I don't know what to do... Somebody help me please... ?!


Question: I don't know what to do... Somebody help me please... .?
I'm a 21 year old college student; who has had a difficult past. I was sexually abused for two years as a young child; I was raped as a teenager; and I'm addicted to cutting. I can easily say that I haven't had an easy life so far; I've dealt with a lot and I had to deal with everything on my own because no one has ever been there for me. Within the last year I started talking to one of my teachers (college) and she's really helped me. She continuously reassures me that I'm welcome to talk to her whenever I need someone; but as much as I would like to talk to her more often sometimes I feel guilty that I'm taking up too much of her time. *Am I wrong to feel guilty.?* Another issue I'm having is that I really trust her and feel close to her when we are together, but should there still be a limit to our relationship.? *Is there a specific point at which our relationship is no longer student/teacher or just when we feel it is no longer a student/teacher relationship.?* Furthermore, is there any hope of having a more "friend/casual" relationship with her in the future.?

Any suggestions, comments or advice would be greatly appreciated :)


*For the record, I'd like to mention that I'm seeing a counselor, psychologist and 2 psychiatrists in order to help me deal with the more profound issues I have; but speaking to her in and of itself helps me more than they do*Health Question & Answer


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If she has told you that you are welcome to come to her with any problems you might have and she will help you, I can see that this is a very caring person who wants to see you happy. She is no only your teacher, but she is also your friend.
Don't feel guilty about talking with her, be happy that you have someone who wants to talk with you and remember: someday, someone might come to you and say "I really need someone to talk to." And you will be inspired by this teacher to do the same for that person as she is doing for you.Health Question & Answer

sure there can be a casual friend relationship in the future...just tell her that you can really open up and feel comfterable around her...she will catch the drift....no you shouldnt feel guilty for taking up her time, she allows it...

and i admire your courage as wellHealth Question & Answer

As long as you are a student in college the relationship you have with the teacher is the one you should have. It would be inappropriate to expect it to be more casual. After you graduate you may stay in touch and then things may change.Health Question & Answer

i dont think you should feel guilty.? because its your choice.. not unless your teacher dont like it.. since she is also willing to be your friend then why not.?.?Health Question & Answer

No, you're not wrong to feel guilty.

One thing you have to get over is feeling WRONG about your feelings. There's no right way to feel. If you feel guilty, you feel guilty.

I'm going to say in the same breath, that I don't think you should feel guilty--but what I think doesn't matter. What you think does.

I can't say I empathize with your situation, but I sure as hell sympathize. It sounds like you've had a rough time--but the fact that you're getting help is a positive sign. Whether this comes from a teacher or a professional therapist doesn't matter, as long as it helps you.

I tend to feel guilty a lot--I'm really unsure of myself, and I always feel guilty for taking up my friend's time with talk about my problems, or my life. After a while, she pointed out to me that she LIKED being the person I bitched to--it made her feel like she could help me, even just by listening.

So I'm sure that your teacher doesn't mind you talking to her. If it helps you and is a positive thing, I can't imagine her having a problem with it.

And I totally believe it's possible to be friends with a teacher. Go for it. Teachers are just a job-- these are intelligent, motivated people with a lot of knowledge to share, and can be some of the most amazing friends ever.

I'm only a senior in high school, but one of my closest "friends"--in that it's a person with whom I feel comfortable sharing my problems, talking about my successes, spending time with, eating meals with--is my school's librarian.

Another teacher at my school has a flock of students who adore her. She makes them lunch and takes them shopping; they speak on every subject and there is much mutual learning (one of the students is teaching the Teacher how to ride a horse for the first time ever)

Teachers have a lot to offer. As long as you're comfortable--again, emphasis on YOU and YOUR comfort level--there's no reason to cut off a potential friendship based on nothing but a profession or job.

You will always have the student/teacher relationship, because IN TERMS OF JOBS that's what you are.

You also could be Mentor/Grasshopper ;) or Friend/Friend

it depends on how you look at it.

I wish you nothing but the best of luck, and hope you find what you're looking for in life

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Don't feel bad or sorry if she is welcoming and helping towards you.
I understand how you feel, I have had a bad past and have had a lot of the same emotions you are going through.
If you wanna talk to me you can email me, bmwmusicgirl@Yahoo.com.
I'd be more than happy to talk with you.

I hope everything will work out eventually. Smile, it helps! =)Health Question & Answer



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