Can somebody please give me advice? (10 pts for best answer)?!
Question: Can somebody please give me advice.? (10 pts for best answer).?
Lately I've been feeling down in the dumps. I'm in first year university and well I'm terrified of failing first year or going on academic probation. I sometimes cry because I'm so nervous of the outcome of this year. I messed up first semester but not doing the assigned readings, now I'm changing by doing all the readings and such. But I'm just still so worried and it is stressing me out majorly. I sometimes cry because I feel so alone in this school year. I feel "dumb" in university (in high school I was an honour student). I always have a nervous feeling in my stomach and I get frusterated/angry at my parents easily because I'm stressed. I also feel obsessed with my looks, my mom agrees with that. At first its kind of funny because all teenage girls are obsessed, but its a little ridiciolous. In October I stole a headband because I liked it so much but didnt want to spend the money (stupid decision I know) but I was lucky and just got fined and no criminal record. I feel ugly sometimes, and I'm determined to do whatever it takes to get a clear face. I've been prescribed cream by the doctor that seems to be working, but now Im dealing with acne scars. I'm terrified with gaining weight and becoming fat. I'm 5'4 and a half and 115lbs and I know I'm far from fat, but I feel like I'm going to become fat any second or as if I have a double chin. I try to go on diets or eat sensibly, but I feel like I always overeat because I'm overstressed.? or it makes me feel better.? As I get older now I have a fear of being alone, I never really have had a boyfriend, and its almost as if Im scared of being in a relationship but want to at the same time. At the beginning of the school year a guy asked me out/liked me but I rejected him and I dont really know why.? I feel like Im losing my close friends (because we all go to different universities now). My best friend now has a boyfriend and perhaps Im jealous, but Im happy for for her but still you know.? Maybe I'm blowing this all out of proportion but I'm stressed/worried, and dont know what to do. Could someone lend me advice.? Should I talk with my family doctor.? (I was just there last week for a needle). I feel silly bringing this up to her, or do you think it would be silly.? I want to talk to someone, but I can come across shy sometimes but loud/outgoing amongst my friends. Yet I dont think I could talk to my friends or family about this. Help please.?Health Question & Answer
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Hi,
You totally sound like me when I was in my first year at a university, I'm now in my 3rd year. I'm really loud and funny when it comes to my friends but I had a hard time talking to new people and I was sad and lonely more than ever. I didn't really know what to do but I wanted someone to talk to about how I was feeling. The best thing i did that helped me was I went to the university health center and made an counseling appt, it was so easy and I really felt better after just unloading the weight of my shoulders. So my advice is to try going to your health center and see if there is someone you can talk to, alot of 1st year college students get in the dumps sometime. Hope I helped. Good luck!Health Question & Answer
You totally sound like me when I was in my first year at a university, I'm now in my 3rd year. I'm really loud and funny when it comes to my friends but I had a hard time talking to new people and I was sad and lonely more than ever. I didn't really know what to do but I wanted someone to talk to about how I was feeling. The best thing i did that helped me was I went to the university health center and made an counseling appt, it was so easy and I really felt better after just unloading the weight of my shoulders. So my advice is to try going to your health center and see if there is someone you can talk to, alot of 1st year college students get in the dumps sometime. Hope I helped. Good luck!Health Question & Answer
Talk to your family doctor or a counselor. It's not silly at all. Not to scare you or anything, but you might have depression or some other mental disorder.Health Question & Answer
dude just chill out before you have a breakdown talk to your guidance counselorHealth Question & Answer
well i didn't even read one sentence of this question.. but im really hoping for 10 points =] please.?!Health Question & Answer
OMG. You sound just like me. Sometimes you need to step back, listen to your favorite music and think about how life could be worse. If you want to someone to talk to you can email me. My email is same as username here wishinggal4him@yahoo.com
Just remember life can be 10X worse then it is.Health Question & Answer
Just remember life can be 10X worse then it is.Health Question & Answer
Calm down take a breather. As for school just study go talk to the teachers. GET ENOUGH SLEEP For the medical side go to your doctor ask him for pills not cream it will work better and not cause acme.Health Question & Answer
you seem to lack self esteem, hmmm, confidence in your self is what you need, you did mention above that you were an honor student when you were in highschool, then what happened now.? if the lessons are difficult, then it's no problem for you to cope up with it, maybe the word "lazy" comes in, maybe your becoming lazy these days, or days during college..
now the question is why.?.?
nervous.? first time.? if you'll let your self be affected by that, then it's your lose, your losing your own future, the future in your hands.. take off what should be taken off..
just be your self, the woman who you were during highschool..
because of your actions, now you are psychologically affected, stealing stuff.? lol! jealous about things and relationships.? hmmm, just be your self, that's all i can say to you.. do what you can do, just BRING IT ON!
this is just a new challenge in life..
you weren't honor student for nothing right.? so go! be your self.. :D goodluck!!Health Question & Answer
now the question is why.?.?
nervous.? first time.? if you'll let your self be affected by that, then it's your lose, your losing your own future, the future in your hands.. take off what should be taken off..
just be your self, the woman who you were during highschool..
because of your actions, now you are psychologically affected, stealing stuff.? lol! jealous about things and relationships.? hmmm, just be your self, that's all i can say to you.. do what you can do, just BRING IT ON!
this is just a new challenge in life..
you weren't honor student for nothing right.? so go! be your self.. :D goodluck!!Health Question & Answer
We all lose friends as we grow older. I only hear from my old school friends maybe once or twice a year. Even my college friends have become scarce.
Remember you are going to school to get an education. You aren't going for good grades, to make friends, to get boyfriends, or to prove anything to anyone. You are there to better yourself, and to learn.
Stick to your studies and try not to get caught up in all of life's stresses. If it doesn't have something to do with class, than ignore it the best you can. There will be opportunities for what you seek in the future. I was in your position once, and I wish I could have gone back and tried harder, and concentrated better on what my priorities should have been
Don't worry about your looks. I have no idea what you look like, but your acne WILL clear up eventually. You should have seen my pizza face when I was in school. It is easy to over eat when you are under stress. Food triggers your mind to release endorphins which act like an addictive drug. In the end its just a quick fix, and actually creates more stress in the long run. Try finding a better stress relief. Taking a brisk morning daily jog will not only help you be fit, it will relieve stress. Other possibilities are yoga, massage therapy etc.Health Question & Answer
Remember you are going to school to get an education. You aren't going for good grades, to make friends, to get boyfriends, or to prove anything to anyone. You are there to better yourself, and to learn.
Stick to your studies and try not to get caught up in all of life's stresses. If it doesn't have something to do with class, than ignore it the best you can. There will be opportunities for what you seek in the future. I was in your position once, and I wish I could have gone back and tried harder, and concentrated better on what my priorities should have been
Don't worry about your looks. I have no idea what you look like, but your acne WILL clear up eventually. You should have seen my pizza face when I was in school. It is easy to over eat when you are under stress. Food triggers your mind to release endorphins which act like an addictive drug. In the end its just a quick fix, and actually creates more stress in the long run. Try finding a better stress relief. Taking a brisk morning daily jog will not only help you be fit, it will relieve stress. Other possibilities are yoga, massage therapy etc.Health Question & Answer
Seems like you're just stressing out alot, which isnt a good thing.
But when it comes to uni everyone has their good and bad days and you were probably just feel down on the exam day. It happens to everyone. Looks aren't everything and sometimes when people are feeling unhappy they tend to look at all the negative things about them. You have alot of things going on now and you just have to stay optimistic. Just look at all the good things about you :) you shouldnt worry about eating diets and all that because trust me, unless they're PRO they dont work LOL Just eat normally, and exercise regularly:) way more healthy than any stupid diet LOL Talking to your family doctor has nothing wrong ^^ Its good to let out emotional stress because its bad holding it all in. I find talking to people about it helps me clear it up :) and after i do, i feel lighter and not as....burdened =)
Hope this helps :)
Cheers =)Health Question & Answer
But when it comes to uni everyone has their good and bad days and you were probably just feel down on the exam day. It happens to everyone. Looks aren't everything and sometimes when people are feeling unhappy they tend to look at all the negative things about them. You have alot of things going on now and you just have to stay optimistic. Just look at all the good things about you :) you shouldnt worry about eating diets and all that because trust me, unless they're PRO they dont work LOL Just eat normally, and exercise regularly:) way more healthy than any stupid diet LOL Talking to your family doctor has nothing wrong ^^ Its good to let out emotional stress because its bad holding it all in. I find talking to people about it helps me clear it up :) and after i do, i feel lighter and not as....burdened =)
Hope this helps :)
Cheers =)Health Question & Answer