I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!.. Please answer!?!
Question: I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!.. Please answer!.?
I have a large family. I was raised to work for what ever I have. I've been employed for the last 7 years. I had my first job when I was 13 washing dishes, I bought my own school clothes. My own car. My own house.
My parents used to be rather strict. They kicked me out when learning that I was pregnant @ the age of 16.
But my other 3 siblings, get the silver spoon treatment, they have lap tops, cell phones, new cars, and luxuries, without ever working for one bitt of it! My parents say that I had to learn tough love..
But these kids are under 18 & aren't even in school!.. They don't deserve what they get. Especially my brother who was bought out when he raped some girl..
This is favortism.. isnt it.? And what should I do.. Ive had enough!!Health Question & Answer
My parents used to be rather strict. They kicked me out when learning that I was pregnant @ the age of 16.
But my other 3 siblings, get the silver spoon treatment, they have lap tops, cell phones, new cars, and luxuries, without ever working for one bitt of it! My parents say that I had to learn tough love..
But these kids are under 18 & aren't even in school!.. They don't deserve what they get. Especially my brother who was bought out when he raped some girl..
This is favortism.. isnt it.? And what should I do.. Ive had enough!!Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Yes, that is favoritism. However, you should find comfort in the fact that you're actually prepared for how tough life can be, and your siblings are not. When they are faced with a tough situation, they won't be able to handle it, and you will.
You should try sitting down with your parents and talking about how you feel. From my experience, it is easier to do this in neutral territory. You can invite them to dinner or lunch and talk about what's bothering you. It's easier to do this outside of the house, .like in a restaurant or something. That way, no one will get too heated.
If that doesn't work, you could ask your parents to meet you for a family therapy session. I know it sounds crappy, but if you find a good therapist they can really help you communicate with your family about how you feel. I don't think you'll be able to change how they treat your siblings, but hopefully you'll be able to mend your relationship.
Hope that helps :)Health Question & Answer
You should try sitting down with your parents and talking about how you feel. From my experience, it is easier to do this in neutral territory. You can invite them to dinner or lunch and talk about what's bothering you. It's easier to do this outside of the house, .like in a restaurant or something. That way, no one will get too heated.
If that doesn't work, you could ask your parents to meet you for a family therapy session. I know it sounds crappy, but if you find a good therapist they can really help you communicate with your family about how you feel. I don't think you'll be able to change how they treat your siblings, but hopefully you'll be able to mend your relationship.
Hope that helps :)Health Question & Answer
Its not favortism with what you said. They decided to go tougher on you for some reason but i dont think by this .? that they prefer your siblings more. I dont know why parents would do this. But think about it you obviously have better life judgements then your siblings. You were taught to work for things when yiour siblings move out they are oging to hit the bottom. i think you have it better if you put it togetheer. I would really just move out and get my own place and forget about themHealth Question & Answer
You should do nothing.
People who have many children get less and less strict the more kids they have. So by the time the last kids come along they are so spoiled rotten they are impossible to live with.
Worse part is they are doing them an injustice because they will lack the skills you received and will have difficulties you did not have.
The rape incident. They better get their check books ready because he did not learn anything by them bailing him out.Health Question & Answer
People who have many children get less and less strict the more kids they have. So by the time the last kids come along they are so spoiled rotten they are impossible to live with.
Worse part is they are doing them an injustice because they will lack the skills you received and will have difficulties you did not have.
The rape incident. They better get their check books ready because he did not learn anything by them bailing him out.Health Question & Answer
im sorry! i really don't know... i think that you should just tell your parents that you don't want to be treated like a mop or broom. you want to be treated like a REAL person and that is the fairness of it* right.?
please answer my question....Health Question & Answer
please answer my question....Health Question & Answer
You shouldn't do anything. What is, is. What was, was. It seems you are making yourself unhappy by comparing what little you got with what they have. You will never be able to make up for the stuff that you missedout on when you were at home.
You have the satisfaction of knowing that you went out and EARNED whatever you have. You have the advantage of knowing the value of things, and so have a certain wisdom that they haven't learned, and it may be they never will.
You are probably the strongest of the lot. If your parents favor the others then you should give yourself permission to favor yourself; you don't owe anyone anything. Try to overcome any bitterness that you might hold. You will only make yourself miserable, and that will be your own fault. Putting all that deprivation behind you, and look only to the here and now. The past is gone, the future isn't here yet. There is only now, and you've worked hard to get here.
I had the same kind of thing when I was younger, I was kicked out at 16, and my parents favored my sisters. I learned to live without them for ten years. They feel hurt when I make decisions about where I will spend Christmas or holidays; I make sure the decisions are mine, without regard for what they want. It was THEY that made the decision to exclude me and now they have to live with that decision; they're out of the loop, and have to relate to me on MY terms.
I have lost most of the bitterness, and it was when I could move on that I found some happiness within myself.Health Question & Answer
You have the satisfaction of knowing that you went out and EARNED whatever you have. You have the advantage of knowing the value of things, and so have a certain wisdom that they haven't learned, and it may be they never will.
You are probably the strongest of the lot. If your parents favor the others then you should give yourself permission to favor yourself; you don't owe anyone anything. Try to overcome any bitterness that you might hold. You will only make yourself miserable, and that will be your own fault. Putting all that deprivation behind you, and look only to the here and now. The past is gone, the future isn't here yet. There is only now, and you've worked hard to get here.
I had the same kind of thing when I was younger, I was kicked out at 16, and my parents favored my sisters. I learned to live without them for ten years. They feel hurt when I make decisions about where I will spend Christmas or holidays; I make sure the decisions are mine, without regard for what they want. It was THEY that made the decision to exclude me and now they have to live with that decision; they're out of the loop, and have to relate to me on MY terms.
I have lost most of the bitterness, and it was when I could move on that I found some happiness within myself.Health Question & Answer
Tell your family exactly how you feel whether in mail or in person. You will not get the response you hope for. But you'll say what you have to say then move on. Just because they are our families does not mean we have to love them or they love us.
I came for a family much like yours and I am sure it made me a stronger more self sufficient person. Focus on what you are not what your family is they will not change and they will not treat you with their silver spoon NOR do you need it. You will be fine on you own God Bless ReggieHealth Question & Answer
I came for a family much like yours and I am sure it made me a stronger more self sufficient person. Focus on what you are not what your family is they will not change and they will not treat you with their silver spoon NOR do you need it. You will be fine on you own God Bless ReggieHealth Question & Answer
you are going to have to forgive and forget! Like really there is nothing that they can do now to make up for all that you had to do when you were growing up. I am sure that at times it sucked, but that has made you a much stronger person today. You know the value of something and how much more it means to you when you have worked for it and paid for it for you know what I mean.
Forgive them and forget about so that you can move on. You can either choose to accept if for what it is or move on. They can't repay you back, and even if they did that is not what you are looking for. What you are looking for they aren't going to say so move so you can move onHealth Question & Answer
Forgive them and forget about so that you can move on. You can either choose to accept if for what it is or move on. They can't repay you back, and even if they did that is not what you are looking for. What you are looking for they aren't going to say so move so you can move onHealth Question & Answer