My fathers death depresses me and im feeling misunderstood...?!
Question: My fathers death depresses me and im feeling misunderstood....?
i feel like no one knows how i feel...and he died when i was five...and alot of the time a think i dont want to feel happy ever again. plz tell me y. and if u know a way i can feel better... plz help me...Health Question & Answer
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Let me guess, you are a teenager. Feeling like nobody understands you or how you feel is pretty natural at that stage of life. Honestly though, think about it for a moment. You are certainly not the first or only person to lose a parent at a young age. At five, you wouldn't have understood it very well, and it's not until now that you have really gotten the ability to think very deeply about it. I presume you have a mother, so you have somebody to talk this over with. If not your mom, then the school counselor, a spiritual adviser, or other trusted adult should be quite able to help you put this in perspective. Your father's death is no excuse to make yourself miserable or let yourself feel that way. Your father certainly wouldn't have wanted it that way, nor would he want to be your excuse to avoid being happy. If you truly want to feel better, you need to begin with letting go of the excuse to feel bad. You are in control of how you feel, nobody else gets to pull those strings. You also need to find somebody to talk to about this, besides strangers on the web. I suggest you start with your mom. You lost a father, she lost a loved mate. You still have one another.Health Question & Answer
I think I might actually be able to empathize. My uncle, who I was extremely close to, died when I was four, and while it's definitely not the same as having a parent die, it still hurts me. I think about it all the time, which has become hopelessly frustrating because I hardly have any memories left. I'm also a teenager, and I feel that it's effected my life to the point of having depressive episodes nearly every day. I believe it comes from not being able to articulate feelings of grief at such a young age, and then having to deal with it later in life. I can't believe you feel the same as I do - I've never known anyone who could empathize with me, and I've always felt so isolated. I'm seeing a counselor now, and it seems like it will really help me just to be able to talk (it took me 14 years to even get up the courage to tell my mother how awful I felt!). Maybe it would help you to do the same.? I know I haven't been very helpful, but I think just sharing stories can be therapeutic:]
p.s. I feel exactly the same about dying!Health Question & Answer
p.s. I feel exactly the same about dying!Health Question & Answer
I am very sorry that you lost your father. It must be hard for you not having that father figure. No, I am sure not everyone knows how you feel, but I understand that it kills you inside. I know how it feels toy lose someone so special to you. My pregnant aunt died in an accident when I was only two, my grandpa just died, and my other grandpa was shot before I was born. There is no way that you will be okay with your father not being there for you. But you can accept it. You will not get over it completely. Just know that he is waiting for you, and he wants you to be happy. It hurts him as an angel to see him disrupt your life. He wants you to know he is with you, and he will always be. Know that he loves you . If you be happy, then he will smile down at you.Health Question & Answer
I do know how you feel. I am an adult..old one lol. But I lost my dad when I was 17 and my mom 11 months ago. The pain NEVER goes away. My mom is my everything, best friend, confidante, soul mate. And life is horrible without her. But knowing I will be reunited with her one day makes me able to go on. Life will NEVER be the same, but you are young, and though the hurt is horrible and some people do not understand, you need to make your dad proud. He is watching you and always with you.Health Question & Answer
i tried to email you but you don't allow that so.. i'll just say it on here...
3 and a half years ago, my dad passed away. 2 months, 2 days, and 2 weeks later, my mom passed away. i was shipped from place to place, and no one seemed to understand why i wasn't normal. to this day i battle with depression. sometimes i don't leave my house for days and days. now i have absolutely no family besides my 2 sisters. its so hard sometimes. people always tell me, i know how you feel... but really, most people don't. its a tough situation that we've been thrown into and thats just life
there will always be those days when it feels impossible not to think about it. there will be those times when it feels like no one is listening or even cares to listen. when you get into depression, it does feel like theres no way out and thats all thats left to life.
is there anyone you know close to you that has been in a similar situation.? what are your hobbies.? can you focus on those.? personally my be happy thing is running... but that may not be for you.
if you don't feel like there is anyone to talk to, you can always write your feelings. it helps a lot. you don't even have to write whole sentences, or words. just write what you feel. or draw. draw anything you feel! i am personally here for you to talk to. just don't bottle it all up inside. it just makes it worse.
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don't feel bad for me.. i've realized its just something to deal with. we just have to remember that everything thrown at us is something we can handle.Health Question & Answer
3 and a half years ago, my dad passed away. 2 months, 2 days, and 2 weeks later, my mom passed away. i was shipped from place to place, and no one seemed to understand why i wasn't normal. to this day i battle with depression. sometimes i don't leave my house for days and days. now i have absolutely no family besides my 2 sisters. its so hard sometimes. people always tell me, i know how you feel... but really, most people don't. its a tough situation that we've been thrown into and thats just life
there will always be those days when it feels impossible not to think about it. there will be those times when it feels like no one is listening or even cares to listen. when you get into depression, it does feel like theres no way out and thats all thats left to life.
is there anyone you know close to you that has been in a similar situation.? what are your hobbies.? can you focus on those.? personally my be happy thing is running... but that may not be for you.
if you don't feel like there is anyone to talk to, you can always write your feelings. it helps a lot. you don't even have to write whole sentences, or words. just write what you feel. or draw. draw anything you feel! i am personally here for you to talk to. just don't bottle it all up inside. it just makes it worse.
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don't feel bad for me.. i've realized its just something to deal with. we just have to remember that everything thrown at us is something we can handle.Health Question & Answer
hey girl, dont be down, this is part of life and i know it hurts big time. keep yourself busy and you wont have time to think about your dad. In time your grief will pass but you are going for the grieving period at the moment which will last a few months.
Ask yourself what your dad would want for you. Im sure he would want you to get a really good job and have a great and happy life. So do it and make him proud!
Love Tom.Health Question & Answer
Ask yourself what your dad would want for you. Im sure he would want you to get a really good job and have a great and happy life. So do it and make him proud!
Love Tom.Health Question & Answer
Not sure how old you are, but it seems like a long time ago, and you've been missing out on having a dad in your life. Are there other things going on that are making you feel so sad so many years later.? Can you find a professional or someone else to talk to about it.?
I lost my dad a couple years ago and I miss him every day. I can't imagine what it would have been like to lose him so young.Health Question & Answer
I lost my dad a couple years ago and I miss him every day. I can't imagine what it would have been like to lose him so young.Health Question & Answer
I felt the same way at times , so I went to my doctor and told him . I mean just sitting watching tv i'd start crying.....no reason. I've bin on meds now for a long time now . I hate to say it BUT the hurt never goes away ...... just gets easier with time . But just tell your doctor .Health Question & Answer
hey bestested friend! shes 12. shes deppresed i help her both r lives suckHealth Question & Answer