I have something on my mind...it won't go away...question inside...?!
Question: I have something on my mind...it won't go away...question inside....?
I've been really distant with my cousins and it's on my mind. I had a dream we had Christmas here (or some holiday, it was hard to tell). My uncle who I had a bad past with was there. I pretty much didn't want to be there, and I hid in the basement. I was pacing and bumped into a person. Whoever it was, was supposably my boyfriend. He kissed me and made me feel very safe. I think he even said, go have fun and you will be fine. When I woke up, I almost felt like it was real. Then snapped into reality.
Anyway, it was on my mind all day. I've never had a bf. I never had close friends. I've never really felt that safe feeling. I keep thinking my life will always stay the same. People will come into my life, then get annoyed with me and leave. I haven't been out in a while. Just work and shopping. I keep thinking I could find the one who does actually love me. One who can stand me, even when I'm a pain, or tired or anything. It seems like my own family doesn't even like me when I'm not perfect. Will I always be alone.? Do people actually fall in love.? Do people really care about you, even when you are at your worst.?Health Question & Answer
Anyway, it was on my mind all day. I've never had a bf. I never had close friends. I've never really felt that safe feeling. I keep thinking my life will always stay the same. People will come into my life, then get annoyed with me and leave. I haven't been out in a while. Just work and shopping. I keep thinking I could find the one who does actually love me. One who can stand me, even when I'm a pain, or tired or anything. It seems like my own family doesn't even like me when I'm not perfect. Will I always be alone.? Do people actually fall in love.? Do people really care about you, even when you are at your worst.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Forgive me if this goes too long, but I have to answer this. You're dream starting with your family that you have been distant with might be a sign of you really needing someone to be there for you, even if they are from a bad past or not. The boyfriend part of the dream might be the feeling that you need someone with you to protect you from any fear you have and to make you feel comfort and safe. It was a strong feeling because so much may have been going through mind about this subject that it really bothers you. To sum this part all together, I really believe it's you needing someone to keep you safe and comfortable from any fear of anyone or anything. also because your distant relationship with family and friends or any past situations that still might bother you.
You're life will change one day and even though I really can't promise, I still promise you that you will one day. People will come into your life, it just takes patience and time. I don't think anyone would get annoyed off of you and leave, if they do, you know those aren't the people who weren't meant to be friends with you at all. You can find someone and you will. You say no one can stand you, even when you're at pain.? Well you know what, I can stand you and I don't give a damn what anyone thinks. You're family doesn't like you when you're not perfect.? No one is perfect at all and you shouldn't worry about you not being perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and that's why we can call the past history because we learn from it to avoid doing the same thing.
You won't always be alone. Somewhere down the line, you will have friends, family, or a significant other by your side at all times. Yes, people do actually fall in love and I'm a believer in love. I've been in many relationships that lasted a year plus, but things don't always work out and I learned they weren't the one who was meant for me. Do I care about myself.? I don't mean to sound crazy, but when I'm at my worst I have to care about myself. You can't help others if you're not 100%. When I'm not at my worst, I tend to take care for others because I feel others are very important and I'm just one person, while there are millions of others. You can even look at it as if someone is your world and you will always take care of that person like when you take care of yourself. Don't stress out too much and don't worry about anything, everything will be alright. Remember, it will take time and just keep in mind that everything will be okay later on. Keep your head up and keep living strong. Much love.
Always,
Truth Trials a.k.a. ShamWOW!
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You're life will change one day and even though I really can't promise, I still promise you that you will one day. People will come into your life, it just takes patience and time. I don't think anyone would get annoyed off of you and leave, if they do, you know those aren't the people who weren't meant to be friends with you at all. You can find someone and you will. You say no one can stand you, even when you're at pain.? Well you know what, I can stand you and I don't give a damn what anyone thinks. You're family doesn't like you when you're not perfect.? No one is perfect at all and you shouldn't worry about you not being perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and that's why we can call the past history because we learn from it to avoid doing the same thing.
You won't always be alone. Somewhere down the line, you will have friends, family, or a significant other by your side at all times. Yes, people do actually fall in love and I'm a believer in love. I've been in many relationships that lasted a year plus, but things don't always work out and I learned they weren't the one who was meant for me. Do I care about myself.? I don't mean to sound crazy, but when I'm at my worst I have to care about myself. You can't help others if you're not 100%. When I'm not at my worst, I tend to take care for others because I feel others are very important and I'm just one person, while there are millions of others. You can even look at it as if someone is your world and you will always take care of that person like when you take care of yourself. Don't stress out too much and don't worry about anything, everything will be alright. Remember, it will take time and just keep in mind that everything will be okay later on. Keep your head up and keep living strong. Much love.
Always,
Truth Trials a.k.a. ShamWOW!
P.S. - Smile :DHealth Question & Answer
the right person will love you no matter what your faults are but you won't meet him if you dont put yourself out there. and the people who won't stick around aren't worth having in your life in the first place.Health Question & Answer
Everyone will and eventually does. Love may cause great pain, but it's something that is so beautiful in the end if all works out.Health Question & Answer
You will eventually find the man for you. How soon.? It's up to you. That is, if you sit around your house all the time hesitating to go out because you are worried about coming back disappointed, it might be a long time. But if you go out facing your fears with courage and get involved in public activities, you will find someone much qucker than you think. Just go out, meet new people, and most importantly have fun and be yourself!! If you follow that, you are bound to find someone(or more!!!). (: Hope you find someone SOON!!Health Question & Answer
Sounds like to me you've got some Repressed & Unresolved Anxiety/Depressed feelings.
Something Traumatic has happened in your life (with you're uncle.?) , that is bothering you and eating away at your emotions.
The best thing you can do in these situations is get these problems resolved.
Whatever it was that caused this to happen needs to be brought out into the open and talked about.
You should listen to you're "Dream Boyfriend" , and go out and have fun.
If you've never really had close friends , it could be a sign telling you that you have commitment issues/hangups.
You should probably try and find 1 good friend and create a deeper , lasting relationship , that WILL make you close.
The only way you're life is gonna stay the same , is if YOU let it stay the same.
If you want it to change , You can make that happen.
I'm sure you're family not only likes you , but Loves you.
It'd be really sad if they didn't.
On the subject if you'll ever be alone - It may be cliche , but everyone usually finds that "someone".
And "Falling in love" does happen.
If its someone who truly respects you , they will care about you no matter what. Even If you're at you're worst , In their eyes They'll still see you at you're best.
Who knows , maybe you'll find someone on YA who will accept you for who you are , even for Flaws & Imperfections.
For what its worth: From what I can tell , you seem like a pretty cool , interesting girl to me.
Plus , you're Huge on Wrestling.
I hope this helped My friendHealth Question & Answer
Something Traumatic has happened in your life (with you're uncle.?) , that is bothering you and eating away at your emotions.
The best thing you can do in these situations is get these problems resolved.
Whatever it was that caused this to happen needs to be brought out into the open and talked about.
You should listen to you're "Dream Boyfriend" , and go out and have fun.
If you've never really had close friends , it could be a sign telling you that you have commitment issues/hangups.
You should probably try and find 1 good friend and create a deeper , lasting relationship , that WILL make you close.
The only way you're life is gonna stay the same , is if YOU let it stay the same.
If you want it to change , You can make that happen.
I'm sure you're family not only likes you , but Loves you.
It'd be really sad if they didn't.
On the subject if you'll ever be alone - It may be cliche , but everyone usually finds that "someone".
And "Falling in love" does happen.
If its someone who truly respects you , they will care about you no matter what. Even If you're at you're worst , In their eyes They'll still see you at you're best.
Who knows , maybe you'll find someone on YA who will accept you for who you are , even for Flaws & Imperfections.
For what its worth: From what I can tell , you seem like a pretty cool , interesting girl to me.
Plus , you're Huge on Wrestling.
I hope this helped My friendHealth Question & Answer