Why can't I accept myself?!


Question: Why can't I accept myself.?
I cannot accept who I am. I constantly think I have so many problems..and because of this thinking..I have developed problems...problems in school, problems making friends, problems with family. All of these problems have made me lose my self-esteem. I am so unsure of myself.

I never realized how true the saying, "You cannot love others until you love yourself" is, until now.

I can no longer connect with people. I want out of this

How can I do this.?Health Question & Answer


Answers:
how old are you.? if you're in your younger teens then you're not alone.

if you're older, then maybe you're having problems connecting with others and yourself.

try not to think too hard to discover yourself; go with your first instinct. first do things for yourself, and dont mold yourself to be what others want to see; its a big mistake i made.

what i would do when i felt the same way you did was literally, to sit there in front of the mirror and list all the good qualities about me- and id keep repeating them until i belived it. i also rewarded myslef for all the accomplishments i made, until i eventually started builidng up confidence again.

love yourself the way you are; i dont know if you're religious or not; and excuse me if you're not, but God made you the way you are for a reason. Accept that reason, and accept yourself.

once you start feeling better about yourself, it will send off good vibes to oteher people, and they're gonna wanna hang around you more-
its all a dominoe effect

I hope that helps,

ShennyHealth Question & Answer

Go to the nearest hospital and volunteer. If not, volunteer to help feed the homeless at night. Every city has some sort of catering.

Until you have met the unfortunate you can never appreciate your own good fortune. It sounds as if you are not co-operating with family and friends, and maybe you are arguing about the pointlessness of life or something.? In primitive times, if we did not hunt for our food and make ourselves a shelter, we perished. The realities of life are that we need to put in some effort, and that 'putting in' is where we get our self-esteem.Health Question & Answer

Try reconecting with yourself. Go outside and have fun with what you like to do.Forget about your problems for at least one day dont think about the past but about the present right now. Once you have found yourself again you alone will find how to connect with people and grow your self-esteem. Do what you like best.

Me for example when i feel low books are my consolation.Health Question & Answer

gurl..life is real short your made like your made if you have a problem with your appeance its easy MAKEOVER but that shouldnt be imporatant at all you lack sonfidence and self esteem if you be more free and careless living life day by day not a worry in your head about what others think thats when youll truly except yourself god made you how you are for a reason be you and only truly you and keep in your ead youll never change the real aspects of your true inner selfHealth Question & Answer

Who do you care about most in the world.? Imagine that that person had the same issues that you are describing. What would you say to her/him.? Think about it. Well when you have that image in your head make yourself that person and say things things to YOU. You need to be on your own side. The only person who is guaranteed to always be there is YOU. If you don't have yourself for a friend then you got problems. Just decide to do it then do it.Health Question & Answer

Therapy.?Health Question & Answer

I am dyslexic (a thinking disorder). I had a very hard time communicating with everyone verbally and had a very hard time doing well at school. I was down for a long while, everyone kept calling me stupid etc. Then I just coudn't take it anymore. So I just walked into my woods and and stayed there for a long time. I fell into a meditative state and all of a sudden felt calm. I sometimes have a very hard time excepting who I am. Because I can't think like normal people. But do you have any skills that make you stand out as a person. I don't want to sound like a creep, but i would like to help you. I know exactly what it feels like. email me at kungfuhero15@aol.com. I think that by helping you, I can also understand myself a little more.Health Question & Answer

...I..used to be like you.The only thing I say is to believe in yourself.No matter what is bringing you down, no matter what other people say, you must believe in yourself.You don't have to love yourself in order to do this.These aren't called problems, more like something that drags you down.If, you are an introvert, I can really relate.When you are really sad, you can try to listen to music or write poems.It will help you express how you feel.You have a long way to go in life, there will eventually be someone who will understand you and care for you no matter what.Life is all about walking different paths and meeting new beginnings.Even if you denied that person, that person will never ignore you nor leave you.Even if you think "It's no use" or "I can't do it" or "I'll just give up on life" or "..I can't accept myself".There are others who do accept you, and you must accept that.The more you hide your true self to others, the more people will care about you, and will be worried.If you say "Everyone in the world hates me"You're wrong.Even I, someone you don't even know, care about you.Because, if you walk on this earth, you are a friend.I bet you're a really good person.Don't think about the negatives, and try to live life.Life can be really tough sometimes and even depressing, but this can maybe be your last chance to do something you always wanted to do.Make friends, smile and be happy with who you are.No matter what.Health Question & Answer



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