My dad's trying to erase me it seems, step mom abused me, long but please help me.?!
Question: My dad's trying to erase me it seems, step mom abused me, long but please help me..?
When he met my step mom it was all good. we got along with her and everything. Few years after they marry, i started having a rough time. She started Picking on me as odd as it seems.
When i was 16 i was trying to go to my mothers house few blocks away and she grabbed my shoulders and would shove me into the walls screaming in my face, threw my phone against the wall and was literally chasing me just to throw me into the wall. What hurt the most though is my dad, whom i trusted with all my heart, stood by and just watched not saying a word.
I've had known mental health issues since age 4, and although my counselors repeatedly told her to stop tryin to act like a "hero" when im upset, she would force me upon a chair and yell and scream to talk and to just tell her already and wouldnt let me leave the room.
So its only natural that when i turned 18 i moved to my moms. i couldnt take her crap anymore, and couldnt take my dad not defending his own children. So she told him they are moving. So he told us, and although i tried to tell him to stay and not leave with her he left us anyways.
He just sent a package in the mail full of my baby pictures, awards from school, and marriage certificate from my mom and him. He sayd "i thought u might like this" but its just her trying to erase us.
Im sorry it is so long. im just very upset. it hurts sso much.Health Question & Answer
When i was 16 i was trying to go to my mothers house few blocks away and she grabbed my shoulders and would shove me into the walls screaming in my face, threw my phone against the wall and was literally chasing me just to throw me into the wall. What hurt the most though is my dad, whom i trusted with all my heart, stood by and just watched not saying a word.
I've had known mental health issues since age 4, and although my counselors repeatedly told her to stop tryin to act like a "hero" when im upset, she would force me upon a chair and yell and scream to talk and to just tell her already and wouldnt let me leave the room.
So its only natural that when i turned 18 i moved to my moms. i couldnt take her crap anymore, and couldnt take my dad not defending his own children. So she told him they are moving. So he told us, and although i tried to tell him to stay and not leave with her he left us anyways.
He just sent a package in the mail full of my baby pictures, awards from school, and marriage certificate from my mom and him. He sayd "i thought u might like this" but its just her trying to erase us.
Im sorry it is so long. im just very upset. it hurts sso much.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
speaking from experience, just practice whole hearted forgiveness towards your dad. Me and my parents never had a good relationship.They blamed me for everything and unlike you, i don't even know they even loved me. For a long time i was hurt, tried not to talk to them and moved to another country. All this didn't solve the issues. Harboring hurt feelings just made my mental issues worse and cause mental disorders. The only time i felt better was when i forgave, NOT OUT LOUD, JUST TO MYSELF. Good luck and remenber, forgiveness is very liberating!!Health Question & Answer
Just keep in mind that Love is the issue here. You love your dad and he loves you. But if he cannot be more in control of the issues with your stepmom, he needs to man up and take control of the situation. Tell him your needs. I am a dad and I listen to my kids needs. Tell him you want to talk to him alone and just let go. tell him all that bothers you. I have 2 boys . They are both grown up. Me and their Mom are divorced too. but they don't have a stepmom. I never got remarried. And never will. Not because I can't. But because I don't want to. If your Dad truely loves you, he will listen and make some changes. Take control of your stepmom for one. remember you are not to blame for any of it.Health Question & Answer
Sounds like you've had a rough time, i hope your ok x
Ermm well i would definitely suggest getting hold of your dad when you know your step mum isn't around and talk about how you feel to him, if he really loves you he'll listen to you and try to help the situation
However if he doesn't then i am sorry but i think your step mum has changed him. Which is real sad. How did he get involved with her in the first place.?
Really sorry :(
Hope your ok xxx
Alicia xxxxxHealth Question & Answer
Ermm well i would definitely suggest getting hold of your dad when you know your step mum isn't around and talk about how you feel to him, if he really loves you he'll listen to you and try to help the situation
However if he doesn't then i am sorry but i think your step mum has changed him. Which is real sad. How did he get involved with her in the first place.?
Really sorry :(
Hope your ok xxx
Alicia xxxxxHealth Question & Answer
That has got to be rough...
My experience of having parents cheat on one another is enough for me and meeting new people throughout my life. I just have always been the one who was confused with life, love, relationships and sex. My ex girlfriend was so nuts that I had to get a restraining order against her and she just wouldnt let me be. It was hard to do, but it was truley best for the both of us. She told me if I ever left her she would kill herself with lithium and trileptal and ativan. I was so upset and depressed. I even wanted to kill myself when I was with her. I started shaking whenever I met new people. I then developed a social phobia. It was so difficult for me and still is.
Best of Luck my friendHealth Question & Answer
My experience of having parents cheat on one another is enough for me and meeting new people throughout my life. I just have always been the one who was confused with life, love, relationships and sex. My ex girlfriend was so nuts that I had to get a restraining order against her and she just wouldnt let me be. It was hard to do, but it was truley best for the both of us. She told me if I ever left her she would kill herself with lithium and trileptal and ativan. I was so upset and depressed. I even wanted to kill myself when I was with her. I started shaking whenever I met new people. I then developed a social phobia. It was so difficult for me and still is.
Best of Luck my friendHealth Question & Answer
a dad like that is not worth it, parents should always be there for your kids, love your mom and try not to think about your dad, one day he is going to want you in his life, it might be too late but you will see how life goes around and comes aroundHealth Question & Answer