When does the hurt stop after all the lies and depression,Im sorry but it hurt more the second time.?!
Question: When does the hurt stop after all the lies and depression,Im sorry but it hurt more the second time..?
People say be a man get over it.I was strong and focus on myself and my kids.I accepted her new life.But when I was ready and did move on she came back to brain wash me to take her back.I felt for her lies. These past month were just hell me than years we were together.I don't know how get back. I'm lost just thinking about everything she said ,how she loves me but not same.Why did she leave the guy who was so great to be with me and kept in touch behind.Do I lack self steam or just really dumb.I'm good looking fun to be with a great job, family man.But at times those thing do not matter,now I hate work I'm not eating can't stop thinking about her.It seem the more I show her that I care the more she hurts me why.?I try my to go out and have fun but I can't.She really has me going in circles.All that I do is pray and cry.I can't this again the first time it was hard but I kept to word now I'm just so f***ed up and,mentally.Health Question & Answer
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Just because you're a man, doesn't mean you're not allowed to go through the same grieving process that women are! Even though it hurts, and I know this sounds cliche, but time does heal. All you can do is concentrate on yourself, and what makes you happy beyond her. If you don't know what that is, it's time to figure it out. It's not that you lack self-esteem, it's that right now, you're afraid of the unfamiliar. My suggestion for you would be to do what makes you happy. Working out is always good for one's self-esteem, and it also releases endorphines which make you feel happier overall. She is obviously the one missing out, and when she realizes that, you will have taken the time to take care of yourself and heal your heart. Maybe then it will be too late.? I think it would be a good idea to stop chasing her and give her time to realize what she's giving up. Another cliche, you don't always know what you have until it's gone, and that usually holds true in cases like yours. If she sees that you're happy without her, she may realize that what she's looking for was right in front of her all along....
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Depression is all about friends and family . It is caused when your expectations are wrong.Health Question & Answer
Here is a resource I came across. I has a lot of catagories and covers a wide range of depression topics.
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Hurt just stops as time goes by slowly....
i can feel you are such a good man. you already gave her the second chance. Nothing has work for better. you deserve to be happy and its time for you to move on with the kids without her in your life. Don't kill yourself with depression. Pray for Peace of mind. There is never a big problem that Our almighty God cannot solve.
Sooner you will find the woman who will love you in return.
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i can feel you are such a good man. you already gave her the second chance. Nothing has work for better. you deserve to be happy and its time for you to move on with the kids without her in your life. Don't kill yourself with depression. Pray for Peace of mind. There is never a big problem that Our almighty God cannot solve.
Sooner you will find the woman who will love you in return.
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I would say that if anything/anyone made me feel that way about myself I would tell them to take a hike!!
She is just messing with you because the other guy isn't in her life anymore.
You will 'do' just fine until the next guy comes along.
She is just using you so she won't be lonely until she meets someone else.
You don't have to buy into it. Dump her and watch how quick she finds someone else!
This same exact thing happen to someone I know. He let it get him down, then realized he was being dupped.
He now has a good relationship with someone else and is happy. His 'ex' has moved on too.
They are friends because of their daughter, and are good parents, but they will probably not ever be 'together' again.Health Question & Answer
She is just messing with you because the other guy isn't in her life anymore.
You will 'do' just fine until the next guy comes along.
She is just using you so she won't be lonely until she meets someone else.
You don't have to buy into it. Dump her and watch how quick she finds someone else!
This same exact thing happen to someone I know. He let it get him down, then realized he was being dupped.
He now has a good relationship with someone else and is happy. His 'ex' has moved on too.
They are friends because of their daughter, and are good parents, but they will probably not ever be 'together' again.Health Question & Answer
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Its so hard to break when you thought you were going to spend your life with that person. I couldn't help but see you said you pray. I know the Lord feels your pain and is seeking you to bend to him. Marriage is the face of God. You sound like you really love her and satan would love more than to tear you apart. I don't know how much you know the Lord but in the Bible she has sexually defiled your marraige by being with another man. You need to get plugged into a church and seek council from the elder men and if its Gods plan for your life he will reconcile your marriage. The best thing that you can do right now is focus on yourself and if she is living with you just show her love by respecting her space and leave her be. Don't fight with her for your kids sake and show her the face of God. Love covers a multitude of sin. she sounds lost and she is seeking something that only God can fill. Somtimes he allows these things to happen to bring us to him so he can heal our lives and he doesn't say its easy but if you can't feel it you won't get better. If you know him thank him for this trail and for all the blessings that you do have if you try to focus on him and whats is good like your children he can show you things that you never new and you may be able to help her even if you never are with her again. The word of God never returns void you will come out of this. For the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revieled in us. romans 8:18. If you Have a new kings james Bible read the book of John he is the apostle of love. I wish you luck and love I struggled with depression and wanted to die and when i started praising him and pressing into him i got better without meds good luckHealth Question & Answer
"...she said ,how she loves me but not same." It's HER problem!
"...I felt for her lies. These past month were just hell me than years we were together." Dude STOP! what are your kids going through.? Worse!
"Do I lack self steam or just really dumb." NO! Really nice guys get treated wrong BY really HORRID women around the world. Sorry =(
"It seem the more I show her that I care the more she hurts me why.?"
There's the one with lack of self esteem, and a case of STUPID!
"I try my to go out and have fun but I can't." Oh YES you can! ! GO.
"She really has me going in circles." What better way to get the message to HER! ! No more games B*tch, Sh*t or get off the pot.
"...now I'm just so f***ed up and,mentally." Seek help, mentally, You might need some drugs to get you balanced again.
I'm so sorry you have gone through this...But my hubby's 1st dumped on him..I was lucky, I grabbed him and the kids up, living happy ever after. =)Health Question & Answer
"...I felt for her lies. These past month were just hell me than years we were together." Dude STOP! what are your kids going through.? Worse!
"Do I lack self steam or just really dumb." NO! Really nice guys get treated wrong BY really HORRID women around the world. Sorry =(
"It seem the more I show her that I care the more she hurts me why.?"
There's the one with lack of self esteem, and a case of STUPID!
"I try my to go out and have fun but I can't." Oh YES you can! ! GO.
"She really has me going in circles." What better way to get the message to HER! ! No more games B*tch, Sh*t or get off the pot.
"...now I'm just so f***ed up and,mentally." Seek help, mentally, You might need some drugs to get you balanced again.
I'm so sorry you have gone through this...But my hubby's 1st dumped on him..I was lucky, I grabbed him and the kids up, living happy ever after. =)Health Question & Answer