Am I sick and twisted for thinking this?!


Question: Am I sick and twisted for thinking this.?
My twin (gender unknown but I believe it was a girl) died in utero... obviously that was many many years ago but I don't like to talk about it because it hurts me that I never got to meet my sister and I wish every day that she didn't die. A few weeks ago my friend died. She was a pretty, popular girl and I was always jealous of her. Now sometimes, I hate myself for thinking this and I feel sick just typing it, I feel jealous of her because she can see my sister (I believe in angels, keep your comments about this to yourself) and I can't, and won't be able to for awhile. I feel jealous that she died. Am I sick and twisted for thinking this.?Health Question & Answer


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I think it's normal as long as you don't act on the wish and kill yourself or something which I'm sure you won't do. It's normal. I'm sure you and your sister were very close and connected in utero and I'm sure it's hard to live your life wondering why she didn't get to be born and what your life would be like if she was here.

Don't think of it that you didn't get to meet her. I'm sure you two were interacting in the womb and maybe that's why you feel so attached to her. Even though she didn't live on this earth you can still feel closely attached to someone. also, don't be jealous of your friend. You get to live out the rest of your life and her's got cut short like your sister's did. I know it's hard to enjoy life at times but think about everything you'd be missing out on if you were dead. You'd never get to graduate high school, have children, etc...the best memories of your life.

It's understandable that you are still mourning the fact that your sister has only been a part of a very small part of your life but you have to rejoice in the fact that you are going to live such a good life if you choose to and neither of them have that choice. I believe that your sister is in heaven with God because she was never born into this world and never committed sin. If you pray to God you can ask Him to give her a hug and tell her things for you and He will. God is sweet like that.

According to the Bible, your sister is not an angel but even greater than an angel. Angels are God's messengers. They were created after the heavens and before the earth was created. I think humans are higher than angels because we are the children of God. God created humans in his own image and was incarnate and took human form. Angels are created to ultimately serve God, but to also serve humans. They are the servers of God, we are his children. We humans have things that an angel cannot have, like free will and communion, and angels have something we do not have, which is the ability to see God and live in heaven with him. The only way we can get to heaven is to acknowledge our sin and ask Jesus into our hearts and ask Him to guide us in truth. If you want to be saved and assured to go to heaven click one of the link's below:

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i think it is normal,because you miss her and want to see her again,which you know is after death in heaven. it sounds like depression,maybe you need to talk to a counsler,you may just feel sad and depressed about losing your sister and friend,and feel alone.
your feelings are valid and i am sorry you had to go through this.i believe in god and i would pray to him and your lost ones and ask for help from my sadness. please talk to someone and they will help you with these bad feelings.Health Question & Answer

you are not sick and twisted for thinking of this you just love your sis and wished u seen her but dont think she is lucky for dieing imagone all the people that love you and you love live your life andgreat things will happen on the way sorry usally i am not this dramatic bye ;)Health Question & Answer

It's not really sick or twisted. All of us miss those that pass on. But fret not, soon you too will join the club...and get to see all those that you have missed.Health Question & Answer

No you aren't sick for thinking that, I think you just have a low self-esteem. You need to find ways to feel better about yourself.Health Question & Answer

Naw its not twisted, you miss ya sister. Because ya'll was twins thats why your feelings are so stong.Health Question & Answer

You are a Twisted Sister.Health Question & Answer

i felt the same way when my sister died caues she could see my brother its kHealth Question & Answer

No you aren't.

Have you ever spoken to anyone about the way you feel.? When i was younger i found out that before my mum had me she miscarried a baby boy. It made me sad sometimes, and i wondered what he would've been like. So you aren't alone. It's not something that affected me as much as it seems to for you though.

I really think you would benefit from counselling. Just because you didn't meet doesn't mean you can't grieve for the loss you feel. Counselling would help you to move on, and not feel guilty for feeling things like you feel now. The thoughts you mention could develop into worse things to, leading you to wishing you'd die and suicidal thoughts (not trying to worry you there, just be aware of your moods and feelings, and if they ever go that way get help)

I don't think you are sick or twisted. Would you say that about a friend if they lost a sister, missed them and wanted to see them again.? no.Health Question & Answer



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