What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?!
Question: What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents.?
I know quite a few adults in their late 20's or early 30's who start to see their parents as humans rather than a role model/authority figure.. Many realize that their parents psychologically and emotionally abused them and are still doing it..
Maybe your parents discouraged your aspirations and now you live with low self-esteem, an unsatisfying career; your actions based on fear and self-doubt.. If this has happened to you, please describe what made you decide "enough!' and what gave you the strength to take your power back.?Health Question & Answer
Maybe your parents discouraged your aspirations and now you live with low self-esteem, an unsatisfying career; your actions based on fear and self-doubt.. If this has happened to you, please describe what made you decide "enough!' and what gave you the strength to take your power back.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
I think you hit the nail on the head yourself..
One day you realize they are a person,, another human being.. Not just a role model/ authority figure..
I eventually "grew" up,, for some that takes longer then others with thoes parents lording over you.. But they are just people not Gods & they dont "own" me.. I begin to learn alot about my parents own childhood & abuses & after being so mad at them for so long I pitied them "both".. One for the abuse the other for allowing it.. And that was enough for me,, that was the end of the abuse loop snipped clean & dead..
My son knows his grandparents & I am civil to them.. He will never be allowed to be unsupervised with them & any advise they give me on raising kids is kicked out with the trash.. I have no self-doubt when I look at my son's eyes & smile, when I hear him laugh & giggle.. I have all the strength in the world & I will give it to him to be a strong young healthy boy to live his life the way he would choose.. I used to dream of having a Mommy that would.. Now I am his.. That is my strength..Health Question & Answer
One day you realize they are a person,, another human being.. Not just a role model/ authority figure..
I eventually "grew" up,, for some that takes longer then others with thoes parents lording over you.. But they are just people not Gods & they dont "own" me.. I begin to learn alot about my parents own childhood & abuses & after being so mad at them for so long I pitied them "both".. One for the abuse the other for allowing it.. And that was enough for me,, that was the end of the abuse loop snipped clean & dead..
My son knows his grandparents & I am civil to them.. He will never be allowed to be unsupervised with them & any advise they give me on raising kids is kicked out with the trash.. I have no self-doubt when I look at my son's eyes & smile, when I hear him laugh & giggle.. I have all the strength in the world & I will give it to him to be a strong young healthy boy to live his life the way he would choose.. I used to dream of having a Mommy that would.. Now I am his.. That is my strength..Health Question & Answer
I Started "getting the power back" when I was 15 I am 23 now and we get along great.. My strength came from a desire to get out of my parents house.. My mom was kind of a control freak and it drove me crazy.. I had all the time in the world ( because she grounded me all the time) to think about stuff.. I finally started using logical psychological games against my parents to get what I wanted out of them.. It worked.. Health Question & Answer