Have you ever had to just lose a friend because you wanted to lose weight and she wanted to eat out and much?!
Question: Have you ever had to just lose a friend because you wanted to lose weight and she wanted to eat out and much.?
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If she were a true friend, she'd respect your ambitions and not invite you out to do anything that involves eating. However, if you're just not telling her about it, but just expecting her to catch on because you think she's psychic, then you're the one who's not the friend and probably subconsciously want to get rid of her as a friend, anyway.. for other reasons.
Note to Larry H --- some people are terribly narcissistic and/or insecure. It's possible this friend, if she is truly in the wrong, is acting like Barbara is a "downer" for not eating and trying to give her a guilt-trip. Friends will often become threatened when they see you doing something to improve your life. It means they will be forced to look at themselves, if they are all alone and no longer have the company to help keep themselves in denial. And also, she may be taking it personally... like Barbara is being rude to her by not joining her. (That's narcissism.) That could either stem AGAIN, from insecurity, or just a immature belief that the world should revolve around her and that if she wants to eat, everyone should comply and just EAT.
(I have a narcissistic co-worker that is self-absorbed and bratty sometimes. She takes it personally when I listen to my I-Pod for a couple hours, or when another co-worker of ours decides to do her homework.... she chooses to believe she is being PERSONALLY shunned, when in fact...... I'm simply tired of listening to the radio..... and my co-worker simply wants to get some school work done. She doesn't consider it from our angles - that maybe I just get tired of listening to the same old music, and maybe my co-worker would just prefer to get her work done so she can relax at home later. Nope -- instead, all my bratty co-worker sees is two people not talking to her, or at least not being AVAILABLE to talk to her whenever she wants. It makes no sense, because she always brings a book that she never reads. She never considers that she could actually sit down and read it... while we're doing OUR thing.)Health Question & Answer
Note to Larry H --- some people are terribly narcissistic and/or insecure. It's possible this friend, if she is truly in the wrong, is acting like Barbara is a "downer" for not eating and trying to give her a guilt-trip. Friends will often become threatened when they see you doing something to improve your life. It means they will be forced to look at themselves, if they are all alone and no longer have the company to help keep themselves in denial. And also, she may be taking it personally... like Barbara is being rude to her by not joining her. (That's narcissism.) That could either stem AGAIN, from insecurity, or just a immature belief that the world should revolve around her and that if she wants to eat, everyone should comply and just EAT.
(I have a narcissistic co-worker that is self-absorbed and bratty sometimes. She takes it personally when I listen to my I-Pod for a couple hours, or when another co-worker of ours decides to do her homework.... she chooses to believe she is being PERSONALLY shunned, when in fact...... I'm simply tired of listening to the radio..... and my co-worker simply wants to get some school work done. She doesn't consider it from our angles - that maybe I just get tired of listening to the same old music, and maybe my co-worker would just prefer to get her work done so she can relax at home later. Nope -- instead, all my bratty co-worker sees is two people not talking to her, or at least not being AVAILABLE to talk to her whenever she wants. It makes no sense, because she always brings a book that she never reads. She never considers that she could actually sit down and read it... while we're doing OUR thing.)Health Question & Answer
I've come close to it. You have a good point. As I have discovered, eating is a SOCIAL thing. So if you don't eat when someone else is eating, you are sometimes frowned upon. Well, at least I am. also it is difficult to go in a different direction than everyone else.
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