I always feel sad on my birthday and holidays?!


Question: I always feel sad on my birthday and holidays.?
my family is like really mixed up, i don't talk to anyone on my dads side including him, and m moms side doesn't have much money. we have a lot of family that is not blood related to us but we still have the bond and what not.
my mom being a single parent ,and her having me so young has always been more like a sister. she never really got me anything cool for my birthdays and would get my hopes up every year. on my birthdays i feel like im not important to my family because everyone else gets such cool gifts and i rarely get anything at all. sometimes i will get a 20$ bill in a card, or hand me down stuff for my infant daughter. i feel really guilty for feeling like this but it gets me down on holidays. for christmas this year someone in my immediate family gave me half a pack of socks.. for my sweet 16 my mom asked me what i wanted and i asked for a jacket that i wanted really bad and she paid 50$ towards is, when the night before she went out to dinner for over 100$ and i remember being really upset and crying because i felt like no one cared, but feeling really guilty because i felt like i was being selfish and stupid. this year for my 18th birthday im not really expecting anything from my parents but tonight my boyfriend asked me what i wanted and i said it would be cool if he could pay for me to get my hair highlighted, [which costs about 85$-100$] because im 8 months pregnant and i feel really unattractive, and he went off on me about how its too expensive and i never get him anything good for his birthdays and what not. and i felt really guilty for wanting something and like he didn't care about me.



how can i stop feeling sad for not getting presents.? i know it sounds really childish and stupid but i honestly cant help feeling like that. i know its wrong and selfish of me to get upset about gifts, but i don't know how NOT to feel that way!



please don't write rude things like "omg you sound so selfish get over it its the thought that counts" because i already know that!Health Question & Answer


Answers:
I emphatize with you. All the years of feeling deprived of satisfying your needs. Don't feel guilty, you have the right to feel that way. And your bf,.. he should have just discussed with you nicely the situation. Seems you got there another selfish individual having to blurt out that he never received anything from you. Hey, you are giving him a child, is it not the best gift a woman can give to a man.?

Just my two cents worth.........Health Question & Answer

Expect less, give more.Health Question & Answer

wait..are your parents divorced.? how is she single.?Health Question & Answer

Hi there, I know how u feel to be sad on ur birthday.

Especially, when u want them to buy things that u want for ur birthday but instead they bought u something else (it always happen).
Sometimes they bought that things for u but they are not sincere to buy it, including making 'not so nice to hear' remarks)

U know what... u can buy those things for urself and pretend that someone/bestfriends/closefriends are buying those things for ur birthday. (U can make ur parents, siblings, cousins and even ur boyfriend jealous)

I would rather not have those things if people are not sincere to buy those things that i want for my birthday, i can buy it myself....

U are not the only one who is sad, depressed , etc on this earth....
There are other people who have sadness too...

U can cheer urself up by buying small birthday cake, a candle and rent/buy funny videos on ur birthday....
Funny videos can make u laugh till ur stomach hurts....

p/s: Don't worry, be happy, go lucky.....

Smile Friend :) This Video for u
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You're not selfish or stupid for feeling bad for not getting presents or getting lame presents for special occasions. Your family doesn't know how to make a child feel special. They are immature, self-absorbed people. It's important that you realize your feelings are valid and you need to take them seriously. You haven't been raised with that, so you have to give that to yourself. Give yourself sympathy and understanding for having disappointing parents. It's more than the gifts, you didn't get what you needed emotionally. The fact that you insult yourself for having understandable feelings is more proof that you were deprived of what you needed in your childhood. You didn't feel special. Children need to feel special to their parents. Unfortunately, everybody picks significant others that act like their parents. That's why your boyfriend is critical and shaming of you. You picked someone like your parents.Health Question & Answer



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