Is it possible to be beyond help?!
Question: Is it possible to be beyond help.?
I need more help than I can get. I have too few supports and resources and too many problems. I'm not smart enough to figure things out on my own and screw things up without people's help. But I am not likable enough for people to help me that much.
Being unlikable is not low self-esteem - it is just the truth. There are unlikable people out there and I am one of them. You probably know people that you would never befriend.
What would you do in my situation.?Health Question & Answer
Being unlikable is not low self-esteem - it is just the truth. There are unlikable people out there and I am one of them. You probably know people that you would never befriend.
What would you do in my situation.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
According to what I know about the Bible, and my own walk with God, I would have to tell you that no one is ever beyond hope or help. Have you ever considered reading a Bible, and getting into a good church.? God loves you. And God has friends or other help for you somewhere. Why not give the Lord a chance with your life.? Find a good Baptist church and start attending, talk to the Pastor, and try and go to some of their study classes. God loves you dearly, and He wants to lift you up !!Health Question & Answer
There is a help line for kids and teens the number is 1-800-833-5948 or you can call 1-800-273-talk. They are staffed with professionals who can help you. You can talk to them anytime and they can help you find the right resouces that can help you. Nobody is beyond help. You sound likable to me. Anybody who writes what you have written has a lot of goodness in them. And the fact that you are smart enough to ask for help. Can you talk to your school counselor they are trained and can help you, they are always happy to help. I think you are having the wrong thoughts about yourself. People can see that and may stay away from you because of what they sense. There is always help you just started by reaching out. Please go on looking and don't give up. Your life can change for the better and you can have all that you deserve.Health Question & Answer
NO ONE IS "BEYOND HELP". You're right you can't do it by yourself, and you're not smart enough. None of us are. That's why I turn to God for help. There's this book that provides really good help and advice for daily living. It's called the Bible, and it's the absolute best resource for any topic. In there you'll learn that you have a FRIEND who sticks closer than a brother to you, will never let you down, and has already given you everything you need. "BIBLE" stands for "Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth", and that's just what you'll find there. God likes you!! So much, that He sent his only son to die for you. He'd have done this even if you were the only person on earth. He must like you a lot!! TRY HIM. You've got nothing to lose.Health Question & Answer
Find something you love to do and are passionate about, or get into a new hobby you never did before. It will make you feel better. Start exploring ways to define yourself how you feel and not how others view you....don't get stuck on feeling unlikeable. Join groups with the same interest and if you screw something up....no big deal we all do that! Good luckHealth Question & Answer
Anyone that asks for help is helpable.
You may have to come to terms with your disabilities (learning disorder.?). Find the things that you're good at - whatever they may be.
You're question was vague so its hard to come up with a solution when the problem isn't clear/Health Question & Answer
You may have to come to terms with your disabilities (learning disorder.?). Find the things that you're good at - whatever they may be.
You're question was vague so its hard to come up with a solution when the problem isn't clear/Health Question & Answer
your only beyond help if you don't want help...sounds to me like your just making excuses so you don't have to change...carry on like you are if thats what you want...afterall its your misery....Health Question & Answer
I knew a girl who was so obnoxious and snarky and sarcastic and.... ugh, just no one liked her, not even a little bit. We actually got in a cat fight because she was so prone to make comments about my IQ or how inept I am at sports, I wailed on her with a tennis racket in PE my sophomore year. haha, probably the only time I've been outwardly violent in my entire life. By our senior year she'd realized she had no friends, no one liked her, and in fact she wasn't as great as she thought she was. And with that new knowledge she set out to change her life around. and succeeded. she even sent out apologies via myspace. I even got one in which she apologized for things I'd forgotten all about. I never became friends with her but a lot of people did. She wound up with a fairly large friend base.
If you genuinely feel this way about yourself change who you are. no one dislikes a person with out good reason. if you say inappropriate things, learn to bite your tongue! If you have the tendency to just be a downer, try to find some optimism and make a habit of it. if you really just can't do it on your own, speak to your doctor about some sort of mood elevator!Health Question & Answer
If you genuinely feel this way about yourself change who you are. no one dislikes a person with out good reason. if you say inappropriate things, learn to bite your tongue! If you have the tendency to just be a downer, try to find some optimism and make a habit of it. if you really just can't do it on your own, speak to your doctor about some sort of mood elevator!Health Question & Answer
Well. You've got a lot of good advice here. But I will add a little of my own. As far as I can tell no one has directly identified with you, but I can. I mean just earlier this week I had a dose of feeling as if everyone views me as a *****. However, I have worked this issue out in my head and have found some solstice that I am very comfortable with.
In your case, first I have to wonder if you really know who you are. Sure, you're saying that who you are is "unlikable". But what are the things that you do that you think makes you unlikable.? What is your perspective on how what you do makes people feel.? For instance, do you constantly just say the wrong thing.? Do you deliberately irritate or annoy people.? And are you aware that you are deliberately irritating people.? What reasoning do you have for behaving this way in the first place.?
Once you can answer questions like these you can begin to understand your own behavior and the reaction of others. For instance, if you do deliberately annoy those around you, then ask yourself why you feel the need to go there.? Ask yourself if someone were to approach you this way would you feel annoyed.? Ask yourself if you can genuinely understand how others feel about your behavior.?
Once you spend some time actually trying to understand your own behavior and understanding how your behavior is offensive, then you have already begun the process of helping yourself.
Now, should you find that you don't think what you do is offensive, then you know that you simply need to be involved with people who understand you better. Or perhaps you could sit down with the people you offend and talk it out. Let them know that you don't mean it in that way.
Should you find that you do find your own behavior offensive, then you have to decide if you care if people understand you or not. If you care, then it's gonna take some work to reverse your behavior. To reverse your behavior you have to reverse your thinking. And that extremely difficult, but not impossible. If you don't care, then you have no problem. (Well you do. It's called being anti-social. It is treatable with years of therapy and you have to find the motivation to want to change.)
Furthermore, what people think of you does not define who you are. I'm not going to say that what people think of you doesn't matter, because it obviously does to you. I mean, it does to most of us who don't have some sort of social disorder. Acceptance is an actual need. So don't feel bad for wanting it.
In the meantime, get involved in something you care about. This is a great way to meet like minded people. And thus to create a sense of acceptance.
And lastly, God does love everyone. He will always accept you. But I understand how this kind of promise might seem empty when you're feeling like this. I don't think that that's the answer you're looking for. But I do encourage you to have that in the back of your head. If God loves you, then why can't those of us who aren't perfect.?
Finally, NO ONE is beyond help.Health Question & Answer
In your case, first I have to wonder if you really know who you are. Sure, you're saying that who you are is "unlikable". But what are the things that you do that you think makes you unlikable.? What is your perspective on how what you do makes people feel.? For instance, do you constantly just say the wrong thing.? Do you deliberately irritate or annoy people.? And are you aware that you are deliberately irritating people.? What reasoning do you have for behaving this way in the first place.?
Once you can answer questions like these you can begin to understand your own behavior and the reaction of others. For instance, if you do deliberately annoy those around you, then ask yourself why you feel the need to go there.? Ask yourself if someone were to approach you this way would you feel annoyed.? Ask yourself if you can genuinely understand how others feel about your behavior.?
Once you spend some time actually trying to understand your own behavior and understanding how your behavior is offensive, then you have already begun the process of helping yourself.
Now, should you find that you don't think what you do is offensive, then you know that you simply need to be involved with people who understand you better. Or perhaps you could sit down with the people you offend and talk it out. Let them know that you don't mean it in that way.
Should you find that you do find your own behavior offensive, then you have to decide if you care if people understand you or not. If you care, then it's gonna take some work to reverse your behavior. To reverse your behavior you have to reverse your thinking. And that extremely difficult, but not impossible. If you don't care, then you have no problem. (Well you do. It's called being anti-social. It is treatable with years of therapy and you have to find the motivation to want to change.)
Furthermore, what people think of you does not define who you are. I'm not going to say that what people think of you doesn't matter, because it obviously does to you. I mean, it does to most of us who don't have some sort of social disorder. Acceptance is an actual need. So don't feel bad for wanting it.
In the meantime, get involved in something you care about. This is a great way to meet like minded people. And thus to create a sense of acceptance.
And lastly, God does love everyone. He will always accept you. But I understand how this kind of promise might seem empty when you're feeling like this. I don't think that that's the answer you're looking for. But I do encourage you to have that in the back of your head. If God loves you, then why can't those of us who aren't perfect.?
Finally, NO ONE is beyond help.Health Question & Answer