How to keep faith and stop being depressed?!
Question: How to keep faith and stop being depressed.?
Ok, first let me explain to you guys that I hope there are people
out there that actually want to help instead of giving smart-*** answers. I really feel messed up at a time like this so please
try to be sincere, thanks!
Well I am currently 21 years old, turning 22 and I no longer
find any happiness in my life. Though I have nobody else to blame
but myself for feeling this way, I just can't help it. I am not
in school because I chose the stupid thing to do awhile back - dropout.
Everyday I look at people and they look so...happy. They're lives
look so productive and full of joy. I myself try to be as active as I can
while I am at home. Recently I sleep early, wake up early, go for jogs,
exercise, etc. I have been layed off from my job and its been almost
3 months without work. I have a girlfriend and she does work, and it
makes me feel like **** because she has been taking care of me ever
since i have been layed off. I have been trying to look for work but
nobody ever calls me back. Trust me, I have been trying really hard
and it dosen't mean im gonna stop trying. Lately I have been developing
a kind of stalkish behavior on facebook. Since I only see my girlfriend
on the weekends, during the weekdays I am at home alone for almost
the whole day. So I have nobody to talk to and nothing to do. Sometimes
I think I am going crazy from all this...
I know I should keep my head up and there are going to be better
days after this...but I just don't have any faith or will anymore..
Its like theres so much stress on my shoulders, I don't even know
what to do anymore. I want to get back into school in september,
to enroll myself in college so that I wouldn't be a dumbass dropout.
But at the same time, I dont have a dollar because im broke, and have
no job at all. Sometimes when I feel really depressed at home I sit
about it and actually cry because I am almost a 22 year old man sitting
at home doing absolutely nothing! Its like im in jail at home.
What should I do guys...? Does anybody else feel like this.? Or have
felt like this before.? Let me know and share your thoughts and experiences.
Sincerely,
- JasonHealth Question & Answer
out there that actually want to help instead of giving smart-*** answers. I really feel messed up at a time like this so please
try to be sincere, thanks!
Well I am currently 21 years old, turning 22 and I no longer
find any happiness in my life. Though I have nobody else to blame
but myself for feeling this way, I just can't help it. I am not
in school because I chose the stupid thing to do awhile back - dropout.
Everyday I look at people and they look so...happy. They're lives
look so productive and full of joy. I myself try to be as active as I can
while I am at home. Recently I sleep early, wake up early, go for jogs,
exercise, etc. I have been layed off from my job and its been almost
3 months without work. I have a girlfriend and she does work, and it
makes me feel like **** because she has been taking care of me ever
since i have been layed off. I have been trying to look for work but
nobody ever calls me back. Trust me, I have been trying really hard
and it dosen't mean im gonna stop trying. Lately I have been developing
a kind of stalkish behavior on facebook. Since I only see my girlfriend
on the weekends, during the weekdays I am at home alone for almost
the whole day. So I have nobody to talk to and nothing to do. Sometimes
I think I am going crazy from all this...
I know I should keep my head up and there are going to be better
days after this...but I just don't have any faith or will anymore..
Its like theres so much stress on my shoulders, I don't even know
what to do anymore. I want to get back into school in september,
to enroll myself in college so that I wouldn't be a dumbass dropout.
But at the same time, I dont have a dollar because im broke, and have
no job at all. Sometimes when I feel really depressed at home I sit
about it and actually cry because I am almost a 22 year old man sitting
at home doing absolutely nothing! Its like im in jail at home.
What should I do guys...? Does anybody else feel like this.? Or have
felt like this before.? Let me know and share your thoughts and experiences.
Sincerely,
- JasonHealth Question & Answer
Answers:
Be thankful you have a girlfriend. Back in September I had a motorcycle accident and messed up my wrist. A month later I got let go from my job. Bike was totalled, and then me and my girlfriend had a bad breakup after that. I came back home, and in total it was about 4 months unemployed, nothing to do, replaying the breakup over and over and nobody to hang out with or talk to. I got a little job now, but Im still alone, finding it hard to socialize and wondering what it means to be happy. Im finding it hard to motivate myself, let alone you lol. Anyways your not alone.Health Question & Answer
Hi Jason,
Im so sorry to hear about your situation! I really am, because i know how difficult it can be keeping the faith when things are really hard!!! Im about your age, and i went through the same sort of thing for the last two years with my depression. But i guarentee you...the sun will come out again. just keep on being active, keep yourself out there, and dont stop trying!!!! hold on!!! when things are really difficult its really helpful to get professional help (that is what i did, counselling and medication). there are free services out there, your local university, public health care system. Hold on...it will get better!!!
JaneHealth Question & Answer
Im so sorry to hear about your situation! I really am, because i know how difficult it can be keeping the faith when things are really hard!!! Im about your age, and i went through the same sort of thing for the last two years with my depression. But i guarentee you...the sun will come out again. just keep on being active, keep yourself out there, and dont stop trying!!!! hold on!!! when things are really difficult its really helpful to get professional help (that is what i did, counselling and medication). there are free services out there, your local university, public health care system. Hold on...it will get better!!!
JaneHealth Question & Answer
Hi Jason,
It depends on what you want. Do you want a bunch of responses telling you they understand or are you ready to change your life.
Let me help you out a bit by explaining what is going on. You are looking at the world through a filter of bad feelings. The feelings I see from you email are blame dumb *** and lonely. When you put all those together and look at the most beautiful thing you can imagine....it will still look like crap.
This makes your life very emotional. The problem with that is that emotions use up a ton of energy. So you feel drained all the time. This happens in your brain as well. The more emotion you are having the less you are able to use the problem solving part of your brain. Then of course because you can't solve problems you feel worse. Then of course you have more emotion and are even less able to solve problems.
You brain function is literally out of balance. You are reacting without thinking. Each reaction is to an emotion. With usually leads to a worse problem. The cycle just continues until you do something to stop it.
So you feel stuck.
The answer is to re balance how your brain works. You want to be able to feel emotion but still react to problems by adapting and solving them.
The trick is this. You need to find things in your life that feel good or just even okay. It could be a good memory that makes you happy or even playful. When you have a problem just think of the good think and use it as a filter to look at the problem. Notice if that changes how you feel.
This whole process is called the 3D Mind. You can read about it at
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To break the cycle of depression you have to take action. Play with the ides here and see what you can do.
Tom Vizzini
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It depends on what you want. Do you want a bunch of responses telling you they understand or are you ready to change your life.
Let me help you out a bit by explaining what is going on. You are looking at the world through a filter of bad feelings. The feelings I see from you email are blame dumb *** and lonely. When you put all those together and look at the most beautiful thing you can imagine....it will still look like crap.
This makes your life very emotional. The problem with that is that emotions use up a ton of energy. So you feel drained all the time. This happens in your brain as well. The more emotion you are having the less you are able to use the problem solving part of your brain. Then of course because you can't solve problems you feel worse. Then of course you have more emotion and are even less able to solve problems.
You brain function is literally out of balance. You are reacting without thinking. Each reaction is to an emotion. With usually leads to a worse problem. The cycle just continues until you do something to stop it.
So you feel stuck.
The answer is to re balance how your brain works. You want to be able to feel emotion but still react to problems by adapting and solving them.
The trick is this. You need to find things in your life that feel good or just even okay. It could be a good memory that makes you happy or even playful. When you have a problem just think of the good think and use it as a filter to look at the problem. Notice if that changes how you feel.
This whole process is called the 3D Mind. You can read about it at
.?page_id=394" rel="nofollow">http://www.essential-skills.com/.?page_id...
To break the cycle of depression you have to take action. Play with the ides here and see what you can do.
Tom Vizzini
http://www.essential-skills.comHealth Question & Answer
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I know what you mean with the not being able to find a job thing. I have a college degree and cant even find a job which with everything else is causing me to have anxiety and sleep problems. I think that you just have too much time at home to think and dwell on things and that is causing your happiness to fade. Continue to try hard to find another job (will help tremendiously to have cash flow) and be sure to tell your gf how much you appreciate what she is doing for you. If you dont feel like you can control your feelings go see a family dr and get some advice on what to do. Exercise will help you also from what I heard. Good luck!Health Question & Answer
I have felt like this before. It seems that no matter what you try, nothing works. I lived like this for a long time. Later I found out that I have a chemical imbalance. It is a PHYSICAL problem. Do not think that you are alone in this. Now, I still have ups and downs, but I take medication and go to counseling. It has helped me ALOT. Your perception of others being happy all of the time is not accurate. People are not always happy all of the time. We all have issues. How you choose to view your life has a strong influence of your decisions. And your decisions now are determining your future. You can CHOOSE to look at the good points. For example, be thankful that you have a girl who loves you enough to take care of you during this difficult time and know that one day you will have the opportunity to make it up to her. Make her a nice dinner or rub her feet at night. You have a purpose in life. I know that it may not seem like it right now but you do. I find that prayer really works for me as well. I keep a prayer journal and write in it my feelings. I ask God for help ALL OF THE TIME. Then I problem solve...what can I do to make things better. After doing all that you can to CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY and do what you can to find a job...then don't worry...just pray and trust that God will answer your prayer. It requires faith to hear from God and for Him to intervene on your behalf. Don't loose faith. Keep on believing in Him and know that He is gonna take care of everything. It may not be just like you think it should but it will be the best for your family. God bless.Health Question & Answer