Why is this such a sensitive thing for him? whats wrong here?!
Question: Why is this such a sensitive thing for him.? whats wrong here.?
I am 25 and am from New York and work there but am living in New Jersey with my husband of 4 months. His job involves traveling and i am getting really tired of traveling into the city for my job.I have asked my husband a few times if he would be into the idea of moving to NY but constantly says NO! i moved everything i had to be with him here. He tells me to leave my job & get one here but i work in a major NY salon and have worked really hard to get where i am to just leave it. When he is away i am always alone as all my really good friends are in NY. also my husband has gotten slightly distant with me lately, and isn't the affectionate guy he was and is almost always with the guys. He use to treat me like the only thing that matters to him. Did marriage change him.?
Please help im so confusedHealth Question & Answer
Please help im so confusedHealth Question & Answer
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I'm sorry but i think your husband is extremely selfish. How can he tell you to quit your job.? You shouldn't stand for it. and you need to take a stand. Why must you be the only one making changes in your life.? why must you leave your friends behind and be all alone, while he is at work traveling.? He is just extremely selfish, guys like that always piss me off! Why should it matter to him where you guys live if he isn't even home most of the time. I don't think marriage changed him, i think he's always been this way, but you just didn't notice it before. You must take a stand, tell him you will be moving by putting your house you have now for sale. And if he wants to have any say in the house or appartment you're both going to be getting he'd better get his act together and help you look for one.Health Question & Answer
I'm sorry that this is going on in your relationship, and you feel so isolated. Instead of making any assumptions, you really just need to sit down with him and talk. If he is unwilling, you may have an even bigger problem on your hands. It could be a number of things that is making him distant.Health Question & Answer
he sounds a bit ungrateful.
tell him what you just said to get through to him.
tell him you moved everything for him, and you expect something back
he's very unfair to tell you to just quit your job to get one in NY when you've already moved there for himHealth Question & Answer
tell him what you just said to get through to him.
tell him you moved everything for him, and you expect something back
he's very unfair to tell you to just quit your job to get one in NY when you've already moved there for himHealth Question & Answer
I dont think he wants you with your friends all the time. Its about trusting issues, which is half way sensible because he travels. Why dont you move at least closer to your job.? Somewhere in between.? compromise.
Everyone hates wasting hours on traffic, he should understand.. at least somewhat.Health Question & Answer
Everyone hates wasting hours on traffic, he should understand.. at least somewhat.Health Question & Answer
you talked to him tell him what you wanted in your life. its part of marriage both of you should be helping each other. communication is the best way in a relationship especially in marriage from there you will see and think of what you have to do.Health Question & Answer
You really have to talk to him about how you feel. If the relationship means anything he will listen. If he still doesn't understand than you do need to move out. Nothing compares to happiness and the company of friends.Health Question & Answer
Women are just crazy and you have to admit it yourself you are probably the cause of this change because you think the world is yours and hes your *****....since you said hes always with the guys maybe you turned him gayHealth Question & Answer
I think that you should talk to him. Tell him that you need to go over things. Don't keep it inside, save your marriage and your soul.Health Question & Answer
probably he thinks he go you, and anything he does would not affect your marriage, anything bad happens, show him whos boss... move outHealth Question & Answer
[My personal opinion:] marriage DOES change a person. Its funny what a little piece of paper and a few words will do to a good relationship.
[The facts:] working hard and for long hours can cause one to lose focus on things. Including the relationship.
Of course he doesn't want to move, that would be too much work! If you weigh the pros and cons, and you think you can better your life by moving then MOVE. If he travels a lot then wtf does it matter where you live as long as he has a place to call home.?Health Question & Answer
[The facts:] working hard and for long hours can cause one to lose focus on things. Including the relationship.
Of course he doesn't want to move, that would be too much work! If you weigh the pros and cons, and you think you can better your life by moving then MOVE. If he travels a lot then wtf does it matter where you live as long as he has a place to call home.?Health Question & Answer