My mum has cancer - i need advice!?!
Question: My mum has cancer - i need advice!.?
my mum went to the cancer clinic to have her moles checked, they took a biopsy of one and turns our she has cancer, but she told me that she didnt and that the tests came back negative. then one morning i woke up and i was home alone and there was a note saying - gone shopping be back soon. mum and dad came back and she had a bandage over her neck i asked her what it was she said she got a scratch and just put some ointment on it. i didnt believe her so i asked dad and he said that they came back from the clinic after mum had the cancer cut out. we had a massive fight about why she didnt tell me, aor anyone else that she has cancer.. but im very confused about why she didnt tell me.. im 16 i cold handle itHealth Question & Answer
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The more times she has to tell people that she has cancer, the more it just keeps becoming real. At this stage to her it can be coped with by dealing with it in the manner she is. When she starts telling family and friends she has cancer then she is driving home the reality that she may not live to see you get married, or have children, or all the other million things she has taken for granted all these years. There is also the reason that she probably didn't want you to worry about her. Personally, I understand that you should have been told, I wanted that when my father had cancer when I was 18, but please don't make this experience into 'about you'. Your Mom needs support and understanding to get through this, and from what you have said it sounds like she is well on her way to doing just that, so be kind and help her with what ever she needs either emotionally or physically, and just be glad and proud that she loves you enough to try to keep your happiness in mind. Good luck and God bless.Health Question & Answer
she probably didn't want to worry you. and depending on the type of cancer it may have been treatable by simply removing the mole - therefore it wasn't serious. she probably didn't want to bring up the word "cancer" because we often think the worst when we hear that word. sometimes it's treatable.Health Question & Answer
My Mum had cancer and she found it hard to tell us children. SOmetime shock can be so overwhelming that the word cancer is so hard to sound as everyone thinks cancer as a 'death' word. I am sure she was trying to protect you from any upset and maybe she was coming to terms with it herself before letting others know.Health Question & Answer
i agree she should have been honest but being a mum myself i felt so bad when i had to tell my grown up children i had cancer of the throat they were all devastated and i felt so guilty about it.if i could have kept it too myself i would have done but as i spent 7 months in hospital i had no choice but to tell them.it broke my heart seeing them all so upset.Health Question & Answer
It doesn't matter how old you are, i'm 17 and i don't know if I could handle it
However, maybe she was just waiting until the right time to tell you and thinking of the right thing to say.
It's not something you should just blurt out, she was just sparing your feelingsHealth Question & Answer
However, maybe she was just waiting until the right time to tell you and thinking of the right thing to say.
It's not something you should just blurt out, she was just sparing your feelingsHealth Question & Answer
DOnt be upset with her... its not her fault, she doesnt want anyone to get upset... or scared... be there for her. tell her u understand and ur there for herHealth Question & Answer
Your mum was only looking out for you. Your 16, your grown up, but lets be honest its your mum. My mum just had a lump removed from her bowel she wouldn't tell me what all the lump was about but if you think about it, put yourself in their shoes. They're scared. And to be honest I don't blame them, knowing you have cancer is bad enough but having to break it to your children must be harder. Talk to your mum, show her your grown up and you can handle it more. Don't shout or anything because she will think you can't and it's upsetting you. If you talk to her about it and reassure it everything will be ok im sure she'll be proud of you.
Good luck :)Health Question & Answer
Good luck :)Health Question & Answer