I've been in an exclusive relationship for 3 years now. I just got my first break out of genital herpes.?!
Question: I've been in an exclusive relationship for 3 years now. I just got my first break out of genital herpes..?
Me and my fiance have been together for three years now. I've just had my first outbreak of genital herpes. He claims he didn't cheat how it that possible.?.?.?
First of all the doctor confirmed I just got it within two weeks of my doctors visit and that it was clearly from sexual intercourse. I've never cheated on him.
He claims he must of had it before we got together and not realized it. I know that he must be the lucky type that don't show symptoms but is it really possible he could of had it this long and not given it to me sooner.?
We have a very healthy sexual relationship and have been having UNPROTECTED sex almost every day for the last three years... I guess it just seems to me that he would have given it to me sooner. If he's really had it the whole time we've been together then there would have been several times the disease was "asymptomatic shedding" or whatever the term is and I would have caught it sometime in the last three years. Am I wrong.?.?.?
Although other than this I have no reason to believe he cheated I just can't help but feel thats the only way he gave me herpes... Am I wrong to feel this way.? Should I assume he cheated and end it.?
The doctor that treated me wouldn't flat out tell me he must have cheated but I could tell in her eyes she thinks he did. And she told me to talk to him... He 100% denies it. What do I do.?Health Question & Answer
First of all the doctor confirmed I just got it within two weeks of my doctors visit and that it was clearly from sexual intercourse. I've never cheated on him.
He claims he must of had it before we got together and not realized it. I know that he must be the lucky type that don't show symptoms but is it really possible he could of had it this long and not given it to me sooner.?
We have a very healthy sexual relationship and have been having UNPROTECTED sex almost every day for the last three years... I guess it just seems to me that he would have given it to me sooner. If he's really had it the whole time we've been together then there would have been several times the disease was "asymptomatic shedding" or whatever the term is and I would have caught it sometime in the last three years. Am I wrong.?.?.?
Although other than this I have no reason to believe he cheated I just can't help but feel thats the only way he gave me herpes... Am I wrong to feel this way.? Should I assume he cheated and end it.?
The doctor that treated me wouldn't flat out tell me he must have cheated but I could tell in her eyes she thinks he did. And she told me to talk to him... He 100% denies it. What do I do.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Don't assume cheating.
I was with my boyfriend SEVEN YEARS before I caught it, and we have never used any protection besides abstaining when he had symptoms (I was always aware he had it). We also had frequent contact.
Yes, the herpes virus does shed asymptomatically from time to time, but how often that happens varies from person to person. In swab tests on long-term volunteers it could be as much as 75% of the time and as little as less than 1% of the time that they were infectious. People who suppress the virus enough not to have outbreaks are likely to be infectious much less of the time - so heading more towards the 1%.
Apart from me, I have come across a lot of people who caught it several years into a relationship from a partner - it didn't mean the partner had cheated.
I am very glad that when I caught herpes 7 years into a steady relationship, my boyfriend was understanding - ok he was aware he had herpes, but he could have just assumed I cheated. Herpes is a sneaky virus and cheating is not the answer for everything.Health Question & Answer
I was with my boyfriend SEVEN YEARS before I caught it, and we have never used any protection besides abstaining when he had symptoms (I was always aware he had it). We also had frequent contact.
Yes, the herpes virus does shed asymptomatically from time to time, but how often that happens varies from person to person. In swab tests on long-term volunteers it could be as much as 75% of the time and as little as less than 1% of the time that they were infectious. People who suppress the virus enough not to have outbreaks are likely to be infectious much less of the time - so heading more towards the 1%.
Apart from me, I have come across a lot of people who caught it several years into a relationship from a partner - it didn't mean the partner had cheated.
I am very glad that when I caught herpes 7 years into a steady relationship, my boyfriend was understanding - ok he was aware he had herpes, but he could have just assumed I cheated. Herpes is a sneaky virus and cheating is not the answer for everything.Health Question & Answer
Virus causing genital herpes can be dormant for years. It's perfectly possible that your boyfriend did not cheat on you!Health Question & Answer
Do either of you ever have cold sores/fever blisters on your mouth.? If you do, this could be the cause if it. If not, I suspect someone is lying...Health Question & Answer
I can tell you that I have herpes, told my boyfriend when we first started dating, for the past two years now we've had unprotected sex and he still has not had an outbreak. Your boyfriend may have cheated but then again he may not have. It is possible that you've just been lucky so far. You may have had a slight cut or low immune system that day who knows.
It depends on if you trust him or not, if not then you should be looking at your relationship before you get married, if you do then at least you now know you both have herpes and can be comfortable and deal with it together.Health Question & Answer
It depends on if you trust him or not, if not then you should be looking at your relationship before you get married, if you do then at least you now know you both have herpes and can be comfortable and deal with it together.Health Question & Answer
Best thing would be to chat with his previous partners if u can..if none of them have it then well.......its a pretty good indication that he got it elsewhere..maybe bluff and tell him the doc told u how it goes with herpes and that its not possible for it to have gone so long without showing up sooner so the jig is up and he should own up or leave. but in all i would be EXTREMELY sus about the whole situation.Health Question & Answer