My 16-year-old friend was sent to intensive outpatient drug rehab & foster care for 3 months & wont see me?!
Question: My 16-year-old friend was sent to intensive outpatient drug rehab & foster care for 3 months & wont see me.?
He says his foster mom is very anal and wont let him hang out or call me since im in my late 20's..
Plus, he started dating a 23-year-old 'recovering' crystal-meth addict he found from his group therapy.. His foster mom allows that relationship but not ours.. I've always been clean and sober..
Anyway, my friend is bi-polar, ADD, anxiety, h..s.. dropout, parents never married and split, and he now works at micky dees full time..
I went to see him at his work and he basically acknowldged my presence for 5 seconds, but he wouldnt come out to talk to me.. He went in the back hiding..
My question is: do you think he will contact me when he "gets out of foster care" next month or is he blowing me off because he has a new bf or some other reason.? Health Question & Answer
Plus, he started dating a 23-year-old 'recovering' crystal-meth addict he found from his group therapy.. His foster mom allows that relationship but not ours.. I've always been clean and sober..
Anyway, my friend is bi-polar, ADD, anxiety, h..s.. dropout, parents never married and split, and he now works at micky dees full time..
I went to see him at his work and he basically acknowldged my presence for 5 seconds, but he wouldnt come out to talk to me.. He went in the back hiding..
My question is: do you think he will contact me when he "gets out of foster care" next month or is he blowing me off because he has a new bf or some other reason.? Health Question & Answer
Answers:
The thing is he has to get healthy before he should have any relationship.. I know it hurts but if you like or love him he needs to spend 100% of his time working on himself.. He needs learn to love himself first..
As for the "woman in recovery" she might help him - Addicts helping addicts - but if she knows anything about recovery she should not be leading him into a relationship..
12 step programs (AA, NA, Ca) discourage sponsors of the opposite sex and suggest having at least 1 year clean before getting in to a love relation..
Sometimes clean friends enable the addict.. Try a Al-Anon meeting to better understand this and yourself.. Then you can be his friend and help him.. It is a baffling disease and it effects everyone around the addict..
Best of luck - I'll say a little prayer for the two of you..
ps pot is not as dangerous as a lot of the other addictions but it can still mess a person up big time - especially if there are other mental health issues..Health Question & Answer
As for the "woman in recovery" she might help him - Addicts helping addicts - but if she knows anything about recovery she should not be leading him into a relationship..
12 step programs (AA, NA, Ca) discourage sponsors of the opposite sex and suggest having at least 1 year clean before getting in to a love relation..
Sometimes clean friends enable the addict.. Try a Al-Anon meeting to better understand this and yourself.. Then you can be his friend and help him.. It is a baffling disease and it effects everyone around the addict..
Best of luck - I'll say a little prayer for the two of you..
ps pot is not as dangerous as a lot of the other addictions but it can still mess a person up big time - especially if there are other mental health issues..Health Question & Answer
Well, what does a "late 20's" guy want to do with a 16 year old anyway.? He's not of legal age yet.. You should be careful so you are not accused of statutory rape.. Try to find a partner you can relate too more.. Give him his space for now.. Let him get better..Health Question & Answer