Help!!!!!!!!Help!!!!!!!!!... I need serious help?!
Question: Help!!!!!!!!Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You are going off the rails. So, the first thing you must do is to put on the brakes! Otherwise you will just crash and little pieces of you will be all over the place. Find somewhere quiet and peaceful and far away from your shouty father and your brothers and sisters and your friends and all the mayhem where you can sit in silence. Listen to the birds if there are any where you live. Look at a tiny piece of ground in front of you and see how many different living things you can see in just a square foot of ground.
Take a deep breath. Then another. And another.
Now then....
First of all, please do not cut off your hair in a fit of temper. You will regret it so much and will have to wait many years before it is long again. Maybe you will not have lovely long hair again before you are 20. If ever. If it is fried with chemicals and bleach, that is one thing (you have already lost it then, and you're best shaving it off and starting again, resolving not to cut it or colour it again), but if it is just not as perfect as some people, that can be sorted with a bit of tender loving care and gentleness. If you can get it to be waist-length or longer, and unspoilt and natural, then every time it brushes against your arms or your body, it will remind you that there are things in this world that are beautiful.
And it is gentleness that is what you need to learn now. Teaching yourself to be an oasis of calm in all the mayhem, so that the next time your father shouts at you, it will be like water off a duck's back. And if your brothers and sisters push you around, then so what. It is their problem not yours.
I used to get that crap from my ex-wife when I was late bringing my children back. After shouting at me, she would say to the judge that I was an unreliable father and a bad man. I hated it and had to live with it somehow. In the end, I was left on my own. You really have to safeguard as much of you as you can from the shouty people where they can't get at it, and keep it for the nice people you will meet as you go through life.
And try and learn not to be a shouty person yourself, because if you shout, others will only shout back if only because they want to be heard themselves. If you go all quiet, then their shouting starts to sound silly and they'll quieten down too.Health Question & Answer
Take a deep breath. Then another. And another.
Now then....
First of all, please do not cut off your hair in a fit of temper. You will regret it so much and will have to wait many years before it is long again. Maybe you will not have lovely long hair again before you are 20. If ever. If it is fried with chemicals and bleach, that is one thing (you have already lost it then, and you're best shaving it off and starting again, resolving not to cut it or colour it again), but if it is just not as perfect as some people, that can be sorted with a bit of tender loving care and gentleness. If you can get it to be waist-length or longer, and unspoilt and natural, then every time it brushes against your arms or your body, it will remind you that there are things in this world that are beautiful.
And it is gentleness that is what you need to learn now. Teaching yourself to be an oasis of calm in all the mayhem, so that the next time your father shouts at you, it will be like water off a duck's back. And if your brothers and sisters push you around, then so what. It is their problem not yours.
I used to get that crap from my ex-wife when I was late bringing my children back. After shouting at me, she would say to the judge that I was an unreliable father and a bad man. I hated it and had to live with it somehow. In the end, I was left on my own. You really have to safeguard as much of you as you can from the shouty people where they can't get at it, and keep it for the nice people you will meet as you go through life.
And try and learn not to be a shouty person yourself, because if you shout, others will only shout back if only because they want to be heard themselves. If you go all quiet, then their shouting starts to sound silly and they'll quieten down too.Health Question & Answer
If you feel like you can't talk to your parents or your siblings about this, I think the best option would be to talk to your school counselor, or maybe even your pastor at church. It's really really important for you to talk to someone about this, since it's been going on for too long, and no one deserves to be unhappy.
As for your Dad, have you sat down with him and rationally told him how you're feeling.? If not, it might actually be worth a try. If not that, is there another family member who could act as a mediator, like an aunt or grandparent, maybe.?
Another thing that helped me when I was depressed was keeping myself busy. Do something you enjoy, work out, spend time with the people who make you happy...just get out of the house and do something, even if its just taking a walk. I hope this helped a little, and I wish you the very best. Health Question & Answer
As for your Dad, have you sat down with him and rationally told him how you're feeling.? If not, it might actually be worth a try. If not that, is there another family member who could act as a mediator, like an aunt or grandparent, maybe.?
Another thing that helped me when I was depressed was keeping myself busy. Do something you enjoy, work out, spend time with the people who make you happy...just get out of the house and do something, even if its just taking a walk. I hope this helped a little, and I wish you the very best. Health Question & Answer
A previous answer follows. Join mutual interest groups, clubs, associations, sports, gym, & take up classes in yoga, t'ai chi, Pilates, art, self defence, aerobics, creative writing, or ceramics, etc. Consider volunteering, even from home, at first, as a means of changing your focus from your feelings of loneliness, and will help stop useless introspection. Sections 38, & 47 at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris refer, and view section 9, about making friends, being popular, and what to talk about, or avoid, in the Wikihow articles.
Approach people with sensible questions, and find out what they're like, and, for example: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah.? I like archery, and train spotting, but have recently learned not to combine the two." Next: "I'm from Argedargedah, in Australia, Obediah, Where are you from, originally.?" (BTW, It's on the map!)
On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated, and it will give added purpose to your life, as well as helping others. It can also be an indication of the presence of depression, or dysthymia, and there are quizzes for this via sections 1, & 2 (see page R first, then young women's depression, page V, teen depression, and the rest), at ezy build. ~~~
It can't be easy, being a father of 8 children, especially with at least one teenage girl. Surely it's far better that he is concerned about you, than not caring at all what you do. Shouting is just his way; a carryover from dealing with younger children. If you have kids of your own, you will appreciate his position a whole lot more; maybe settle for 2, or 3. Visit your school counselor.
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Approach people with sensible questions, and find out what they're like, and, for example: "What sort of things are you interested in, Obediah.? I like archery, and train spotting, but have recently learned not to combine the two." Next: "I'm from Argedargedah, in Australia, Obediah, Where are you from, originally.?" (BTW, It's on the map!)
On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated, and it will give added purpose to your life, as well as helping others. It can also be an indication of the presence of depression, or dysthymia, and there are quizzes for this via sections 1, & 2 (see page R first, then young women's depression, page V, teen depression, and the rest), at ezy build. ~~~
It can't be easy, being a father of 8 children, especially with at least one teenage girl. Surely it's far better that he is concerned about you, than not caring at all what you do. Shouting is just his way; a carryover from dealing with younger children. If you have kids of your own, you will appreciate his position a whole lot more; maybe settle for 2, or 3. Visit your school counselor.
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Visit these sites:
http://www.boystown.org/hotline/index.as...
http://www.teenline.org/
.?pagename=crisis_hotlineinfo" rel="nofollow">http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServ...
They all have hotlines you can call to talk to people. I would suggest one of the first two. They seem to have some good people to talk to for teens.
Don't worry, things will look up for you soon, as long as you stick it out! They did for me :)
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http://www.boystown.org/hotline/index.as...
http://www.teenline.org/
.?pagename=crisis_hotlineinfo" rel="nofollow">http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServ...
They all have hotlines you can call to talk to people. I would suggest one of the first two. They seem to have some good people to talk to for teens.
Don't worry, things will look up for you soon, as long as you stick it out! They did for me :)
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you should find out what caused this change in your life. If you can pinpoint it find a way to turn your feelings around.
If you are unsure about the cause of your unhappiness, then you should find some one to talk to. from experience if you hold that unhappiness inside, it will just get worse as time goes on.
I hope this helps. Health Question & Answer
If you are unsure about the cause of your unhappiness, then you should find some one to talk to. from experience if you hold that unhappiness inside, it will just get worse as time goes on.
I hope this helps. Health Question & Answer
What makes you happy.?- (dont say eating because then you will get fat and be even more unhappy)
Do things that make you happy. Go for a walk on the beach, connect with nature, feel alive. Listen to happy up beat music that you can dance around to and feel alive to. Invite a friend over and go do some charity work- giving other people happiness always makes me happy!Health Question & Answer
Do things that make you happy. Go for a walk on the beach, connect with nature, feel alive. Listen to happy up beat music that you can dance around to and feel alive to. Invite a friend over and go do some charity work- giving other people happiness always makes me happy!Health Question & Answer
Stop feeling bad about yourself and get your life together. If you have to, see a doctor and talk to him. If not talk to friends. Get involve in some activities do something you know what i mean make friends so you wont be lonely anymore.Health Question & Answer
Well no small or big problem on this planet Earth,where God cannot solve.
I'm assure you,He can help you this things.Matthew 11:29,30
Just come to Jesus.
Why worry if you can pray!
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I'm assure you,He can help you this things.Matthew 11:29,30
Just come to Jesus.
Why worry if you can pray!
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Tell me about it - it's possible that you're depressed! Look up more information on depression, if you have symptoms then consider getting help.Health Question & Answer
well maybe you should tell someone your problem and express your self!! maybe you should ignore what you are having problems with. you should also relax and try to not stress!Health Question & Answer
but wats ur problem, u hant mentioned here, if u cant tlk to parents and ur bro-sis then atleast here u can.Health Question & Answer
you should read a book called the four agreements.Health Question & Answer