Molested, what should I do?!
Question: Molested, what should I do.?
I've been molested multiple times when I was younger. My mom was talking to me the other day and mentioned "at least you didn't have to go through anything like being molested..." I never told her about me being molested so I felt kinda crappy afterwards. She says it effects a person's self-worth. I am just wondering if I should talk to the school psychologist. I just feel like it doesn't effect me anymore so I am not sure if I should seek help. Health Question & Answer
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First I just want to say that Im so sorry that happened to you. ((hugs))
If you don't feel the need to talk to someone...then dont. But don't be surprised if sometime down the road what happened to you resurfaces and starts bothering you. That's normal. At that point you should talk to someone if you find yourself feeling depressed or anxious or if you have problems in relationships. Most people who have been molested will need to seek help at some point.
If you have a good relationship with your mom...try to tell her. She needs to know. also...if you havent told anyone who did this...you should. There is a very good possibility that whoever did that to you continues to hurt others in the same way they hurt you. Sad but true.
Take care and God bless!Health Question & Answer
If you don't feel the need to talk to someone...then dont. But don't be surprised if sometime down the road what happened to you resurfaces and starts bothering you. That's normal. At that point you should talk to someone if you find yourself feeling depressed or anxious or if you have problems in relationships. Most people who have been molested will need to seek help at some point.
If you have a good relationship with your mom...try to tell her. She needs to know. also...if you havent told anyone who did this...you should. There is a very good possibility that whoever did that to you continues to hurt others in the same way they hurt you. Sad but true.
Take care and God bless!Health Question & Answer
I've been friend's and have been in school with allot of girls that have been in your situation. Now in a way, it effects everybody who has gone through this. Everyone is different, and how much it effects you is completely dependent on how much of a shock it was to you at that age. Now, out of personal experience with mental health problems at a young age (agoraphobia) I don't believe that school psychologist do a lot of good. The ones i dealt with had too many kids to deal with and often rush to get you out the door if you ain't going though a crisis at that moment. What id really recommend is getting a real psychologist who will talk with you. Because in the end, there is no quick fix for real trauma, only a sort of pressure valve to relieve the things that have built up over the years. If you can't afford one, there are organizations like agora who are support lines and can help get you info on where you can find financial aid or free counseling. Just remember, molestation happens to allot of people and you don't need to feel ashamed for what someone else did to you. You are the only person who can define your self worth and no one can take that away from you. Health Question & Answer
Hon, I'd make an appointment with the school psychologist - and ask them as well if they can recommend a counselor or someone you can talk to. We the survivors hold on so well and we do a good job of it, but sometimes we can start to fall apart if we haven't dealt with our feelings about what happened. Some of us do manage to move on without help, but sometimes we bury our feelings so much that we don't even remember what happened. That this came up for you may be a very good thing - a chance to heal. Talking actually is the best way to overcome some of our personal hurts and violations. You can always just give it a try and see how it feels for you, if you want to pursue it then go ahead, and if it doesn't feel right then you know to stop. I wish you all the best and hope it works out for you. also, when the time is right, you may want to tell your mom - you don't have to but it's totally up to you.Health Question & Answer
You need to talk to a social worker, teacher or psychologist. These people are designated reporters. The perp (the one who hurt you) needs to be reported to the authorities (whoever he is) or HE WILL DO IT AGAIN. He will do it to another girl or boy and he won't stop doing it unless YOU or someone else reports him.
Do yourself a big favor, if your mom doesn't want to help, then find someone who will. We have to get molesters off the streets. Health Question & Answer
Do yourself a big favor, if your mom doesn't want to help, then find someone who will. We have to get molesters off the streets. Health Question & Answer
I was raped in grade 7 and still haven't told anyone but like my 3 best friends...
If you don't think it effects you anymore then there really isn't much reason to tell your mom. She will just worry about you and possibly become more protective.
But I would talk to the school counselor about it
at least once.
It sucks to go through that alone.Health Question & Answer
If you don't think it effects you anymore then there really isn't much reason to tell your mom. She will just worry about you and possibly become more protective.
But I would talk to the school counselor about it
at least once.
It sucks to go through that alone.Health Question & Answer
You can talk to someone ie school counselor or someone without immediately telling your mother if that is what is holding you back - because you raise it here it seems you do have a need to discuss it - a wrong has been done you, you haven't done wrong, never be embarrassed because someone else did the wrong thing.Health Question & Answer
I think that it would be wise to chat to someone.
It doesn't have to be at school or anything because sometimes they worry to much and speak to your parents.
Maybe you should go to your community health centre and they usually offer free counseling for teens/adults.
They will prob think its a good idea for you to chat to your Mum but thats up to you.
Depending on who it was that did this to you.
All in all It was wrong!Health Question & Answer
It doesn't have to be at school or anything because sometimes they worry to much and speak to your parents.
Maybe you should go to your community health centre and they usually offer free counseling for teens/adults.
They will prob think its a good idea for you to chat to your Mum but thats up to you.
Depending on who it was that did this to you.
All in all It was wrong!Health Question & Answer
First, please understand that this is not way your fault. You did nothing to warrant this. Second, speak to someone about this immediately. Speak to your school psychologist, counselor, whatever is available to you. Do not remain silent.Health Question & Answer
If you feel it truly doesn't affect you then I would personally just move on with my life. But if you are feeling hesitant, and it sounds like you are, then you should at least talk with somebody.Health Question & Answer
Of course you should. If you have to question going to a trained official, the answer is usually that you should. Nobody should have to live with that past. Talk to someone.Health Question & Answer
It will always effect you, unless you talk to someone. You are not alone in this situation, there are support groups, and lots of books on the subject. Talk to your mom, this hurts her too. Health Question & Answer
I don't know. If you are thinking that maybe you should talk to the psychologist, the maybe you should. What do you have to lose.?Health Question & Answer
By all means, SPEAK UP! Let her know that you were molested so you can get help.Health Question & Answer
You should definitely seek help. You may not think it is impacting on your life but it probably is. It's good to talk to someone about it. Health Question & Answer
Talk with the school psychologist asap! You might regret later that you didn't mention this to anyone. Health Question & Answer