Confidence has hit rock bottom :/ Help me please :(?!

Hey,

Firstly, I wanted to thank you for helping me the other day on a question. Your kind words really helped get me through as I was struggling.

Dont worry, I have low confidence too. I HATED doing presentations in English.

First things first, nothing wrong with being quiet! It's better than being loud and mouthy sometimes! For the presentation; prepare! I didnt once, and thats when I struggled. Practice speaking to people you know with it, it does work. And on the day, dont cross your legs when standing up, its a bad habit to do. Be as clear and consise as possible to help.

As for panic attacks, this is something I would definately speak to a dr about. They should help in giving you calming techniques, or what my dr used to do was get me to breathe into a paper bag (works for some, not all!)

I hope everything turns out ok! P.S the comments about your weight; I had some girl on Bebo once comment about my looks. It crashed my confidence too, but you know what.? SHE'S the one with the problem, in the same way these folk are who comment about it. You're you and unique! xHealth Question & Answer

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You don't necessarily have to write about your struggles. Research something you're interested in. For example, how school uniforms affect other aspects of education.

Write something that won't draw all the attention to you.

also, if you find that you struggle with body image, you're definitely not alone. Try positive outlets for how to manage that, like exercise. Find something that you enjoy to do. Health Question & Answer

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Please please talk to your doctor! Anxiety disorder can't always be fixed just by practicing or telling yourself not to worry. It's not your fault you feel this way. I went on an anti anxiety medication several years ago and it changed my life. This could be a chemical disorder. It took me a while to find a medication that worked for me, but don't give up. By the way, being heavy is not a bad thing. MOST women are not thin!!!!! Health Question & Answer

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Hey its ok i feel the same way other than the panic attacks

you'll be ok try finding an easy topic u can write alot about easily

read it out to ur parents the presentation part and read it out to sum other relatives and that should prepare u for what u hav 2 do

I hate doing presentations but i just wing it

look at the clock or a friend u trust while you say it


It wont be easy but with a little practise u can do it

Gud Luck!!! ;) xHealth Question & Answer

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Well, anytime I have to present something in front of a lot of people, I pray and ask God to just help me get through it. Just do your best and don't worry about it, worrying is why you have panic attacks. If you worry too much, and expect the worst, then that's probably what's going to happen. So lighten up, pray about it, and try to have fun with it.Health Question & Answer

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Do mthe presentation with the attitude that you are there just to tell them. Their opinions do not matter, you are the one with the information and they can do nothing but listen. Either that, or do a presentation on panic attacks so if you do have a panic attack you can say it was a demonstration.Health Question & Answer

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hii am very young to i know how it feels to get comments about yout with me it was about ma spots and thats very depressing just dont ler these comments get to you weight is something you can lose and if there freinds or who ever is saying this there just pathetic and they dont have feelings just concentrate on your studies and you will acheive highly lol iv beeen talking alot but your not alone just keep your head up highHealth Question & Answer

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hi my name is casey im going thro the same thing its not as bad now im 17 but like 2 years ago it waz bad and i do still have panic attacks and i get depresed alot if u wanna talk about it and tell me whats going on in your life i can try to help u i have been thro it and still am if u want to talk my email is kchorler@yahoo.co.uk Health Question & Answer

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I always hated talking in front of the class too, but just realize that everyone else is just as nervous as you even though they don't show it.Be yourself and look to the back wall of the class room when you talk. You don't have to look at anyone. That may help some. You can do it!Health Question & Answer

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i have no confidence as well (your not alone woohoo) sorry this doesn't help you that much but it may help you to know your not alone and just try your hardest and it not you fault if you have panic attacks

and remember every1 embarrasses themselves

hope this helped

sorry for sounding negativeHealth Question & Answer

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don't stress it, hopefully some one will mess up and you can see its not the end of the world... i was diagnosed with anxiety disorder at a young age... it gets better

one thing i used to do for therapy, look in the mirror for every one negative thing you think, say out loud three positive things...Health Question & Answer

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Good luck with it all St. John's Wort is a natural supplement that helps calm you down. I would suggest just reading what you have written and not think about anyone else. You are intelligent, wise, with a good heart anybody should accept you, but first you have to accept yourself. Good luck Darlin'Health Question & Answer

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choose a topic that will be a crowd pleaser (win-win)
to do that you'll have to consider your audience and what they're "in to"
carry a lucky object in your pocket so you can reach in and touch it if you feel nervous
good luckHealth Question & Answer

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well i have the same worrys as you. i think u might have social anxiety disorder. if u sweat, are nasueas and get panic attacks you might have it. you should go to the doctor and find out, bc if so there are medications that can help. hope i helped get well!!!!Health Question & Answer

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Maybe you could phone childline or the samaritans and talk to someone over the phone who will keep all you say confidential and be able to help.Health Question & Answer

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u have to try to stop caring what everybody else thinks about u. i know its hard but u are your own person and you dont have to be like anybody else so just relax and speak.Health Question & Answer

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one thing that helped me was just to talk to random people on the street tell i started getting more comfortable talking to people and being around them.Health Question & Answer

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go to counselling.Health Question & Answer

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tough at the bottomHealth Question & Answer

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AAWWW! that used to be me, sounds like you have let others bring you down. Remember **dont let what anyone tells you change your perspective on life or anything for that matter. I mean its great to take criticism WELL but dont beat up yourself for anything espically weight. The presentation may just be something your going to be EXTREMELY good at. Practice, Practice, Practice!!!! you HAVE TOO! the only thing more embarrasing is conducting a presentation and you dont even have all the necessary materials and/or knowledge of it. Think of your ultimate goals in life and what inspires you......when you have that in your heart & mind you can do anything! -Good Luck :) Im rooting for ya!!Health Question & Answer

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The best way to get over anything causing you fear is to do the thing that's causing the fear. Do the best you can do on your paper, then ask someone to listen to you read it. One on one is often more comfortable than doing it in front of many people for the first time. If you do it in front of one person several times, it makes you relax every time you do it. Plus you'll remember it much better, and be able to focus on things like emphasizing certain points using different tones of speech, or gestures. After you've practiced this awhile, ask your listener how you're doing and how you could improve anything. Then, just before it's your turn to go up in front of everyone, take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Once you're in front, focus on the back of the room, finding an object to focus on (not a person). Find an object on the left and on the right, so that you can look like you're speaking to everyone in the room. Talk to the objects. Tell the objects everything you have written on your paper. The objects won't make faces at you, or cause you to be embarassed if you stumble. And if you do stumble, relax...everyone does once in a while. Just continue on. Don't apologize, just keep moving on. When you're done, say thank you, then walk confidently back to your seat. The more you practice doing this, the better you'll get. This is what I had to do in order to be able to sing in front of large crowds, so I know it works. Don't allow the panic attacks to control your life. You are the boss. You are in charge. Hope all works out for you. <*)))><Health Question & Answer

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To be honest I dont think you will get over it just yet. You are a bit on the sensitive side, as are a lot of teenagers and adolescents, and your confidence which is obviously not over abundant to start with has taken a knock. As you get older things will improve naturally so dont think you'll be stuck like this forever. For the time being tho, accept that you're going to feel like this and stop beating yourself up about it. It's a natural part of growing up. Loads of the others feel just the same. Grit your teeth about this presentation. Find a topic you are genuinely interested in so that you sound interested, and involved as you speak. Take a deep breath and give it your best shot. Whatever the reaction if you can feel you did this well, it will do wonders for your confidence I promise you. As you speak do not make eye contact with anyone - keep your eye level above their heads. Imagine that your strongest supporter eg mum, dad, pet is at the back of the room; speak to them and shut out the rest. Practise giving the talk several times before the real thing, even if its only to your own reflection in the mirror.Health Question & Answer

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Aw, your only 10, you dont need to be worry about this.
But ill help you, im 16 and i get panic attacks but only when im really stressed, so i know what your going threw. Yes, they are embarressing, but you got to put that aside forget what people think of you or how embarresed your going to be. That shouldnt matter so much. Laugh it off while your doing your presentation. Crack some jokes or something silly . To warm yourself up, make them laugh. Thats what i do (= Now, i dont mind doing presentations everyone loves when i do them..im outgoing like you couldnt imagine and everyone loves me for that. If your to nervous, talk to the teacher about it, and maybe she could put time aside for you to do the presentation just in front of her. im sure she'd understand (=Health Question & Answer

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Im the same, terrified but always manage to get through them and no-one seems to notice i'm a gibbering wreck! Being well prepared helps, know yr stuff & get your slides / Powerpoint sorted it should lead you through without worrying about forgetting things. also try to concentrate on the subject matter not on how yr feeling (not easy!) and try to speak slowly and 'look' relaxed. Finally try and think about the relief when its all over!! Good luck, y'll be fine :-)

PS - Mark Twain once said:
"there are two types of public speakers, ones who are nervous and liars"
Everyone is nervous no matter how calm they look. Health Question & Answer

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First of all ...you are not alone in this! the way you feel describes exactly how i felt at school (and the way i still feel in certain situations) i hate being the centre of attention ....so much that at my wedding this year i only invited 7 people! I couldnt have even said my vows if more were there.

its tough at school. you are forced into situations that you will avoid at all costs when you leave.

forget all the advice like picture people naked & stuff like that - it just distracts you from what you're trying to say. just try hard to concentrate on what you are saying try not to think about who is there. learn your presentation well so you're confident about what you're saying.

most of all - keep in your mind that this is 5-10 minutes of your life - it will soon be over.

sorry, dont think there is any easy way to do this. but good luck

......with everything xHealth Question & Answer

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Hi there,

I always suffered with low confidence through school because of a few reasons, weight,background and because my family couldn't afford what a lot of the other kids had. I know its an awfull thing and I hope you can work through it. I've also expreienced panic attacks and so here's a few pointers to help you, they helped me and I am now a musician who performs regularly and next year I'm going to train as a teacher so you can over come this!

1 - shower every morning and take pride in your appearance this wil have 2 benefits A - you will feel better about yourself which is the most important but also B - it will get other people off your back

2 - change how you eat and exericse as much as you can without going silly - if weight really is a problem , then try not to comfort eat to make youself feel better, it doesn't help and will make you feel worse in the long run! I have recently lost 6 stone, all of which I put on through my troubles. You will loose weight slowly a effectively and this will be another confidence boost as well as being a natural way to calm you down. Healthy food is known for boosting confidence and energy and bad food known for doing the opposite.

3 - If you can afford it get some Frankinsense oil (its about

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