Is this what life is about?!
Question: Is this what life is about.?
I am so alone right now. If I died tomorrow, they'd give all my stuff to charity or throw it out.
I feel like I am just some woman with a name to people. I am so thing they talk at. It's like I am not even here. I have no one to talk to and even if I talked to a psychiotrist, I would still leave and go home to no one.
I have moved a few times and tried to meet people. I am so sick of people telling me how wonderful I am and the piss all over me later... I feel so helpless to stop it... I have tried avoiding people, meeting lots of people, taking it slow, going fast... nothing sticks.
I don't know where to go or what to think anymore... I get up and go to work and come home and it's all there is...I am going to be on of those people they find whose been dead a week and the only way anyone knew was because of the smell...Health Question & Answer
I feel like I am just some woman with a name to people. I am so thing they talk at. It's like I am not even here. I have no one to talk to and even if I talked to a psychiotrist, I would still leave and go home to no one.
I have moved a few times and tried to meet people. I am so sick of people telling me how wonderful I am and the piss all over me later... I feel so helpless to stop it... I have tried avoiding people, meeting lots of people, taking it slow, going fast... nothing sticks.
I don't know where to go or what to think anymore... I get up and go to work and come home and it's all there is...I am going to be on of those people they find whose been dead a week and the only way anyone knew was because of the smell...Health Question & Answer
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I felt the same way last year. I almost lost all hope. I went to a therapist and we worked alot on how to get involved in things i am interested in. I now volunteer at a local children's hospital. Playing games with them and watching cartoons. They love me there! also I started working with my local animal shelter and adopted a dog that keeps me very busy. So find something your interested in or want to know more about and take it head on. don't hold back or tell yourself you cant do it. Get used to doing things alone. Once your comfortable being alone your confidence will build and you will attract many more friends.Health Question & Answer
i have many frens who know only to complain....why don you try to weigh the situation...find a solution instead of a excuse....you wanna feel noticeable do something so tat people notice you...where is your family,you always have them....stop being a whiner baby and get up to something,plan your life and days...do everything you can to avoid feeling alone and abandoned Health Question & Answer
you need a cat. cheer up! life isn't always what we want it to be. it's what you make of it. it's what you do for others. try volunteering somewhere. just don't be one of those people who ends up a statistic. i'll even be your pen-pal if it'll make you feel better. on the other hand, it's not always bad to never leave the house. just do what makes you happy.Health Question & Answer
Every life is different you just need to find your purpose here and adhere to it life is exactly what we make it and who said everyday would be happy you have to go thru the hard stuff to learn and grow
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Life is about knowing thyself. And you don't. However, it's never too late.Health Question & Answer
what about your family.? go to them. Health Question & Answer
First let's start with a very basic fact: you asked this question on Yahoo, in front of millions of users, right.? So you obviously have a computer and can access things like groups, forums, chat rooms--right.?
So WHY do you feel isolated.?
The whole world is literally--LITERALLY--at your fingertips! You can access almost anywhere and anything with this marvelous machine. Why are you sitting around waiting for friends.? They're out there--and they don't care what you have in your past or what you look like or whether or not you can even SPELL (trust me!). There's a world of education, of interesting facts and pictures and people--all out there--or rather IN there--in that little box on your desk.
I can't imagine being bored or isolated in this world.
As for your history with people--why do you expect people to hold still.? Why do you expect the world to hold still.? Life IS change. And sometimes that change takes things away that you have gotten used to.
All that means is that you can replace those things that went away with OTHER, NEWER, things. You can find NEW interests, new friends, new ideas--if you just go LOOK FOR THEM. The world will not come to YOU--you have to go to IT. You can't expect others to fill in your blank spots. It's up to you to do that.
There is a giant world out there of things to do and people to meet and ideas to have--why look for your satisfaction in others.? It's not up to them to make you happy--it's up to you to make yourself happy. You can't find self-esteem or self-satisfaction in others--or what THEY do. It has to come from inside you. And the only person who can get to that part of you is YOU.
Get out. Get involved. Get busy. Forget trying to "find" someone who will make you happy--that's a futile exercise even for the best of humanity--it isn't the truth either. The truth is that you make yourself happy, no matter what circumstances you live in. Want to know what countries are the happiest.?
A survey was done by the University of Michigan, and the world's happiest country was NIGERIA. Folllowed by Mexico, Venezuela, and Puerto Rico. Odd, isn't it that the happiest country in the world is also one of the poorest.? Obviously the definition of happiness does not include income, money, or assets---or something OUTSIDE of oneself!
You should read the rest of the website. It's very educational. And it might prove something I've been saying--that in order to live a happy life you have to literally JUST DO IT.
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So WHY do you feel isolated.?
The whole world is literally--LITERALLY--at your fingertips! You can access almost anywhere and anything with this marvelous machine. Why are you sitting around waiting for friends.? They're out there--and they don't care what you have in your past or what you look like or whether or not you can even SPELL (trust me!). There's a world of education, of interesting facts and pictures and people--all out there--or rather IN there--in that little box on your desk.
I can't imagine being bored or isolated in this world.
As for your history with people--why do you expect people to hold still.? Why do you expect the world to hold still.? Life IS change. And sometimes that change takes things away that you have gotten used to.
All that means is that you can replace those things that went away with OTHER, NEWER, things. You can find NEW interests, new friends, new ideas--if you just go LOOK FOR THEM. The world will not come to YOU--you have to go to IT. You can't expect others to fill in your blank spots. It's up to you to do that.
There is a giant world out there of things to do and people to meet and ideas to have--why look for your satisfaction in others.? It's not up to them to make you happy--it's up to you to make yourself happy. You can't find self-esteem or self-satisfaction in others--or what THEY do. It has to come from inside you. And the only person who can get to that part of you is YOU.
Get out. Get involved. Get busy. Forget trying to "find" someone who will make you happy--that's a futile exercise even for the best of humanity--it isn't the truth either. The truth is that you make yourself happy, no matter what circumstances you live in. Want to know what countries are the happiest.?
A survey was done by the University of Michigan, and the world's happiest country was NIGERIA. Folllowed by Mexico, Venezuela, and Puerto Rico. Odd, isn't it that the happiest country in the world is also one of the poorest.? Obviously the definition of happiness does not include income, money, or assets---or something OUTSIDE of oneself!
You should read the rest of the website. It's very educational. And it might prove something I've been saying--that in order to live a happy life you have to literally JUST DO IT.
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Hi Nebula! Following was my response to someone who said they were depressed... I was kind of proud of it so I thought I'd send it to you as most of it will apply...
Some good answers you've received so far. I think you should find new and exciting ways to keep busy. I don't know what your day-to-day life is like but I find myself getting depressed after stuck in a routine or sitting online too often.
There are many ways you can get more active. Craig's List has a variety of activities always available like doing charity or joining a tennis club or meeting new people! Some good books.? A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Mind Over Mood by Greenberger. The Celestine Prophecy by Redfield. There are millions.
What else.? Exercise is magic. Power walking, jogging, running, lifting weights, etc. You could even join a gym and take a class.
Watching what you eat can also play a part. Make sure to get omega-3, B-vitamins, and vitamin D in your diet. These help with depression. Joy Bauer wrote an article in our local paper today about this so I included her link below. also, stay away from sugar-rich foods.
And as far as therapy goes, a good therapist can work wonders. Your family will always love you no matter what, that's the beauty of family. We don't judge each other!
Antidepressants can also help, I'm not totally sure how I feel about them yet. I would try exercise, reading books on the matter, eating better, and doing new, exciting things before trying out medication. If it gets really bad though, medication might be necessary.
My email is whs462@yahoo.com if you want to talk or ask more questions.
And remember, we all have our ups and downs. I have tons of friends who would be shocked to find out I suffer from depression like you do.
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Some good answers you've received so far. I think you should find new and exciting ways to keep busy. I don't know what your day-to-day life is like but I find myself getting depressed after stuck in a routine or sitting online too often.
There are many ways you can get more active. Craig's List has a variety of activities always available like doing charity or joining a tennis club or meeting new people! Some good books.? A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Mind Over Mood by Greenberger. The Celestine Prophecy by Redfield. There are millions.
What else.? Exercise is magic. Power walking, jogging, running, lifting weights, etc. You could even join a gym and take a class.
Watching what you eat can also play a part. Make sure to get omega-3, B-vitamins, and vitamin D in your diet. These help with depression. Joy Bauer wrote an article in our local paper today about this so I included her link below. also, stay away from sugar-rich foods.
And as far as therapy goes, a good therapist can work wonders. Your family will always love you no matter what, that's the beauty of family. We don't judge each other!
Antidepressants can also help, I'm not totally sure how I feel about them yet. I would try exercise, reading books on the matter, eating better, and doing new, exciting things before trying out medication. If it gets really bad though, medication might be necessary.
My email is whs462@yahoo.com if you want to talk or ask more questions.
And remember, we all have our ups and downs. I have tons of friends who would be shocked to find out I suffer from depression like you do.
.?v=I5ALIL7T7..." rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch.?v=I5ALIL7T7... Enjoy life, it's a gift =)Health Question & Answer
You are in deep pain. If you are not married please marry. Go to your mom and dad if they are alive. Go to your relative house or friends. Actually you are bored of your life and it often happens to people. You are suffering from depression, you can seek a doctor. Best thing you can do is to go for a tour. Make tourism your hobby it helps to keep your mind fresh. You can even adopt a child if you like to. Someone is always there to help you, its your God. You can attend religious function and get busy with your religion. It helps you a lot.Health Question & Answer
If I were you I would get a hobby or join something. Go to a gym in the evenings, post an ad looking for a walking buddy. I enjoyed taking a yoga class after work just for something to do and a way to meet people. Anything is better than sitting at home alone and depressed. Do you have family.? Have a dinner party and invite family, or even your neighbors.? Doing nothing gives you a lot of time to think and too much thinking is not good. You need to keep busy. I know how you feel though. I think all of us feel that way sometimes. Life is not glamorous.Health Question & Answer
Everyone gets bored in life when it feels like we are stick in a rut and our daily routine has become "routine". I think finding something that you like that is outside of your routine will help. I enjoy going for walks out in nature. Even though this is still by myself, it makes me feel good.
I was really depressed about how my life was going a while ago. I had moved to a big city, knew no one and hadn't done anything except go to work and come home. That is when I started going for walks. I also looked in a women's social group, where I could get together once a month and start to socialize with women looking for the same thing as me. I never ended up doing that but it still comes to mind again and again. I like to be active, but can't afford a gym membership so I am going to take dance classes, which has a social element to it.
I think you need to do things that you enjoy to break your work/home cycle. Often doing these with other people will help the process. If you have family, they are a good place to turn because you already know them and should feel comfortable with them. Life gets boring sometimes but you have to accept it and make the most of it. Enjoy the simple things.
Although I am not super religious, I always found joining church groups was uplifting.Health Question & Answer
I was really depressed about how my life was going a while ago. I had moved to a big city, knew no one and hadn't done anything except go to work and come home. That is when I started going for walks. I also looked in a women's social group, where I could get together once a month and start to socialize with women looking for the same thing as me. I never ended up doing that but it still comes to mind again and again. I like to be active, but can't afford a gym membership so I am going to take dance classes, which has a social element to it.
I think you need to do things that you enjoy to break your work/home cycle. Often doing these with other people will help the process. If you have family, they are a good place to turn because you already know them and should feel comfortable with them. Life gets boring sometimes but you have to accept it and make the most of it. Enjoy the simple things.
Although I am not super religious, I always found joining church groups was uplifting.Health Question & Answer
Hm. Well I know how you feel, I've always been a loner, I have trouble making friends, and I feel like I'm invisible to others. Sometimes I feel like asking "what's the point.?" But then I realize a trend in my way of thinking. It's always about "me" and what I don't have.
Instead of focusing on what others don't give you, focus on what you can give to others. Voluenteer your time to help children or the sick/lonely. Don't roll your eyes yet. You'll likely develop strong friendships with many who *depend* on you and *appreciate* you.
You won't be just a woman with a name to them.
Good luck and don't lose hope in other people.
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Instead of focusing on what others don't give you, focus on what you can give to others. Voluenteer your time to help children or the sick/lonely. Don't roll your eyes yet. You'll likely develop strong friendships with many who *depend* on you and *appreciate* you.
You won't be just a woman with a name to them.
Good luck and don't lose hope in other people.
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