How Can I Stop My Friend Becoming Anorexic?!


Question: How Can I Stop My Friend Becoming Anorexic.?
- My friend is called Lauren
- She is twelve,,,13 on the 28th November 2008
- That is the day she is going to start starving herself. Let me talk you through it.

Last week I walked past my best mates bathroom ( I was on my way to her bedroom ) and heard her throwing up. I knocked on the door and asked if she was ok. After about half an hour she sat me down on her bed, tears in her eyes and told me she was bulimic and was going to stop throwing up;.

- She also said she was going to start starving herself when she turns thirteen. She said she didnt care wat it took, she was fat. FAT FAT FAT. She pinched at her belly and was so emotionol I found myself in tears!

- She is 5 feet and 6st 6, hardly fat! I told her she is completely healthy weight and she told me to shut up and that she wants to be skinny and apparently is she doesnt eat for a week and then only eats 250 calories a day she can drop 2 STONE!

- Help Me To Help Her, I Am So Scared For Her

PS - i know i have alredy askd this but i only got 3 answers :(Health Question & Answer


Answers:
Tell people to compliment her the next time they see her. Along with that they should mention their concerns in a very melancholy way, telling her she's way too skinny for her own good. After hearing the constructive criticism from different people she will soon realize what she's doing is just hurting herself and everyone associated with her. On top of that, stop by her house with a book you've researched about anorexia and/or bulimia and read it with her. She needs to understand when battling anorexia for a long period of time with little to no help, you can't win. There are other ways for people to look their best and maintain a healthy weight without slowly killing themselves. Lauren needs to gain a good mindset, considering she's still a young girl maturing and on her way to the more difficult teenage years where making smart decisions and a high self-esteem is essential-- It makes you who you are. Good luck and remember, don't worry about society and all the BS it puts people through psychologically. (Like your friend)




Best wishesHealth Question & Answer

Tell a counselor, she needs to talk to someone. also really be there for her. also tell her parents. She might be mad at you but she could DIE. Just be there for her and buy a book that might help her. It's all in her mind she could be a toothpick and still think she's fat. But get her parents in on this too and ask her to go to a counselor or an anorexic/bulimic counseling group. Where girls talk about it. Health Question & Answer

anorexia means she does not eat, bulimia is when you throw up. And she cannot be helped truely without professional help. WHat you can do is tell her you are there for her and be her friend. Tell her parents, or yours and let them, or the counselor at school, but that is something only a pro can help. Its a disease, and it can be beatm, but she will need good help and support from family and friendsHealth Question & Answer

It is hard I have a friend that was considering something like that. You NEED to talk to her and encourage her but don't be pushy. If she gets angry it is normal. She will thank you later. TALK TO HER PARENTS ASAP. You may be scared she will hate you but she can harm her self especially because she is so young. If she needs to, talk to a councilor and get the councilor to talk to your friend. Maybe a doctor too. Just stay with her every step of the wayHealth Question & Answer

Well i think that you should remind her how being anorexic will effect her health. She will be overly skinny and will look gross....ya know like overly skinny. Remind her that not everyone's body shape is perfect and if she has a problem with it talk to someone about it or eat healthier...something like that.....starving your body is never the answerHealth Question & Answer

anorexics tend to be very determined people, who really are focused on not eating. also they hide all their "plans" on their diets.
it's normal that you are worried, but she'll most likely give up, because it's really tough going without eating.
have you thought that maybe she wants attention.? maybe it's just a phase, a cry for help. she might not have a real problem.Health Question & Answer

dang you need to just get a group of your friends to all tell her that she looks just fine the way she is. and if she tells you to shut up, tell her this "no i wont shut up! im telling you this because i love you and care about you, and i dont want anything bad to happen to you! you dont need to starve yourself, because your NOT FAT! you look fine the way you are!"

hope i can help =]Health Question & Answer

Did you hear about the twenty-two year old woman in 1992 on the Oprah Whinfrey show.? She weighed twenty-four pounds, and she started starving herself at thirteen, only eat 400 calories a day. I'm sure if you look on youtube you'll find it. Very discusting woman who died a year later =//Health Question & Answer

anorexia's world:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/articl...

tell her that there is no such thing as a happy eating disordered person. its a fantasy in her mind created by a mental illness of being obsessed with food and weight loss. Health Question & Answer

i know this answers is stupid and you might not want to hear it but

TELL ON HER to everybody and anybody that will listen its the only way there will be enough people watching her to make shure she cant stop eating

good luck xxxxHealth Question & Answer

Tell her every time she misses a meal you will eat 2 meals. And if you get fat then it is on her conscious and you will never forgive her.
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Tell her that anorexic chicks are fugly.
Then stick some meat in her "250" calories.Health Question & Answer

giver her a cheeseburger.Health Question & Answer

talk to her about it. tell her parents if that doesnt work either way let them knowHealth Question & Answer

I had a friend doing the same thing...then she turned to drugs...then went rehab @ valle vista and it helped her. So sit with her, have a box of kleenex ready, and talk. Cut out pictures of celebrities out of magazines that are bigger than her, and pictures of celebrities that are to skinny that have comments about their weight that are rude. Ask her who she would rather be. The "fat" happy, healthy girl, or the anorexic girl that nobody likes. Explain to her that you don't care what she looks like, and whoever does is only more insecure about themselves and want to take it out on others!!! She needs a friend more than an adult who doesn't mentally understand her as well. Just be a good friend and slowly help her through this. If you try to make her stop immediately than she will only feel like she's under more pressure than she already is about the subject. Let her know that as much as she tries you won't let go of the subject, even if she begs and pleads with you, let her know that this "Anorexia Devil" will not win against you, and her. She's only thirteen, I'm fifteen and I'm going to an alternative school. So is my friend that went anorexic, she doesn't want this to end up with drugs, sex, and no self-respect. I know I've done wrong but I learned from it, and tell her she can learn to, but not this way. Being healthy does not have to do with only your weight.

BEING HEALTHY AND HAPPY IS WHEN:

1. YOU RESPECT YOURSELF

2. YOU LOVE AND CHERISH YOUR BODY...no matter what your size

3. YOU SORT OUT YOUR FEELINGS IN A HEALTHY WAY...write in a journal, sing, do a silly dance...whatever you enjoy

4. YOU HAVE SELF-RESPECT

5. YOU HAVE DIGNITY

6. YOU HAVE TRUST IN YOURSELFHealth Question & Answer

Honey,

No one can make another person think better of themselves until they can see it in their own mirror. You can talk to your friend and tell her you love her just as she is and try to get her other close friends to join you in encouraging Lauren about liking herself just the way she is.

At 13 she still has a lot of maturing to do and she will most naturally slim down as she gets older.

Just tell her you love her as she is.

Your friend and once upon a time a healthy, slightly bigger than I wanted to be, 13 year old too
Dee

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Your friend needs some real professional help and not some off the wall answers we could give.

However, if it will help point your friend to this article (link below) on the proper teen calorie intake. She needs to get the right nutrients for her growing years. If she does not she runs the risk of many complications to her health.

If she really feels she needs to lose weight tell her she can do it the right way, it just may take longer than she was hoping for. But she is young and has her whole life so having it yesterday isn't necessary.Health Question & Answer

oh man! you gotta take some action. if she doesn't stop she will seriously DIE! i'm not even joking. you need to tell her parents. secretly vidoetape her first and show it to them, if they don't believe you. your friend my think you are a traitor, but in the long run you are saving her life and saving her life is worth much more than keeping a secret like that.

you should find out why she feels that way, besides the fact that she think she is fat. like what possibly started this. you have to help her an be there. that will show that you are a true friend!

good luck. i'll be praying for you and your friend!Health Question & Answer



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