Is it wrong for my dad to point my weight out this way?!


Question: Is it wrong for my dad to point my weight out this way.?
my dad said to me in the kitchen, "Ashley! You look so pretty! See, if you can be this pretty when overweight, you would look HOT if you lost a few pounds."
Then I said, "Yeahh...yeah, haha" (I was trying to not give a damn)
and as I started walking away, he said, "It would almost be a way of getting back at at the guys!" (I don't date, and this bothers me)
So I walk back and say, "Oh yeah! If I get thin, I'll soooooo show those boys!!!!!.......?.?.?" (I was being sarcastic)
And my dad is like, "No, really! Your Uncle the other day was saying how if she looks this good now, imagine if she worked out and got really toned! she would really get back at those guys."

So then my mom attacks my dad and says, "Oh c'mon! don't tell her that! you really think she wants to hear that.?!"
Then, my dad got defensive and said,"What.?!.?! I wouldn't take that badly if someone said i Iooked good now, but would look even better if I was thinner!!! what's with you girls!"

And as they argued, I just walked away to my bedroom.


so apparently everyone thinks im FAT. I know I gained some weight, and I know I have a difficult dieting, and I know I eat my feelings, but can't people just let me be and stop talking about my freaking looks.?Health Question & Answer


Answers:
yeah thats wrong. that actually kind of hurt my feelings.

one day you are going to find a guy who loves you no matter what you look like.

i didnt date a lot in high school either, i mean a few random dates not a real boyfriend, i didnt want one.

talk to your mom about it. and just ignore him if says anything. dads dont always know how to deal with daughters (trust me lol)

and your not fat!Health Question & Answer

Your dad is wrong - there are guys for every girl, some like stick thin, others like chubby girls. Don't listen to him.
Don't worry about your weight - love yourself and be proud of yourself and your attractiveness just how you are - that is much more likely to attract the guys.Health Question & Answer

Difficult to say, maybe he was trying to be nice but it came out wrong - I dunno. If you want to loose a few lbs eat portions that are a third less than you eat now. Good luck!!Health Question & Answer

Thats just plain rude.

If you think you are fat then you should do something to make yourself thinner (In a healthy Way) but don't beileve everything someone says.

Some people just need a so called good laugh.Health Question & Answer

Yes, your dad was totally out of line. I hope your mom sets him straight.Health Question & Answer

Dating before ready to provide for ones-self & a family is just asking for more frustration! Especially if things get outof control. Maybe if you were to share some of the points in the following articles with your Dad, he would stop & think before makinf 'suggestions':

Giving Children the Attention They Need
> Training Without Irritating
see 4th paragraph
http://watchtower.org/e/20050208a/articl...

Teen Pregnancy---A Global Tragedy
http://watchtower.org/e/20041008/article...

What Has Happened to Love.? :
- The desire to be loved
> Why True Love Is Hard to Find
- How You Can Find True Love http://watchtower.org/e/200603/article_0...

Getting involved with the opposite sex while trying to concentrate on one's education & life goals is usually a huge distraction, so you are really better off waiting. Off course, that doesn't mean you can't have friends! Even if the friends you have don't spend most of their time dating, you might want to make some new friends who opt not to date. Just be careful who you choose for close friends. . .

Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Take Practical Steps Toward Friendship
- Open Your Heart!
- To Have a Friend, Be a Friend
- Show Respect for Others
- Do Not Demand Perfection
- Loyal Friends Through Thick and Thin
- [Can Men and Women Be

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