How do i get over the fear that im horrible in bed?!


Question: How do i get over the fear that im horrible in bed.?
so i had a bad experience with a guy. it was a one night stand, and went terribly wrong!! the sex i had before was awesome. i was carefree and just went with the flow, but now when i have sex im SO self conscious, and cant let go, and feel so uptight and its not even fun.
i dont believe its the person, its mainly me and my attitude towards it
my bf now is however A sexual meaning his sex drive isnt like most guys, and mine is high! so theres definitely an imbalance. he does initiate the sex but sometimes i feel its cuz hes obligated to. not because its bad, but to make me happy when hes perfectly fine with just cuddling and being around me. dont get me wrong, i am too, but i also need some more..
it also takes him a really long time to ***. he has a condition and is gonna get on meds soon for it, but it takes so long, and during after 20 minutes i just wanna stop and give myself a break.
but he wants to keep going once hes started cuz he wants to get his too.
i just dont know what to do, because i love him and he loves me, i just need some help with this sex thing.Health Question & Answer


Answers:
Do you feel a one night stand with someone who didn't love you, defines you as being how you are in bed.? WOW ! what a weird idea you have.
When you love someone, as you say you do your boyfriend, you talk things through. You ask each other how you can improve things or change what you do to help each other get the best out of love making.
I would be patient and kind to him and understand his needs and hope that his new medication will help him.
Perhaps a lot more foreplay for him is necessary and a vibrator for you may help. Sex should be about loving a person so what happened on your one night stand is meaningless, so stop stressing about it and get on with loving your boyfriendHealth Question & Answer

What type of condition, and what type of meds is he considering.? Please, before he gets on them, fully research the ingredients of those meds and their long-term effects!! The problem could be caused by his diet. Does he eat a lot of salt.? If so, make him stop immediately and only use sea salt from now on.Health Question & Answer

Stop judging yourself and have fun. The only time sex is good is when you are having fun with it. The big difference between your sex drives could cause a big problem. Why not try getting some therapy together to work on it.Health Question & Answer

You have a bf who can last 20 minutes.?.?.? Hold on to him missy! What's wrong with you.?

He just needs some more stimulation... like a THREESOME so bring your best friend in the bed and he will be an animal!Health Question & Answer

What is left.?Health Question & Answer



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