Overwhelmed , bored and life out of control !?!
Question: Overwhelmed , bored and life out of control !.?
I am around 22 years old . I have bachelor and I am currently working as a programmer in a 6-years contract. I have been an introverted person since my childhood time. My childhood hobbies were PC Games, Study , movie ) And now I enjoy bodybuilding , Movies ,music , study and nature. My social interactions are at minimum level even at work .It makes me kind of weired anyway.
Having you know this background information , I go into my problem. I talk rarely at work ; I just respond to people and talk just when it comes to work and I don't make fun but others do . In office people tried to communicate with me by bringing up topics that I am interested in for example bodybuilding... Not to ruin myself and look more weired I talked about it and also told about my personal experiments about it for example my workout and that I practice at home and other stuff. And some arguments made by the person about the idea of practicing at home instead of going to gym. Before letting him know about this I did my exercise very well and I was determined to do it according to my schedule. But after that I got weak mentally , I somehow lost my determination and got lazy for that.
By the way I live in a polluted city in which I can not go fot jogging every time I want. But I really enjoyed if I could so. I live in a country in which sports have little room for most people and It has been very hard for me to move sport to my daily life as a must. I think my brian has got manipulated so that I don't take it seriously anymore. Do you have any idea about " how I can recharge myself to get to that state of mind I was in ".? I will put more details if required.Health Question & Answer
Having you know this background information , I go into my problem. I talk rarely at work ; I just respond to people and talk just when it comes to work and I don't make fun but others do . In office people tried to communicate with me by bringing up topics that I am interested in for example bodybuilding... Not to ruin myself and look more weired I talked about it and also told about my personal experiments about it for example my workout and that I practice at home and other stuff. And some arguments made by the person about the idea of practicing at home instead of going to gym. Before letting him know about this I did my exercise very well and I was determined to do it according to my schedule. But after that I got weak mentally , I somehow lost my determination and got lazy for that.
By the way I live in a polluted city in which I can not go fot jogging every time I want. But I really enjoyed if I could so. I live in a country in which sports have little room for most people and It has been very hard for me to move sport to my daily life as a must. I think my brian has got manipulated so that I don't take it seriously anymore. Do you have any idea about " how I can recharge myself to get to that state of mind I was in ".? I will put more details if required.Health Question & Answer
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Everything you just described about yourself is a description of me as well. I am also an introvert, also bodybuild, work in an office where I don't talk to anyone, grew up on video games, movies, and studying, and enjoy all the things you mentioned. I'm still trying to discover a good way to recharge for those times when you feel down in the dumps. I've found that it's very hard, but what I do is just play video games or go for a nice walk in the woods. I have very few people that I can actually call "friends", but when I talk to some of them, they always cheer me up and I'm recharged because of them.
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Maybe you are getting lonely and want to take more interest in social connecting than your body building. You could join a gym so that you can do both at the same time.
Or, you could move.?
You sound a lot like me, in the social aspect of your life. I rarely talk either it's kind of difficult for me I usually put my foot in my mouth or go blank. You have to just be comfortable with who you are.Health Question & Answer
Or, you could move.?
You sound a lot like me, in the social aspect of your life. I rarely talk either it's kind of difficult for me I usually put my foot in my mouth or go blank. You have to just be comfortable with who you are.Health Question & Answer
It sounds like your slipping in to depression you should see a doctor asap becuse it won't get betterHealth Question & Answer
make a list of things you want to get figured out and take one day at a time until you are relaxed and calmHealth Question & Answer
see a doctorHealth Question & Answer
My situation is not identical to yours in every detail, but I do understand the feeling. I'm about your age and after I graduated, it was difficult to make new friends and find ways to occupy myself. I felt depressed and bored and I just couldn't fiind the energy to eat right, exercise, try anything new, etc. Being naturally rather shy, I felt awkward talking to people and kept to myself most of the time. But after months of this, I realized that I was getting nowhere. You're young and hopefully have a long life ahead of you, so embrace life! If people at work are trying to be friendly, then push yourself to talk with them and join in the fun. Ask them for suggestions on places to make new friends or where you can participate in sports. Lots of communities have recreation centers that sponsor all kinds of sports teams for people of all ages. If you are religious, find a church--they usually have programs for young adults. Start doing community service. Get online and do some research to determine your options. I feel more motivated when I have other people around me pursuing the same thing. So if you have the money, join a gym. If you love nature find somewhere to go hiking. I know you probably feel overwhelmed, but it's not hopeless. You are not the first person to feel this way. The good thing is, you aren't discovering this at 50 yrs. old, when there may not be as much time to change. Being an introvert is fine (that's how I am), but even we have to make an effort to meet people and get involved. I'm not saying you have to change your whole personality and be loud and talkative--you were made to be the way you are--but sometimes people mistake quiet for unfriendly. That's why I suggest you find others with similar interests so you'll feel more comfortable just being yourself. It's tough, but you'll feel better afterwards :) Good luck!Health Question & Answer
I agree about the user who suggested you join a gym. it could be a good way to turn your hobby into a socializing tool. If your city has any community college classes in athletics, you could try taking classes. It sounds like you still like body building but someone has made you feel bad about it and you've lost motivation. Don't let others get to you like that. Keep doing things you enjoy.Health Question & Answer
You are introverted and a little cheesed that someone was 'invading' your new hobby of bodybuilding.
It sounds a bit like you are suffering with depression.
So your question, "How can I recharge myself... .?"
First you have to deal with your frustration and anger that someone invaded your private space. You understand this as an intrusion and an argument.
Try to think of his intrusion in a different way. Maybe the guy thinks he is being helpful, and figures if you really are serious about body building, then he thinks the only successful way to achieve this, is to commit yourself to a regieme of diet and exercise.
He probably doesn't understand that you are doing the body building for personal enjoyment. He probably doesn't understand that you like to accomplish things in your own way, in your own time and space.
He really doesn't understand you.
So, if you think about it, you don't understand him either. Right .?
Go back to what you were doing, and just be less open about sharing your hobbies. Introverted people are usually self-reliant and self-congradulatory, they do not thrive when the attention is focused on them.
You have an intorverted personality, and that is ok. Now go enjoy your body building.Health Question & Answer
It sounds a bit like you are suffering with depression.
So your question, "How can I recharge myself... .?"
First you have to deal with your frustration and anger that someone invaded your private space. You understand this as an intrusion and an argument.
Try to think of his intrusion in a different way. Maybe the guy thinks he is being helpful, and figures if you really are serious about body building, then he thinks the only successful way to achieve this, is to commit yourself to a regieme of diet and exercise.
He probably doesn't understand that you are doing the body building for personal enjoyment. He probably doesn't understand that you like to accomplish things in your own way, in your own time and space.
He really doesn't understand you.
So, if you think about it, you don't understand him either. Right .?
Go back to what you were doing, and just be less open about sharing your hobbies. Introverted people are usually self-reliant and self-congradulatory, they do not thrive when the attention is focused on them.
You have an intorverted personality, and that is ok. Now go enjoy your body building.Health Question & Answer
I am glad you were able to chat with co-worker about body building. I am sooo sorry that you took to heart what the person said about it. You must realize that what you were doing does work! When you do not feel very social with people, sometimes, you take what they say as 'must be true'..................WRONG. The person who told you not to do it at home was really wrong. There were not always gyms that people could just go to at any hour of the day/night. People have been working at body building at home, forever. You get right back to your home schedule, and show yourself that you are doing the right thing! Keep up that home schedule! A lot of people have a lot to say when they don't know anything about the subject. You do! you do it!Health Question & Answer