I was sexually molested when i was thirteen, i never told police, he is a school teacher, should i report him?!
Question: I was sexually molested when i was thirteen, i never told police, he is a school teacher, should i report him.?
it was my only father figure.
a friend recently said to me that he is most likely abusing other children as he is a music teacher, and does lessons in his home and in schools..
do you think i should report him.?
my mum said i shouldnt becuase its just bringing up the past again, but i think she is more worried that her family will see her as a failure, she is imbarrassed....?Health Question & Answer
a friend recently said to me that he is most likely abusing other children as he is a music teacher, and does lessons in his home and in schools..
do you think i should report him.?
my mum said i shouldnt becuase its just bringing up the past again, but i think she is more worried that her family will see her as a failure, she is imbarrassed....?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Yes you should report this. It doesn't matter how long ago this happened the police have specially trained officers who will take your allegation seriously. Your mum should not feel embarrassed or that she failed you. You are the victim and he has abused both his position as a teacher and your trust.
You need support if and when you report this to the police. If your mum is not there to support you contact victim support a charity run by volunteers. The police will appoint a soit officer to deal with the investigation and you can ask for a female officer if you prefer.
They will probably take your statement or interview you via video, in that way if the case proceeds to court it can be played. You can also requests screens in court if you do not want to face this man.
Whether or not you decide to go ahead remember because it was a long time ago it will be basically your word against his. Any specific details dates, times diaries ect will be very helpful.Health Question & Answer
You need support if and when you report this to the police. If your mum is not there to support you contact victim support a charity run by volunteers. The police will appoint a soit officer to deal with the investigation and you can ask for a female officer if you prefer.
They will probably take your statement or interview you via video, in that way if the case proceeds to court it can be played. You can also requests screens in court if you do not want to face this man.
Whether or not you decide to go ahead remember because it was a long time ago it will be basically your word against his. Any specific details dates, times diaries ect will be very helpful.Health Question & Answer
Yes, you should report it to the authorities. If you have an aunt or grandmother or another person you can take with you, other than your mother, it would be a good idea. You could even talk to the school guidance counselor, they may be able to help you if your mom won't.
Your mother sounds far too self-centered to be a mom. I wouldn't blame you one bit for having your teacher become your father figure when it doesn't sound like you have a great 'mother figure' in the first place. Nothing is right about what he did, no matter what your mom says.
If you trust your friend whom you told, see if his/her parents would be willing to go report the teacher with you. It won't be easy on you, but it's the right thing to do. Good luckHealth Question & Answer
Your mother sounds far too self-centered to be a mom. I wouldn't blame you one bit for having your teacher become your father figure when it doesn't sound like you have a great 'mother figure' in the first place. Nothing is right about what he did, no matter what your mom says.
If you trust your friend whom you told, see if his/her parents would be willing to go report the teacher with you. It won't be easy on you, but it's the right thing to do. Good luckHealth Question & Answer
If you do decide to come forward, be prepared that you are very unlikely to get a conviction. You've simply got no evidence (unless there's something you haven't mentioned) and the police won't be able to make a charge stick. I know this because I have reported an abuser and I even had some evidence but the CPS refused to take the case. However, I did feel better having done all that I could to punish him and protect others, even though he got away with it. So think long and hard about whether you want to go through this painful process for a tiny chance of success. Sorry this happened to you and take care.Health Question & Answer
You have the power to change a potentially dangerous atmosphere for someone else you can prevent someone else from going through what you experience people like that doesn't deserve the privilege to work in society let along with children I don't necessarily agree with your mom sometimes bringing up the past you can get closure and move on reassure your mom that she did nothing wrongHealth Question & Answer
visualize what it might be like if you do go through this. Is it worth the stress. Is it worth it to your mother...I know you say you want to do this to prevent him from doing it to someone else but maybe he stopped or maybe someone else has already reported him. So weigh it all out & trust you will get a feeling of relief when you think the right thing & you will get a nervous feeling or a weak feeling when you are thinking about the decision that is the wrong one...You are the only one that can decided this notice the feeling you get in your body.Health Question & Answer
you MUST report him....other children need protecting, i can`t believe your mum has told you not to!!
Being abused can cause a child a life time of hurt and untrust to others and no doubt he is continuing to abuse other children and will do so unless somebody speaks out!Health Question & Answer
Being abused can cause a child a life time of hurt and untrust to others and no doubt he is continuing to abuse other children and will do so unless somebody speaks out!Health Question & Answer
If you feel you are strong enough to deal with all of it, and have a support system, by all means go for it. Just know what you are getting into when you make the decision to go forward. Do what is in your heart.Good luck to you.....Health Question & Answer
how old are u now, how long ago was it.? why didnt u or ur mum discuss n report it then.? i cant see why any mother that even suspected that wudnt want to do somethin about it. - if this did happen you do need to report him.Health Question & Answer
Yes, report it so that an entry will be made in the sexual offenders computer database, and anyone complaining in future will be believed. Health Question & Answer
If this is really true, then the only thing to do is to tell. Think about the other kids getting molested by him, not yourself or your mother.Health Question & Answer
Oh my God, I can't believe that your mother said DON'T.?.?.?.?.?
You need to report this scum immediately. He could be doing this to another poor victim. This is illegal.
Kick your mother in the chuff (from me) too!Health Question & Answer
You need to report this scum immediately. He could be doing this to another poor victim. This is illegal.
Kick your mother in the chuff (from me) too!Health Question & Answer
You need to report him right now.
What if he is doing this to other girls.? You don't want anyone else to go through the same thing.Health Question & Answer
What if he is doing this to other girls.? You don't want anyone else to go through the same thing.Health Question & Answer
absolutely! think about all the others he could be doing this to! you have the power to make others aware of him and stop him.Health Question & Answer
You should tell someone because if he did it to you then he has surely done it before and will do it again.Health Question & Answer
Yes defintley , think of other people who might be younger who hes done this to.Health Question & Answer
yes you shouldHealth Question & Answer
you should report your Mom for not reporting it to the police. whats the problem with her.?
if my daughter was molested i would report it and he would be arrested
these sick people become teachers and boyscout leaders priests and child guidance teachers fo a reason. it just brings them closer to the one thing they can never give up and that's children
you have to call the cops remember if you don't the next child will be on your hands for not taking him out.
please don't feel bad this guy is a devil who needs a jail cell.Health Question & Answer
if my daughter was molested i would report it and he would be arrested
these sick people become teachers and boyscout leaders priests and child guidance teachers fo a reason. it just brings them closer to the one thing they can never give up and that's children
you have to call the cops remember if you don't the next child will be on your hands for not taking him out.
please don't feel bad this guy is a devil who needs a jail cell.Health Question & Answer
Yes, because he DESERVES it. It isn't RIGHT that you should be suffering in silence for something he did, while he goes off scot-free, probably feeling great as we speak. If you don't tell the police, you might feel guilty about it later. You might feel more like a victim, and less in control over the world around you. These sucky emotions will make it hard to achieve any closure.
As people pointed out, he might be doing it to other people. Other kids aren't your prime concern, however. You are. But this can be of motivation to you.
also, it seems like your mom will be of no help in this. Thank god you're an adult.
I'm not sure whether you should tell the police or the school or both. Maybe someone else on YA can help you with that.
Edit: if you decide to carry through with this, and you get your mom to help you, she can testify against him.Health Question & Answer
As people pointed out, he might be doing it to other people. Other kids aren't your prime concern, however. You are. But this can be of motivation to you.
also, it seems like your mom will be of no help in this. Thank god you're an adult.
I'm not sure whether you should tell the police or the school or both. Maybe someone else on YA can help you with that.
Edit: if you decide to carry through with this, and you get your mom to help you, she can testify against him.Health Question & Answer