How do I stop worrying about someone?!
Question: How do I stop worrying about someone.?
I know this isn't anything big, but I am really REALLY close to my best friend, we are inseparable (everyone calls us twins, even our own parents), but every time she does anything even a little bit like she doesn't like me as much I go crazy! One example is if I'm talking to her over msn and she doesn't answer for a while, I know she's probably just doing something else, but I can't help but worry that she's either angry with me or doesn't like me any more. I try to keep it to myself, but I constantly worry.
I also do this with anyone else I really like, and it's stupid, but I can't help it! I've ended up in tears over this before and I want to know some ways to not work myself up so much. I would be grateful for any help.Health Question & Answer
I also do this with anyone else I really like, and it's stupid, but I can't help it! I've ended up in tears over this before and I want to know some ways to not work myself up so much. I would be grateful for any help.Health Question & Answer
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its possible you have a low confidence in your self or perhaps you have a really strong fear of rejection, which is also a symptom of borderline personality disorder, however i wouldnt diagnose you with this unless you had other symptoms also.
I guess the only thing you can do is either talk to your friend about your worries and ask her to help, talk to a counsellor, your parents or else start writting down the negitive things you feel like "my friend hasnt phoned me, she must have fallen out with me" and then challenge it with the more rational thought of " she is probably busy, or may have forgotten, it doesnt mean anything significant"...do this often enough and you should start to be able to do these exercises in your head immediately but it takes time and practice and at first you may not believe in it. Its a form of Cognitive behavourial therapy actually so it maybe worth a go.
best wishes
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its possible you have a low confidence in your self or perhaps you have a really strong fear of rejection, which is also a symptom of borderline personality disorder, however i wouldnt diagnose you with this unless you had other symptoms also.
I guess the only thing you can do is either talk to your friend about your worries and ask her to help, talk to a counsellor, your parents or else start writting down the negitive things you feel like "my friend hasnt phoned me, she must have fallen out with me" and then challenge it with the more rational thought of " she is probably busy, or may have forgotten, it doesnt mean anything significant"...do this often enough and you should start to be able to do these exercises in your head immediately but it takes time and practice and at first you may not believe in it. Its a form of Cognitive behavourial therapy actually so it maybe worth a go.
best wishes
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babe your so insecure.
i know you cant help it.
i have a friend like this whos parinoid at everything.
what you could do is talk to your friend and she will tell you that your being silly and she will understand and help you get through it.
When talking to the people you really like, it will help.
you could have postmortal stress. A way to resolve this is too talk to people. it may work.
Im sure by talking to your bestfriend, it will eventually make you realise that you have no need to worry.
good luck :)
hope this helps.
get talking!
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i know you cant help it.
i have a friend like this whos parinoid at everything.
what you could do is talk to your friend and she will tell you that your being silly and she will understand and help you get through it.
When talking to the people you really like, it will help.
you could have postmortal stress. A way to resolve this is too talk to people. it may work.
Im sure by talking to your bestfriend, it will eventually make you realise that you have no need to worry.
good luck :)
hope this helps.
get talking!
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You love your friend, and she wouldn't want you to be held prisoner by that.You must be logical and go against emotion. Be strong .And tell yourself the truth-you will be helping your friend by not worrying about what she thinks so much.Health Question & Answer
You are describing a lack of confidence. Value yourself because you are every bit as good as your friends.Health Question & Answer
That doesn't mean a thing. She's probably just busy. Just be confident and be happy :)Health Question & Answer
Pray.Health Question & Answer
Aw sweetie, you poor thing. You obviously give so much of yourself to your friendship you don't give yourself time. You need to learn to love yourself and love your own company even just for short periods of time. Your friend will always be your friend and you have to try and stop thinking these awful thoughts that she is ignoring you etc. If you were my friend I would like to think you could talk to me about how your feeling and I would put your mind at rest, hopefully you can talk to your friend and she will do the same. Good luck sweetheart you sound a lovely friend to have xHealth Question & Answer