I havnt cut myself in a month.How do I stop ive done it for 8 years like forever its a part of me?!

I can see how difficult it must be to stop--especially when you've been doing it for 8 years. I think a lot of people don't understand how deeply this has affected you and how difficult it is to stop. It's a lot to deal with, and it's all at once. It's not the same thing as giving up a habit or stopping a destructive behavior. It feels like it's a part of you because you did it for so long and during your formative years. You have to deal with some really difficult things that most people never have to deal with. Your own concepts of identity and personality and your ability to regulate your emotional responses have all had to change and are still changing. Frankly, I'm really impressed because it's a hell of a lot to deal with. That you've made it through a month indicates that you can stop. Try not to think about stopping it permanently because that thought is too overwhelming right now. You might feel like you're losing part of who you are, but you're not. In fact, as time goes by, you'll get to know yourself better, now that it's not blunted by the effects of cutting. Good luck.
BTW, why are most of these answers so mean.? That's not a rhetorical question. I really want to know why, so if you could all add your reasons to the end of your answers, I'd appreciate it. If you're planning to say something mean to me, that's fine as long as you explain why you said it. Thanks.Health Question & Answer

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Your problems are within your own head. Cutting is a response to our strongest emotions. So, what are yours.? Hatred of someone, sadness, the hiding of some kind of abuse, the love lost, the parents who fight, the whole family/school scene, self-hatred, social issues, physical abnormalities, unresolved sexual issues, or just depression that you are not dealing with. This type of behavior is generally found in teenage girls. Why.? No one know for sure, however, if you dig deep into your mind and try to figure out (with a psychologist) what is making you so uneasy, you can stop the cutting, and most important stop the urges that lead you to cut yourself. You are not alone, millions of teenage girls cut themselves, for no apparent reason. YOU however, can get help, and hey, many people in the world care about you so try to go easy on yourself, you are not a bad person.Health Question & Answer

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You have to want to be a different person.
It doesn't matter if you can really believe you can do it or not, you just have to want to try.
You may find along the way it gets really hard to deal with the reasons why you do it, but that is something you have to work out with your psychologist.
You may not be able to imagine a you without cutting, but it's there, underneath the pain and the fear. You just need help to find it.
Hospital is not as scary as you think. Trying to go it alone is much more scary.
I wish I had got help earlier myself. Let your psychologist know how you really feel about your cutting. He/she will want to do the best thing for you, and will have experienced people with similar thoughts and feelings. Things can get better if you are brave enough to reach out and be completely honest. You can get through this.
Will be thinking of you.Health Question & Answer

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Eight years.? You started when you were six then...wow. That's quite a young age. Obviously, you have some serious trouble in your life. The fact that you have been able to not cut yourself for a month is good - whatever you have been doing, keep on doing it. When you get the urge to harm yourself, think about the blood and scars - the scars will be there forever more, imprinted memories. That's what they are now - imprinted memories. Memories of the past. Think of all the blood you've spilled in the past...is it really worth it.? As for pain...you're obviously going through much emotional pain already - I think physical pain can easily be removed from your agenda. also, the fact that you want to stop is also a good sign - you have hope for the better. Just slowly but surely stop cutting yourself...you will stop in time. Just be patient.Health Question & Answer

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I understand how it feels like a part of you as i felt the same. You can have all the psychiatrists and psychologists in the world, at the end of the day you are the one who has to make the decision to stop cutting yourself. If you want to stop, eventually you will. You just have to convince yourself.Health Question & Answer

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well cutting is an addiction just like any other. You should try NA meetings. Its very difficult to stop an addiction. Its going to take a lot of support from family and friends. You have to set a goal for yourself and work really hard to keep yourself busy doing other things that wont allow you to be in a position where you could do it. Most important is the support from groups and meetings. Good luck and stay strong bc where there is a will there is a way!Health Question & Answer

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I am not a cutter, but an over-eater. I cannot stay on my diet for a month. You have refrained from cutting for a month. Good job!! Whatever you have done for yourself for this month, you should keep repeating. Evidently it is working. Stay with your psycologist. It sounds like he/she has helped you.Health Question & Answer

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kid just hide the razors and be alone for awhile watch tv think of all the people in your life who truely love and care about you get help i havent cut since september i know its hard i still want to but trust me helps better then cuttingHealth Question & Answer

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if you are 14 and you've done it for 8 years ..
that means you started when you were 6.?
am i correct.? that seems a little young to
start cutting. i started when i was 12.

Hmmm .. am i sensing a lie here.?

hahahaha. you lieing about something.
either about cutting, your age or how
long you've cut. haha.
get your story straight.
and/or don't lie (:Health Question & Answer

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im also 14 but never cut myself...i think you need to try stopping and figure something else that you could do..hang out with friends or something..idk try somethingHealth Question & Answer

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Well, if you haven't done it in a month, keep doing whatever you're doing!Health Question & Answer

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ur obviously doing this coz ur hurt then ur suppose to stop it not add to it by physically hurting urself its bad enough being mentall hurt.Health Question & Answer

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whats the reason why you cut yourself to show ur an emo or something.?.?Health Question & Answer

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That isn't scary. It is an escape from your current environment. Not necessarily saying it is a bad place that your in. It i is (cutting) a release for what you haven't learned to express or haven't learned to accept. Not learning or accepting an integral part of your upbringing or being ignored and not receiving the emotional support that you want and need may have led to the cutting. It does feel so good during the cutting because you are in a "happy place" where you have the control and the release of endorphines caused by the cut mimic something that your missing. I did it for years. It is unfortunately a selfish addiction that can last into adulthood and will not allow you certain other REAL pleasures in life. Not getting the love I needed and getting a whole heck of alot of pain during my youth in my eyes was the cause of the selfmutilation. When you haven't learned how to love or be loved or whatever else you are missing you learn to compensate for that empty space by trying to fill it with all this selfish behavior that isn't going to do any good in the long run. You will miss out on literally the best years of your life. Turning to God who you may think doesn't exist or is the cause of this is one great way to fill that void. He is always there even when you are all alone in the middle of cutting. He has all the love and caring and forgiveness you could ever want. You may not be being honest with yourself over the WHY you cut other then the same ole answers of realease and the immediate feel good. I didn't learn the easy way and over the course of too many years the cutting was out of control and has led me to mental institutions as well as hospitals and to deaths door. It isn't a road you want to travel. It is not the feel good of the cutting and self mutilation that will make you feel better it is identifying what areas you need to pay more attention to and what you need from your loved ones. The cutting needs to STOP.Health Question & Answer

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So infact your An Emo.? Haha, Feel sorry, Become a Goth, Emo is a cheap imitation of Goth =3Health Question & Answer

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do u hate ur life.?.?.?
i cant stand ppl who do that ****..
its jus an excuse..
like drinking when ur depressed...Health Question & Answer

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