Hi, im 23 im an alcoholic. i am currently detoxing and am determined to quit, promlem is i have lost so much ?!
Question: Hi, im 23 im an alcoholic. i am currently detoxing and am determined to quit, promlem is i have lost so much .?
from drinking, job, relationship, in trouble with the law, lost driving licence, and lost all my self respect and confidence, and most of my friends and family, people tell me things will be better without drink but sometimes i feel its too late and im filled with guilt and shame about not realising my drink problem sooner. has anyone had a similar experience and did you get back on trackHealth Question & Answer
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You're lucky that you realised this at 23, I didn't accept it until I was 64.
I went into rehab in 2006 and joined AA, I haven't touched a drop since, I had been drinking for fifty years.
You will find all the details you will require about AA on my source, including the one nearest you, when you go to an AA meeting you will meet a lot of men and women just like yourself, some younger, some older and from all walks of life, you will not have to say or do anything you don't want to, just listen to the similarities between them and yourself.
You will learn that you are not alone with this dreadfull illness that is alcoholism, best of all you will meet people there who have been sober from perhaps one day to twenty or more years, the longest record of sobriety I have met at one is 51 years.
If you want to talk about AA Email me.
We have all lost the things that you mention, the answer is in AA and the 12 step recovery program, detoxing is a good start, check the AA source and join a local group, find a sponsor to take you through the program of recovery.
You will learn how to rid yourself of the guilt and the shame I promise you.
I met Caz at an AA meeting March last year and we were married this July, we have a wonderfull sober life together.
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I went into rehab in 2006 and joined AA, I haven't touched a drop since, I had been drinking for fifty years.
You will find all the details you will require about AA on my source, including the one nearest you, when you go to an AA meeting you will meet a lot of men and women just like yourself, some younger, some older and from all walks of life, you will not have to say or do anything you don't want to, just listen to the similarities between them and yourself.
You will learn that you are not alone with this dreadfull illness that is alcoholism, best of all you will meet people there who have been sober from perhaps one day to twenty or more years, the longest record of sobriety I have met at one is 51 years.
If you want to talk about AA Email me.
We have all lost the things that you mention, the answer is in AA and the 12 step recovery program, detoxing is a good start, check the AA source and join a local group, find a sponsor to take you through the program of recovery.
You will learn how to rid yourself of the guilt and the shame I promise you.
I met Caz at an AA meeting March last year and we were married this July, we have a wonderfull sober life together.
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my cousin is dating a recovering alcoholic who's been sober for 5 years now. He lost a lot too, he also almost lost his life. Go and speak to your sponsor (AA) if you have one who will give you guidance on how to get your life back on track. Try to make ammends with family and friends and show them how determined you are on making that massive step forward in your life without alcohol.You've admitted you're got a problem and you're seeking help with that, that's the first step taken care of. Baby steps, that what my cousin's partner was told.Take each day as it comes, and if you feel tempted to have a drink, get straight onto the phone to your sponsor or a member of family. I hope this helps you. Good luck and stay strong.Health Question & Answer
The first thing would be if you believe in God, ask for guidance - or have power greater than yourself. You are not the power, you are powerless. Three things that wait for you: Jail, Institution or Death! Consider yourself very fortunate to have lived the unfortunate as you have mentioned. You are not alone, and you have a chance to turn your life in the right track. You may have a slip or two, but work hard towards changing people, places and things. Get involved with AA or some type of support group and surround yourself with positive people that will help you along the way. And, never get involved personally with anyone that is trying to recover. You are so young and full of life, and will have a better life - don't give up. I commend you for being such a young person and realizing that you have a problem and trying to seek answers...Whatever choice is made to go to a support group, remember what they teach, and use the tools. Alcoholism is a baffling, disease - but you can overcome in Recovering and live a very productive life. Its your choice. Good luck to you.Health Question & Answer
It's not too late for you.
I stopped drinking completely in my early thirties, got training, new job, new interests, new wife, new friends, own house.
My family starting respecting me again because I turned it around. My old GP was not very helpful but thankfully he retired and I have a new one who is supportive.
It is easy to say that you will stop completely then become a social drinker after. It is unbelievably difficult to do this. It is best to cease and desist.
Your old environment may not be supportive to you in quest to dry out so you might have to get out of it. I tried something different - a working holiday in the English countryside. Then in my home town, I managed to focus my energies on those more needy than I and forgot about my own troubles.
Ask others you have wronged to forgive you. (They may not - but try.) Yes, even those that took away your driving licence! They were doing you and the public a favour! If this sounds like something you can do then I recommend a 12 Step programme like Alcoholics Anonymous.
The main thing is to let go of the past. Forgive yourself. If you don't then the guilt and shame you feel may cause to drown yourself in drink again.Health Question & Answer
I stopped drinking completely in my early thirties, got training, new job, new interests, new wife, new friends, own house.
My family starting respecting me again because I turned it around. My old GP was not very helpful but thankfully he retired and I have a new one who is supportive.
It is easy to say that you will stop completely then become a social drinker after. It is unbelievably difficult to do this. It is best to cease and desist.
Your old environment may not be supportive to you in quest to dry out so you might have to get out of it. I tried something different - a working holiday in the English countryside. Then in my home town, I managed to focus my energies on those more needy than I and forgot about my own troubles.
Ask others you have wronged to forgive you. (They may not - but try.) Yes, even those that took away your driving licence! They were doing you and the public a favour! If this sounds like something you can do then I recommend a 12 Step programme like Alcoholics Anonymous.
The main thing is to let go of the past. Forgive yourself. If you don't then the guilt and shame you feel may cause to drown yourself in drink again.Health Question & Answer
Recovery takes time..someone else said use 12 steps. That may be beneficial so you can see people who have went through the process and grown. Im a fellow alcoholic I began recovery at 24 it has taken sometime but gradually everything feel into place. Self esteem is back respect for myself and others. You are a work in progress please allw yourself the time to heal. If we put the energy into our recovery we did into our addiction we are always improving. also remember you are where you need to be right now. Dont put limits on yourself as far as how you think you "should" feel,or what you think you should have. When things get better youll be surprised what direction your life we take.....Health Question & Answer
you major problem seems to be that you think you are the only one who has made such mistakes and gone thru so much. I urge you to attend AA meetings, as many as you can get to once you complete detox. You learn very quickly that you are not alone, you learn that you can better your life, and you gain the skills for doing it. You also get the support you need from those who are going thru the same things, or have gone thru them and emerged victoriously on the other side of rehab. You are not alone.Health Question & Answer
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I don't have experience of what you're going through, but I just want to send you a big hug and wish you all the best.
My aunt's boyfriend never managed to get as far as you, and he lived his whole life as an alcoholic. He lost his job too and his wife, and ended up just living from one drink to the next. It was so sad. He was such a great guy. I wish he'd been as brave as you.
So don't despair. Stick it out. The only way is up now.Health Question & Answer
I don't have experience of what you're going through, but I just want to send you a big hug and wish you all the best.
My aunt's boyfriend never managed to get as far as you, and he lived his whole life as an alcoholic. He lost his job too and his wife, and ended up just living from one drink to the next. It was so sad. He was such a great guy. I wish he'd been as brave as you.
So don't despair. Stick it out. The only way is up now.Health Question & Answer
just hang in there...it may seem like you have lost everything, but think about what you will be gaining once you are clean and your life is in order...blood is thicker than water and i'm sure you have many people who care deeply for you and want nothing more than to see you happy in your own skin...i commend you for taking a step to get your priorities in order...it's a hard disease to conquer...you might relapse, it would be stupid to think that you won't, but you just need to have faith in yourself and have faith that there are people around you that will be there to support you no matter how long it takes...find a group to go to...talking helps alot...if you are a religious person check out churches in your area...i hope that you make it.. have faith in whatever you believe in, but mostly have faith in yourself...you can pull through...good luckHealth Question & Answer
You have to start somewhere and at the bottom is a start. You work your way up a little at a time. Been at the bottom but ,it is so great when you crawl out of the hole. I never want to be there again. You can do it!Health Question & Answer
ehhhh..... no im not but your only 23 if you stop and get through ot then you sitll have your whole life. just get put there join thibgs and meet new peolple leave the old ones behind and start again then if they were loyal friands and family theyll see you are a changed man
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I'm trying as we speak - be strong!! good luck and don't be too hard on yourself if you relapse once or twiceHealth Question & Answer