How to be confident so I can learn to freakin live?!?!
Question: How to be confident so I can learn to freakin live.?!.?
I hate my life. I hate my life because I make my life suck. I have nobody to blame but myself. So before you lecture me, I already know.
I don't know why, but I'm NOT confident. I've done three things in this life and thats: have kids, get my GED with scores of 49-49-49-50-50 *out of fifty*, get married. Besides those three things, my lack of confidence is RUINING my life.
Let me give you some examples:
I tried to go to college for my Masters in computer engineering, but then I dropped out.
When I was little, I really wanted to take ballet. My dad took me to the class- I screamed and got scared- then I left. (I wish he made me stay.)
I got fired from my first job as a photographer for lack of confidence.
I can't swim.
I now want to go to college to be a naturopathic doctor, but I feel like I won't succeed.
I can type 156 words per minute, unless someone is watching me.
I can read 475 words per minute on average, unless I'm reading out loud. Then I stammer.
I bought a car, I got my permit (which is now expired and I sold my car), and yet I'm still unable to drive at the age of 21. I HAVE to learn how to drive, my husbands deploying to Afghanistan in June.
I want to work so bad but I can't drive and I have terrible communication skills because I'm not confident, and because I stammer, and because I am scared.
My lack of confidence is ruining my life. I don't know how to change that. I've been abused and put down by my exboyfriend for so long, I grew up in a family of drug addicts and two parents who don't work. (My dad is on disability and my mom is on welfare.) And, my grandma NEVER drove. EVER.
I want to do something with my life, but it seems impossible.Health Question & Answer
I don't know why, but I'm NOT confident. I've done three things in this life and thats: have kids, get my GED with scores of 49-49-49-50-50 *out of fifty*, get married. Besides those three things, my lack of confidence is RUINING my life.
Let me give you some examples:
I tried to go to college for my Masters in computer engineering, but then I dropped out.
When I was little, I really wanted to take ballet. My dad took me to the class- I screamed and got scared- then I left. (I wish he made me stay.)
I got fired from my first job as a photographer for lack of confidence.
I can't swim.
I now want to go to college to be a naturopathic doctor, but I feel like I won't succeed.
I can type 156 words per minute, unless someone is watching me.
I can read 475 words per minute on average, unless I'm reading out loud. Then I stammer.
I bought a car, I got my permit (which is now expired and I sold my car), and yet I'm still unable to drive at the age of 21. I HAVE to learn how to drive, my husbands deploying to Afghanistan in June.
I want to work so bad but I can't drive and I have terrible communication skills because I'm not confident, and because I stammer, and because I am scared.
My lack of confidence is ruining my life. I don't know how to change that. I've been abused and put down by my exboyfriend for so long, I grew up in a family of drug addicts and two parents who don't work. (My dad is on disability and my mom is on welfare.) And, my grandma NEVER drove. EVER.
I want to do something with my life, but it seems impossible.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Helping others. This helps me keep my mind off negative things. You are still in 1 piece girlfriend, that is amazing. Focus on the positive things. Write down things that need improvement as well.Health Question & Answer
You are focusing on your failures and problems, and that's why you are having self confidence issues.
If you want to have confidence in yourself then it starts in your mind. Start focusing on your success's, and strengths.
yea it's that simple.Health Question & Answer
If you want to have confidence in yourself then it starts in your mind. Start focusing on your success's, and strengths.
yea it's that simple.Health Question & Answer
Okay, stop worrying about what you cant do and start remembering all the things you are wonderful at. Take time out of your day to just do things that you enjoy. This will help you feel better. Another thing I would try is looking in the mirror and telling yourself out loud that you can do anything you want to and nothing will hold you back. also think about the fact that you wouldn't be married if you weren't worth something. Marriage is a sign that someone else saw how amazing you were now all you need to do is find that in yourself. You are not your parents or your grandma you are you, you are your own person and stop trying to be them and worry about the people who actually take the time to make you happy.Health Question & Answer
I have a question for you. Can you name one or two things that you completed but still failed at.? If so which do you feal worse about the times you tried finished and failed OR the times you just gave up.?.?.? Most say the times they gave up hurt worse... I think like most people as you get into those things you instead of taking those classes day by day and simply keep swimming along you start to view it all at once and then become overwhelmed with the whole things and convince yourself its of no use your going to fail anyways then you stop and give up..... The key and you wont believe this till you digest it which might take years... the key is to ignroe that and concentrate on the day concentrate on the word... concentrate on your fingures....... You are confident, your are brave, you are a winner. you just need to see the one day the one word the one fingure and forget your bad thoughts..... Just keep swimming and ignore your own worries and you WILL succeed. Its notthe world or your confidance that is waining... you are simply taking the whole world into yourself your whole life into yourself and Im sorry no one can support it all NO ONE..... those people you think are succeding and you there is no diffrence except the presure you are putting on yourself.... just keep swimming as dorie would say and you will succeed.Health Question & Answer
Nice accomplishments, but I had to learn the hard way that it doesn't matter what you do, it's how you do it, and if you enjoy it.
I mean there are people in third world countries that are happy living a simple life, and this is because of less guidelines and comparisons. They just do what they can and live in that moment. I'm not saying everyone is like that but I'm trying to give an example. Then there are celebrities miserable even though they are filthy rich and get all this attention.
It's all about going easy on yourself, and saying this is enough. Keep it as simple as you can. Cause life can be very simple or complicated at the same time. A lot or more doesn't mean better. It's all about balance and acceptance.
Understand that you are special and you are only you, you are the only one that sees, feels, knows, and thinks what you do.
Stop labeling things as much if you do, like perfect or good. Stop evaluating and just do/be. Just do things based off of your own interests and don't think of what others think at all. Once you start feeling free it may be weird at first to feel so much at ease, but you'll get use to it and enjoy more.
I'll leave you with a quote:
To live for results would be to sentence myself to continuous frustration. My only sure reward is in my actions and not from them.
- Hugh PratherHealth Question & Answer
I mean there are people in third world countries that are happy living a simple life, and this is because of less guidelines and comparisons. They just do what they can and live in that moment. I'm not saying everyone is like that but I'm trying to give an example. Then there are celebrities miserable even though they are filthy rich and get all this attention.
It's all about going easy on yourself, and saying this is enough. Keep it as simple as you can. Cause life can be very simple or complicated at the same time. A lot or more doesn't mean better. It's all about balance and acceptance.
Understand that you are special and you are only you, you are the only one that sees, feels, knows, and thinks what you do.
Stop labeling things as much if you do, like perfect or good. Stop evaluating and just do/be. Just do things based off of your own interests and don't think of what others think at all. Once you start feeling free it may be weird at first to feel so much at ease, but you'll get use to it and enjoy more.
I'll leave you with a quote:
To live for results would be to sentence myself to continuous frustration. My only sure reward is in my actions and not from them.
- Hugh PratherHealth Question & Answer
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