Because of my neurological & mental disability, how do I get people off my back from FORCEFULLY controlling me?!
Question: Because of my neurological & mental disability, how do I get people off my back from FORCEFULLY controlling me.?
I'm 25 with a college degree. BA in Spanish. I'm independent & have my own place. I can take care of myself.
People think I'm too stupid to know left from right, & they won't allow me to make my own decisions, yet, they say I use my disability as an excuse, which is contradictory.
I have OCD, Tourette's, anxiety, & depression. ALL severe. When I say I can't control my unwanted thoughts or facial tics, they say I'm using it as an excuse. But it's OK for them to label me as "crazy" or "retarded". & they try to PHYSICALLY stop me from doing what makes ME happy. Even something simple as the choice of water to buy when shopping with a so-called "friend". They would want me to buy the generic brand, & I say, "No thanks, I'd rather buy spring water (ex: Ozarka or maybe Fiji or purified Nestle or Dasani water). & they're SO controlling that if I try to grab a case of Dasani waters, for example, they try to PHYSICALLY twist my arms or break my hands, & then, they flip it on me, saying that " I " was the 1 out of control, & the cops base that on my mental disability & want to arrest ME & not the so-called friend, or even a family member. My family would do this to me, too.
I don't know why people always feel the need to monitor me CLOSELY. If I go shopping @ WalMart by public bus transportation @ 3 PM, people would jump down my throat about it, & they don't care if I have to pick up my prescriptions. They try to say, "You should always let somebody know where you are @ all times!"
But I live alone. & people bully me & jerk my grocery bags out of my hand & yell @ me over 1 simple candy bar. Family, neighbors, enemies, acquaintainces, my friend's coworkers, anybody. Why do they do this to me.? & I feel defenseless because it's more than 1 person ganging up on me. & I'm usually afraid to call the cops because of fear of me being the only 1 arrested, & everyone saying "I'm" disturbing the peace. All I would try to do is verbally defend myself.
People won't let me have my freedom. They won't let me live my life, & they're always hounding over me. But those SAME people tell me TO MY FACE that they don't give any care about me, & how I'm going to end up dead & deserve it.
This may sound unusual, but I'm being honest & realistic here. 25 & STILL get bullied, like as if it's a neighborhood K-12 school or something. Even 10-yr. olds try to boss me around & bully me, & their parents try to MAKE me obey their child.
Social workers, psych nurses, & other mental health professionals are no help either. All they do is find out you ate pretzels for a snack (for example), & they make threats to have you in the mental hospital for 3 weeks under observation. Because pretzels contain carbohydrates, my case manager went off on me & got on my case about "junk food", when she's twice as fat as me. I'm using pretzels as an example.
All these people, past & present, hurt me physically, mentally, & emotionally, & they tell me not to "dwell" on the negative or the past. With my OCD, I can't control my thoughts. & with OCD AND anxiety, it's quite natural that I'd worry a lot. People expect me to just "let it go". In my case, it's not that easy. I fear that my future will be in jail or prison over something STUPID, or a misunderstanding.
I stay home all day, almost every day, except for when I have appointments (counseling, case manager, or Dr.) & paying bills, shopping, or running errands.
I feel afraid to leave my apartment. I feel like every time I walk out the door, there's risk for trouble. I get SSI & Soc. Security survivor's benefits, & I want a job SO badly, but employers see my uncontrollable anxiety & nervousness & think I'm not capable of handling the job.
I get SO depressed that I feel immobile & can't get out of bed. My counselor told me to take "baby steps" if daily tasks become overwhelming. Depressed because I feel like I don't have a future.Health Question & Answer
People think I'm too stupid to know left from right, & they won't allow me to make my own decisions, yet, they say I use my disability as an excuse, which is contradictory.
I have OCD, Tourette's, anxiety, & depression. ALL severe. When I say I can't control my unwanted thoughts or facial tics, they say I'm using it as an excuse. But it's OK for them to label me as "crazy" or "retarded". & they try to PHYSICALLY stop me from doing what makes ME happy. Even something simple as the choice of water to buy when shopping with a so-called "friend". They would want me to buy the generic brand, & I say, "No thanks, I'd rather buy spring water (ex: Ozarka or maybe Fiji or purified Nestle or Dasani water). & they're SO controlling that if I try to grab a case of Dasani waters, for example, they try to PHYSICALLY twist my arms or break my hands, & then, they flip it on me, saying that " I " was the 1 out of control, & the cops base that on my mental disability & want to arrest ME & not the so-called friend, or even a family member. My family would do this to me, too.
I don't know why people always feel the need to monitor me CLOSELY. If I go shopping @ WalMart by public bus transportation @ 3 PM, people would jump down my throat about it, & they don't care if I have to pick up my prescriptions. They try to say, "You should always let somebody know where you are @ all times!"
But I live alone. & people bully me & jerk my grocery bags out of my hand & yell @ me over 1 simple candy bar. Family, neighbors, enemies, acquaintainces, my friend's coworkers, anybody. Why do they do this to me.? & I feel defenseless because it's more than 1 person ganging up on me. & I'm usually afraid to call the cops because of fear of me being the only 1 arrested, & everyone saying "I'm" disturbing the peace. All I would try to do is verbally defend myself.
People won't let me have my freedom. They won't let me live my life, & they're always hounding over me. But those SAME people tell me TO MY FACE that they don't give any care about me, & how I'm going to end up dead & deserve it.
This may sound unusual, but I'm being honest & realistic here. 25 & STILL get bullied, like as if it's a neighborhood K-12 school or something. Even 10-yr. olds try to boss me around & bully me, & their parents try to MAKE me obey their child.
Social workers, psych nurses, & other mental health professionals are no help either. All they do is find out you ate pretzels for a snack (for example), & they make threats to have you in the mental hospital for 3 weeks under observation. Because pretzels contain carbohydrates, my case manager went off on me & got on my case about "junk food", when she's twice as fat as me. I'm using pretzels as an example.
All these people, past & present, hurt me physically, mentally, & emotionally, & they tell me not to "dwell" on the negative or the past. With my OCD, I can't control my thoughts. & with OCD AND anxiety, it's quite natural that I'd worry a lot. People expect me to just "let it go". In my case, it's not that easy. I fear that my future will be in jail or prison over something STUPID, or a misunderstanding.
I stay home all day, almost every day, except for when I have appointments (counseling, case manager, or Dr.) & paying bills, shopping, or running errands.
I feel afraid to leave my apartment. I feel like every time I walk out the door, there's risk for trouble. I get SSI & Soc. Security survivor's benefits, & I want a job SO badly, but employers see my uncontrollable anxiety & nervousness & think I'm not capable of handling the job.
I get SO depressed that I feel immobile & can't get out of bed. My counselor told me to take "baby steps" if daily tasks become overwhelming. Depressed because I feel like I don't have a future.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Wow.
It sounds like you're in a difficult situation. First of all, you have EVERY right to pick your own water, and your 'friend' should respect your decision. Its water, for crying out loud.
It sounds like you do a very good job proving that you are an independant person and that people don't take you as seriously as you deserve. I, personally, can relate. I have been diagnosed with several problems and feel like I am constantly trying to prove to people that I am not what they think I am.
It sounds like your counselor is right in saying that it takes "baby steps." Does your family help very much or are they even in the picture.? I know that my family is one of the main reasons that I am still here today. I find their unconditional love reassuring. I have been stomped on by so many 'friends' in the past that I don't really open up to people anymore.
I don't have much advice to give you, and I'm sorry for that. I am able to tell you that you aren't alone. I know I cannot fully understand your situation and what you're going through, but I definately sympathize with you. Don't give up hope.Health Question & Answer
It sounds like you're in a difficult situation. First of all, you have EVERY right to pick your own water, and your 'friend' should respect your decision. Its water, for crying out loud.
It sounds like you do a very good job proving that you are an independant person and that people don't take you as seriously as you deserve. I, personally, can relate. I have been diagnosed with several problems and feel like I am constantly trying to prove to people that I am not what they think I am.
It sounds like your counselor is right in saying that it takes "baby steps." Does your family help very much or are they even in the picture.? I know that my family is one of the main reasons that I am still here today. I find their unconditional love reassuring. I have been stomped on by so many 'friends' in the past that I don't really open up to people anymore.
I don't have much advice to give you, and I'm sorry for that. I am able to tell you that you aren't alone. I know I cannot fully understand your situation and what you're going through, but I definately sympathize with you. Don't give up hope.Health Question & Answer
Having any of these "conditions" could be overwhelming . You definitely have a lot on your plate! I don't have any specific answers but will offer a few suggestions.
1. Realize that no one is truly independent. We are interdependent beings. There's nothing wrong with needing others. Perhaps some people are a little overzealous in trying to be helpful or maybe they see something that you can't.
2. If you are being treated for depression, try talking with your psychiatrist and work towards a better dose or different medication. If you're not already going, find a Mental Health support group meeting to attend and/or a support group with a chat room on the web.
3. With all of your anxieties, you may not be able to work outside of the home. Is there a job you could be doing from home.? Perhaps you could find something that was done over the web. What about being a language interpreter.? Be creative. You may have to open your own "business."
4. If you are on SSI and have a case manager, they can help you with this. You have to find someone whom you trust to give you truthful answers and suggestions, while allowing you to live your own life. Not a lot of people understand Tourette Disorder. See if there is literature available to hand out to others. Try starting at this web site; http://www.tourettes-disorder.com/
We're pulling for you. Hang in there, take the "baby steps" and make the best out of each day. Things will get better!Health Question & Answer
1. Realize that no one is truly independent. We are interdependent beings. There's nothing wrong with needing others. Perhaps some people are a little overzealous in trying to be helpful or maybe they see something that you can't.
2. If you are being treated for depression, try talking with your psychiatrist and work towards a better dose or different medication. If you're not already going, find a Mental Health support group meeting to attend and/or a support group with a chat room on the web.
3. With all of your anxieties, you may not be able to work outside of the home. Is there a job you could be doing from home.? Perhaps you could find something that was done over the web. What about being a language interpreter.? Be creative. You may have to open your own "business."
4. If you are on SSI and have a case manager, they can help you with this. You have to find someone whom you trust to give you truthful answers and suggestions, while allowing you to live your own life. Not a lot of people understand Tourette Disorder. See if there is literature available to hand out to others. Try starting at this web site; http://www.tourettes-disorder.com/
We're pulling for you. Hang in there, take the "baby steps" and make the best out of each day. Things will get better!Health Question & Answer