How can I feel more settled and less like I'm just drifting?!
Question: How can I feel more settled and less like I'm just drifting.?
I hope this question isn't too whiny, but I would really like any feedback people have.
I'm 27 years old, and lately the sense that I'm just floating through life is almost overwhelming. I feel so unsettled--like I have no real roots, no real direction, no real home. I have no money and I have very few people I can call friends at this point. I find myself looking through random job offerings in random cities, just looking for any kind of dramatic change. But I worry that this will only be one more thing that makes me feel aimless again.
It's not that I have no life. I've been through college, I went to graduate school in for three years (got my MA) in history before burning out. I now teach history at a few local colleges, and that takes up most of my time (but gives me very little money/companionship).
I just feel like nothing is working. Nothing holds together to make a "life." The last time I felt settled was in college, when I had a bunch of really close friends and...I don't know...a sense that I was where I should be, I guess. I've "lost" most of those friends (various reasons), and I never feel that anymore. I want to, but I don't know what to do next. Any help or feedback is greatly appreciated!Health Question & Answer
I'm 27 years old, and lately the sense that I'm just floating through life is almost overwhelming. I feel so unsettled--like I have no real roots, no real direction, no real home. I have no money and I have very few people I can call friends at this point. I find myself looking through random job offerings in random cities, just looking for any kind of dramatic change. But I worry that this will only be one more thing that makes me feel aimless again.
It's not that I have no life. I've been through college, I went to graduate school in for three years (got my MA) in history before burning out. I now teach history at a few local colleges, and that takes up most of my time (but gives me very little money/companionship).
I just feel like nothing is working. Nothing holds together to make a "life." The last time I felt settled was in college, when I had a bunch of really close friends and...I don't know...a sense that I was where I should be, I guess. I've "lost" most of those friends (various reasons), and I never feel that anymore. I want to, but I don't know what to do next. Any help or feedback is greatly appreciated!Health Question & Answer
Answers:
A couple of thoughts:
1 - Feeling the need to settle into a life path is natural, and it usually starts pronouncing itself in the mid-twenties. Maybe you'll find that life path tomorrow, and maybe you won't for another 20 years - and that's okay. There are plenty of people that don't find their "life's work" until their 40's.
2 - It's possible that you have a slight but chronic depression (dystemia, it's called) that's holding you back. Or maybe you're not following your real dream - you say you got "burnt out" with studying history - is history truly your passion.? (I know an ex-accountant who is now a manager at Starbucks and is much, much happier; many computer professionals leave their desks and get jobs with more human interaction, etc.) Are you exploring your own mental health / family / relationship issues.?
I suggest you start reading various self-help and development books, like The Soul's Code by Thomas Moore. And get a copy of Joseph Campbell "The Power of Myth" on tape. Both of these talk about the very human, very natural process of finding our life purpose. (By the way, Joseph Campbell's work is known to have been a big influence on George Lucas; Luke Skywalker's growth from boy to man, the common steps he had to go through, is exactly the kind of thing Campbell talks about.)
3 - There are many, many people throughout history that have had "greatness thrust upon them." Maybe Destiny has something good in store for you, so maybe the best thing to do is to open your eyes, open your arms, open your heart, go outside and start looking for it.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
1 - Feeling the need to settle into a life path is natural, and it usually starts pronouncing itself in the mid-twenties. Maybe you'll find that life path tomorrow, and maybe you won't for another 20 years - and that's okay. There are plenty of people that don't find their "life's work" until their 40's.
2 - It's possible that you have a slight but chronic depression (dystemia, it's called) that's holding you back. Or maybe you're not following your real dream - you say you got "burnt out" with studying history - is history truly your passion.? (I know an ex-accountant who is now a manager at Starbucks and is much, much happier; many computer professionals leave their desks and get jobs with more human interaction, etc.) Are you exploring your own mental health / family / relationship issues.?
I suggest you start reading various self-help and development books, like The Soul's Code by Thomas Moore. And get a copy of Joseph Campbell "The Power of Myth" on tape. Both of these talk about the very human, very natural process of finding our life purpose. (By the way, Joseph Campbell's work is known to have been a big influence on George Lucas; Luke Skywalker's growth from boy to man, the common steps he had to go through, is exactly the kind of thing Campbell talks about.)
3 - There are many, many people throughout history that have had "greatness thrust upon them." Maybe Destiny has something good in store for you, so maybe the best thing to do is to open your eyes, open your arms, open your heart, go outside and start looking for it.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
Strict discipline and control will help settle things.Health Question & Answer
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Hm... Quite a predicament your in. Well i know this may sound weird or something, but go home! Just get in contact with your parents, or a sibling or an old childhood friend, and just spend time reminiscing. That might make you remember how you felt when you were a kid. When you had dreams of becoming a teacher and having a husband and kids, and being really successful and stuff, ya know.? Or maybe you need to find something you really like... Save up a lot of money, get in your car and just drive and travel around! Road Trips always help me and my mom when we're feeling lost and bored... Even if it's just an hour drive down to MA. It always feels good :) Or why not try finding a great Hobbie... Whether it be knitting, playing an instrument, adopting a dog or a cat or bird, or even something big like taking sky diving lessons or artlessonss.? Something to get you back into gear!
You need a certain drive. Everyone does. And i'm sure that if you find it you'll get out of yourrutt and then you'll be ready! Everything will fall into place, then you can just worry about where to retire to.
Just think positive... Maybe you need to see a pyschologist, or something.? Those sorta things always help :)Health Question & Answer
You need a certain drive. Everyone does. And i'm sure that if you find it you'll get out of yourrutt and then you'll be ready! Everything will fall into place, then you can just worry about where to retire to.
Just think positive... Maybe you need to see a pyschologist, or something.? Those sorta things always help :)Health Question & Answer
it is normal to feel lost in life,i still feel that way sometimes. i would try and meet some people,lonliness is a way to feel depressed. you feel overwhelemed and want change beacause you are wanting a change from a life you aren't happy in.
i would sit down and write a list of things you want out of life that would make you happy,maybe a better job,maybe a better city to live in,and i would set goals to accomplish the list.
if you are unhappy and want a change,it is ok to do things that will make you happy,you only live once and you should do things you want to do.
many people are aimless and feel scared about what to do,that is normal. go to places where people will be and start talking to people,they can help you get a better job or may even turn into friends of yours. you are not alone and i will pray for you. good luck.Health Question & Answer
i would sit down and write a list of things you want out of life that would make you happy,maybe a better job,maybe a better city to live in,and i would set goals to accomplish the list.
if you are unhappy and want a change,it is ok to do things that will make you happy,you only live once and you should do things you want to do.
many people are aimless and feel scared about what to do,that is normal. go to places where people will be and start talking to people,they can help you get a better job or may even turn into friends of yours. you are not alone and i will pray for you. good luck.Health Question & Answer