.com/ Other websites: www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org/ (coping, supporting others, loss of relationship, or pet) and www.mental-health-abc.com/ and www.boblivingstone.com/.?q=node30 and www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/ Understand that there are often several stages of grief.

The stages are:

Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why ME.? It's not fair.?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything.?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
K

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