Why would anyone want to have a interpersonal relationship with someone who has Aspergers Syndrome?!
Question: Why would anyone want to have a interpersonal relationship with someone who has Aspergers Syndrome.?
It even looks like there is something wrong with me..............................I mean,...look. Im 20 and i just read the wiki and it explained it so well. Im not even kidding.
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I have 4 adult children (and an ex husband) all with varying degrees of Aspergers.
My oldest daughter will turn 35 this year, she has been married to a guy with the same condition for 9 years. She was 19 before she was diagnosed. They were the first Aspergers afflicted couple to marry in South Australia. Both have held jobs, but are happiest when they are studying. They are both contributing members of a political party and he actually stood for election a few years ago.
They met at an Autism Association social group for young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorders, and through that have appeared in stage plays and spoken about how their lives are affected, at several Autism Conferences.
Two of my other children are also married and the other daughter who has extra problems to cope with lives at home with me.
Relationships ARE possible just like friendships, but with your attitude to others, not very likely.
I suggest you find out if there is any Autism support group you could go to so you don't feel so alone. There you will meet others with similar problems and get support for yourself and your own feelings and problems.
Hang in there, life CAN improve, but you also have to accept you have a problem and learn to like yourself, before others can start liking you..Reach out for and accept help.Health Question & Answer
My oldest daughter will turn 35 this year, she has been married to a guy with the same condition for 9 years. She was 19 before she was diagnosed. They were the first Aspergers afflicted couple to marry in South Australia. Both have held jobs, but are happiest when they are studying. They are both contributing members of a political party and he actually stood for election a few years ago.
They met at an Autism Association social group for young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorders, and through that have appeared in stage plays and spoken about how their lives are affected, at several Autism Conferences.
Two of my other children are also married and the other daughter who has extra problems to cope with lives at home with me.
Relationships ARE possible just like friendships, but with your attitude to others, not very likely.
I suggest you find out if there is any Autism support group you could go to so you don't feel so alone. There you will meet others with similar problems and get support for yourself and your own feelings and problems.
Hang in there, life CAN improve, but you also have to accept you have a problem and learn to like yourself, before others can start liking you..Reach out for and accept help.Health Question & Answer
You do not look like you have something wrong with you at all. I have a close family friend with this same condition and his quirky social behaviors are probably the reason he has so many friends. He goes through therapy to help him control his rage and has become perfectly capable of fitting in the way he is! He doesn't conform and everyone loves him for who he is. :) Don't label yourself because of AS, be yourself and maybe even join a therapy session for the rage/frusturation if you experience it. Be confident about who you are, don't hide your quirks, and you'll find the friends will come to you! (Although some effort is necessary from most people time to time)Health Question & Answer
You are average looking, just like most of us.I suggest that you try Googling: "Asperger's syndrome; treatment courses; (your city); (your state)"
Asperger's is addressed in section 21, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris but you may well benefit more from checking out sections 9, & 22 - 25, on social anxiety, and ADHD.
Insults won't get you anywhere, and labelling activity is rarely helpful. "You attract more flies with honey, than vinegar". Use your undoubted intelligence to develop social skills, and theory of others, and what they are likely to be feeling, in a given situation.Health Question & Answer
Asperger's is addressed in section 21, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris but you may well benefit more from checking out sections 9, & 22 - 25, on social anxiety, and ADHD.
Insults won't get you anywhere, and labelling activity is rarely helpful. "You attract more flies with honey, than vinegar". Use your undoubted intelligence to develop social skills, and theory of others, and what they are likely to be feeling, in a given situation.Health Question & Answer
aww your a cutie.
Why... why not.
I think it would be helpful for you to learn more about how to manage the socializing aspects of your aspergers that are different from those with out it.
Dont be afraid to tell people when you start to get to know them and tell them what it is too not just that you have it.
Dont be so self deprecating. Confidence is sexy and attractive. If you tell yourself and act to yourself as if having it makes you unlikeable or bad in some way others will only agree with you. And dont be so quick to be critical of others. Even if they seem off (stupid] your wanting others to accept you... you never know by the cover what someone else may have too. Dont judge if you don't want to be judged... well at least don't judge aloud.
Ive been with a schizoid schizotypal ocd diagnosed man for 3 years. He is far beyond social phobic, far far too blunt, and definitely obsessive. So what. We get along. Hes gentle, respectful, and intelligent.
Just make sure to look for others who mesh with you and your aspergers. IE avoid those who want to go out on the town all the time and drag you with them.
learn more. Be nice to yourself and others. Not so quick to judge. And find others whom you can mesh with in the long term.Health Question & Answer
Why... why not.
I think it would be helpful for you to learn more about how to manage the socializing aspects of your aspergers that are different from those with out it.
Dont be afraid to tell people when you start to get to know them and tell them what it is too not just that you have it.
Dont be so self deprecating. Confidence is sexy and attractive. If you tell yourself and act to yourself as if having it makes you unlikeable or bad in some way others will only agree with you. And dont be so quick to be critical of others. Even if they seem off (stupid] your wanting others to accept you... you never know by the cover what someone else may have too. Dont judge if you don't want to be judged... well at least don't judge aloud.
Ive been with a schizoid schizotypal ocd diagnosed man for 3 years. He is far beyond social phobic, far far too blunt, and definitely obsessive. So what. We get along. Hes gentle, respectful, and intelligent.
Just make sure to look for others who mesh with you and your aspergers. IE avoid those who want to go out on the town all the time and drag you with them.
learn more. Be nice to yourself and others. Not so quick to judge. And find others whom you can mesh with in the long term.Health Question & Answer
as with anyone,it depends on both people.i beleive that everyone has someone out there that will be thier perfect match. thats the trick for ANY o us.. finding that right person.
my son has aspergers( he is 17) and i know there is a perfect match out there for him. he is the most gentle soul i know.
just be gentle and kind, and reach out to others, even it if is hard :)
EDIT: that last comment you made ( about being stupid) may indicate one of your biggest problems.no one wants to be unduly critisized. consider that step one in your social learning.be nice, even if you dont feel like it.Health Question & Answer
my son has aspergers( he is 17) and i know there is a perfect match out there for him. he is the most gentle soul i know.
just be gentle and kind, and reach out to others, even it if is hard :)
EDIT: that last comment you made ( about being stupid) may indicate one of your biggest problems.no one wants to be unduly critisized. consider that step one in your social learning.be nice, even if you dont feel like it.Health Question & Answer
Hi Little M. You may already know about this site, but just in case you don't, I'll give you a link. It's a great place to chat online to other people with Asperger's Syndrome and to learn more about how to deal with the condition, especially in regard to social issues. You might even meet a nice girl there. :) Good luck! Jenny
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It depends on the severity of the aspergers.
My little brother has it and I'll punch anyone to knocks it or makes fun of him. I love the kid.
You just need to find the right person.Health Question & Answer
My little brother has it and I'll punch anyone to knocks it or makes fun of him. I love the kid.
You just need to find the right person.Health Question & Answer
You seem to be fine. You look very handsome. Take life easy it is going to help you a lot.Health Question & Answer
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Well dude, this is life, I remember my psychologist said I do not have schizophrenia but it is Asperger symptom. Well that gives me room to fix myself.
20.? Wow you and me are about same age but I'll never post my face on the internet, maybe because of FIBs surrounding my house later. Or maybe you break one of your shyness by posting yourself on the internet.
Anyway the way I live is living under the radar, my college life is screwed but there is a way of fixing it in my own way but I only take advice but I do not take instructions on them.
The thing about Aspergers people is that they get teased and criticised, well sometimes I always want to release my anger on somebody always once in a while but I actually didn't manage to do that, my own therapy really works but I need better resources.
Anyway I don't really know how to help you but except I'm trying to help people when I can that's all. A little bio about me, I'm a major tech fan but not working in it, and second thing is I really hate a lot of computer technicians(I'm qualified now, except I fixed my own PCs) and psychologist (I really really hate them, yep this is the next career I want to be), you see I live in a hated world, hate will only make me go forward and dethroning them as much as possible even though I know I am disabled.
I don't know about your astrology star sign though, getting a GF is later in my life after the next 5 mnths when I got to college. And I'm a person that hate changing my lifestyle and forming new relationship all the time. Maybe that's Taurus star sign.
I just wanted to say, what's your goal.? What's really makes you going.? I mean I live in criticism and I live in a hatred world and I'm still surviving. Sometimes you just have to ignore other people i.e. my parents are the major ones since I didn't mix with outside people. And my best friend is my computer :D I just love it, and I have two too just can't stop loving them although I'm not really a geek tbh.It just that people cannot be trusted and no where is safe and nobody can be trusted at all times.
If you need someone to talk to just email/PM me I'm here for ya dude.Health Question & Answer
20.? Wow you and me are about same age but I'll never post my face on the internet, maybe because of FIBs surrounding my house later. Or maybe you break one of your shyness by posting yourself on the internet.
Anyway the way I live is living under the radar, my college life is screwed but there is a way of fixing it in my own way but I only take advice but I do not take instructions on them.
The thing about Aspergers people is that they get teased and criticised, well sometimes I always want to release my anger on somebody always once in a while but I actually didn't manage to do that, my own therapy really works but I need better resources.
Anyway I don't really know how to help you but except I'm trying to help people when I can that's all. A little bio about me, I'm a major tech fan but not working in it, and second thing is I really hate a lot of computer technicians(I'm qualified now, except I fixed my own PCs) and psychologist (I really really hate them, yep this is the next career I want to be), you see I live in a hated world, hate will only make me go forward and dethroning them as much as possible even though I know I am disabled.
I don't know about your astrology star sign though, getting a GF is later in my life after the next 5 mnths when I got to college. And I'm a person that hate changing my lifestyle and forming new relationship all the time. Maybe that's Taurus star sign.
I just wanted to say, what's your goal.? What's really makes you going.? I mean I live in criticism and I live in a hatred world and I'm still surviving. Sometimes you just have to ignore other people i.e. my parents are the major ones since I didn't mix with outside people. And my best friend is my computer :D I just love it, and I have two too just can't stop loving them although I'm not really a geek tbh.It just that people cannot be trusted and no where is safe and nobody can be trusted at all times.
If you need someone to talk to just email/PM me I'm here for ya dude.Health Question & Answer