Is this bullying or am I being over sensitive?!
Question: Is this bullying or am I being over sensitive.?
On my school bus there is a group of girls always staring at me and they seem to be talking about me a lot...Im really shy and quiet...well anyway, it annoys me that they talk about me but I try to ignore them and today they were saying hi to me but not in a friendly way so I muttered hi to them and then they were like..."geez you are soooooo talkative start a conversation why don you" and they were being sarcastic and then staring at me until I got off the bus. I know that isnt a bug deal but little things like that really gets to me cause I lack confidence around people and I have bad posture (so bad that I cant correct it quickly) what should I do.? I also have social anxiety so its kinda hard for me...Health Question & Answer
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Hi Holly,
Yes, I would consider this as a form of bullying. First thing to do is to move where you sit on the bus, make sure it's far away from where they are. Try to be within earshot of the bus driver. also, when everyone gets off the bus and if you can still catch the driver then hop back on quickly and talk to the driver if you can to let him or her know what's going on. They will probably keep an eye out for you if they know what's happening.
In fact, tell everyone, your parents, your siblings if you have any and your teachers.
These girls obviously don't have anything better to do with their time and if I was you I would even put them in their place - on the bus perhaps. The next time they say something to you, you could really raise your voice and ask them why they are laughing and picking on you. They won't expect it and it might shut them up. Especially if the driver overhears.
Try to make some friends on the bus with some of the other kids if you can. Remember to stick up for yourself. Nobody has the right to treat you badly - not ever.
Being a bit different can be really hard sometimes but don't forget that you are better than they are. One day you will prove that to the whole world and it won't seem so bad. Right now, remember that you have everything going for you and nothing can stand in your way. Try to work on building up your self confidence. Stand in front of that mirror and tell your reflection how much you love her. How she is perfect in every way and that everyone loves you too. You will be surprised at how much better you feel when you practice this and you know what, it does come true. What you think about yourself and what you see in yourself is what others will start to see too. Try it and see what happens. When you start to ooze confidence those girls will likely start to back off because they won't see you as someone who is helpless.
Please do make sure that people know what's going on though. This is really important because you may need them to back you up one day. Most of all, ignore them as much as you can. They are stupid and ignorant and they will get theirs back one day too. What goes around comes around and you can believe that 100%.
Do you know what I would do if I was there with you.?
I would step in and confront those girls and give them a big talking to. I'd ask them if it made them feel better about themselves to pick on someone else. I would go through them so badly that they wouldn't dare talk to you again. I am obviously older than you and I could get away with that. This is why I say tell your parents and teachers. Those girls might need a good ear bashing one day.
Keep your chin up in the meantime, keep practicing at getting your posture right, don't give in and don't ever ever think that you are anything less than wonderful.
I think you have a pretty good cheer squad right here and you make sure that you come back any time with anything you need help with.
Definately thinking of you!Health Question & Answer
Yes, I would consider this as a form of bullying. First thing to do is to move where you sit on the bus, make sure it's far away from where they are. Try to be within earshot of the bus driver. also, when everyone gets off the bus and if you can still catch the driver then hop back on quickly and talk to the driver if you can to let him or her know what's going on. They will probably keep an eye out for you if they know what's happening.
In fact, tell everyone, your parents, your siblings if you have any and your teachers.
These girls obviously don't have anything better to do with their time and if I was you I would even put them in their place - on the bus perhaps. The next time they say something to you, you could really raise your voice and ask them why they are laughing and picking on you. They won't expect it and it might shut them up. Especially if the driver overhears.
Try to make some friends on the bus with some of the other kids if you can. Remember to stick up for yourself. Nobody has the right to treat you badly - not ever.
Being a bit different can be really hard sometimes but don't forget that you are better than they are. One day you will prove that to the whole world and it won't seem so bad. Right now, remember that you have everything going for you and nothing can stand in your way. Try to work on building up your self confidence. Stand in front of that mirror and tell your reflection how much you love her. How she is perfect in every way and that everyone loves you too. You will be surprised at how much better you feel when you practice this and you know what, it does come true. What you think about yourself and what you see in yourself is what others will start to see too. Try it and see what happens. When you start to ooze confidence those girls will likely start to back off because they won't see you as someone who is helpless.
Please do make sure that people know what's going on though. This is really important because you may need them to back you up one day. Most of all, ignore them as much as you can. They are stupid and ignorant and they will get theirs back one day too. What goes around comes around and you can believe that 100%.
Do you know what I would do if I was there with you.?
I would step in and confront those girls and give them a big talking to. I'd ask them if it made them feel better about themselves to pick on someone else. I would go through them so badly that they wouldn't dare talk to you again. I am obviously older than you and I could get away with that. This is why I say tell your parents and teachers. Those girls might need a good ear bashing one day.
Keep your chin up in the meantime, keep practicing at getting your posture right, don't give in and don't ever ever think that you are anything less than wonderful.
I think you have a pretty good cheer squad right here and you make sure that you come back any time with anything you need help with.
Definately thinking of you!Health Question & Answer
Well, I consider it bullying because they have no right to be so rude. You should just say hi to someone and just see what happens. I'm shy too so normally I need some motivation when i wanna make friends. Just try to talk to someone who you know is nice or seems kind. they'll take you under their wing and then you'll become friends with their friends and you won't be lonely any more.Health Question & Answer
Well I don't think u need anyone to stick up for you. You need to stick up for ur self. Learn to like and respect your self and other people will follow. U sound like a nice person u should have no problems making friends if u just try. Everyone is shy inside u just have swallow it and move forward. Good luck. And don't mind those girls, next time just smile and keep walking. Kill them with kindness. :)Health Question & Answer
aww poor hunny baby :(
best thing u can do is totaly do something with ur life, then when ur hugly sucesful and there check out chjicks at woolies run it in their faces!
sucess is the best revenge after allHealth Question & Answer
best thing u can do is totaly do something with ur life, then when ur hugly sucesful and there check out chjicks at woolies run it in their faces!
sucess is the best revenge after allHealth Question & Answer
bill gateswas bullied at school... look at him nowHealth Question & Answer
gee that all sounds really horrible some people can be so cruel.
Why dont you just talk to them.? You may discover that they want to be your friend or not and in that case tell em to get lost.
You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself many people have things wrong with their appearance but dont let them get in the way of having a great life and friends.
Try and build your social skills think about what you would say in a conversation with people you know that you are a good person and always ask questions back like whats your name where do you live what tv shows do you watch all that sort of stuff make people interested in youHealth Question & Answer
Why dont you just talk to them.? You may discover that they want to be your friend or not and in that case tell em to get lost.
You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself many people have things wrong with their appearance but dont let them get in the way of having a great life and friends.
Try and build your social skills think about what you would say in a conversation with people you know that you are a good person and always ask questions back like whats your name where do you live what tv shows do you watch all that sort of stuff make people interested in youHealth Question & Answer
They are being obnoxious, bullying or teasing, yes. I wouldn't say Hi to them anymore.
If you can't make friends at school, try somewhere outside of school, like a church or a hobby - take a class in sewing or art or volunteer at an animal shelter. It's hard to advise you since I don't know your interests. Try talking to people at school who seem nice. Maybe you can start some good friendships. You may have to take some initiative in finding new friends, and it may not happen overnight, so keep at it. The more you are around nice people the less the sarcastic ones will bother you. You will feel better and they will sense it and leave you alone.Health Question & Answer
If you can't make friends at school, try somewhere outside of school, like a church or a hobby - take a class in sewing or art or volunteer at an animal shelter. It's hard to advise you since I don't know your interests. Try talking to people at school who seem nice. Maybe you can start some good friendships. You may have to take some initiative in finding new friends, and it may not happen overnight, so keep at it. The more you are around nice people the less the sarcastic ones will bother you. You will feel better and they will sense it and leave you alone.Health Question & Answer
I guess it is bullying, because it's done to make you feel bad. It's very typical of bullying done by girls, which is usually fairly subtle and wouldn't seem like much unless you were the victim of it. I'm really sorry that people are like this. School is usually the worst place for bullying, because it's so concentrated, and your stuck in that environment for several hours every day. Believe me when I say that it gets better when you're older and at collage, or out in the workforce. Just try to be friendly and open, but ignore people if they're being horrible. It just shows how weak, self-loathing and petty people like that are. You'll meet other, nicer people, and the shallow, horrible ones won't seem to matter anymore. If you get really sad and lonely, you can try calling a helpline, or joining a chat room for victims of bullying. Or you could message me, if you like.
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Oh, I feel so bad for you! ): Well I would say that you should talk to a therapist and find people to help you. . . i know you have some of that social anxiety and such but talk to ur parents about that. just ask them if you can see a counselor and maybe get medication for that stuff. and go online and see if there are ways u can improve your posture like if you wear something that will straighten it up or something like that!
Bottom Line, Get A Counselor! I Would Talk To You But I Would Get In Trouble With My Parents.
And if those girls hurt ur feelings like that then it is considered bullying in my book! I'm sensitive too but that is bullying. You just need counseling though is all and guidance to help you out.
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Bottom Line, Get A Counselor! I Would Talk To You But I Would Get In Trouble With My Parents.
And if those girls hurt ur feelings like that then it is considered bullying in my book! I'm sensitive too but that is bullying. You just need counseling though is all and guidance to help you out.
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First off, don't let those betches' get you!!! They are being mean........girls do that in highschool. And you're not being over sensitive, that would hurt my feelings too :( I remember being bullied too, and the older I got, the more confident I got. Sometimes people can tell you to gain self confidence, but it's not that easy. For me, I found something I was really good at, and the more people complemented me, the better I felt about myself overall. Social anxiety is hard to overcome too, especially when you don't really have anyone you can talk to. All these things will get easier the older you get........I PROMISE........but in the mean time all you can do it try to ignore those caddy wenches, and just focus on getting a good education and doing something with your life. Happiness and success will be your best revenge ;) Good luck hun ;)Health Question & Answer
I think that you should find friends that will like you for you.
All it takes is some work on your part by finding out who you are and being yourself. There will always be people out there who will like you for who YOU are because once you start being fake, people can see that.
For the bullies, I would just ignore them. I know sometimes their words or actions might hurt, but honestly it's not worth it to let little stuff, especially little people like that, to bother you. You seem like a great person, and I know that with work you'll soon be having great friends that you can have fun with.
Best of luck. :)Health Question & Answer
All it takes is some work on your part by finding out who you are and being yourself. There will always be people out there who will like you for who YOU are because once you start being fake, people can see that.
For the bullies, I would just ignore them. I know sometimes their words or actions might hurt, but honestly it's not worth it to let little stuff, especially little people like that, to bother you. You seem like a great person, and I know that with work you'll soon be having great friends that you can have fun with.
Best of luck. :)Health Question & Answer
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