How can I handle my moms head games she constantly plays?!
Question: How can I handle my moms head games she constantly plays.?
WARNING: This might be extremely long because I have quite a bit to explain!
Years ago my mom used to go around to her friends and cry on their shoulders about my dad being mean to her and being an asshole. She used to exagerate alot to them and cry about family problems she had with him. They would actually believe my mom and stick up for her and make her feel good and give her the attention. They would get mad at my dad and believe that he was this person my mom told them about. In the ending, she would come out smiling and thought it was funny and she felt better about herself.
As years went on she still played games. When I was born, I never remember my mom being there for me. She was always either at her friends house or working. Sometimes she would call in work and say she was sick just to go to her friends house. She hated to work and claims to this day that she "worked all her life" when she probably worked 25 years. Well my dad was always the one spoiling me and spending time with me when I was little. He gave me all the attention and is really a great father. My mom was NEVER there for me. I dont have a strong bond with her at all because shes an emotional rollercoaster.
When I turned 8 years old my dad had a heart attack and got CHF (currently right now i'm 16 turning 17 in a few days). I'm not the best behaved kid there is and ill admit that. As I was growing up and going through puberty around 11 years old I used to have mood swings and I would throw and break stuff and treat my parents like shyt.
Well last year I dropped out of school in 9th grade. My whole school life I used to get teased and in middle school I got teased and bullied because of my weight. I developed social anxiety and all I did was skip school and got in trouble and it put my parents in a mess emotionally. I'm totally a different person though and have been for the past 3-4 years now. I dont have mood swings and I dont get angry, I might yell at my parents but thats it. The only thing wrong with me now is school and im in the process of talking to this woman to get me into GED classes.
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Heres the problem with my mom; She always wants to argue with either me, my dad, or my brother. Everyday if somethings going great, she will start complaining or start making remarks about something to start an argument. Everytime my parents get into an argument, she says "ARE U HAPPY NOW, THOMAS IS GONNA COME OUT SMILING, HE LOVES IT WHEN WE ARGUE!" and totally turns the whole thing onto me and I never had anything to do with it.
For the past year or so shes been crying to my aunt (my dads own sister) about how I treat my dad and my mom. She would tell my aunt that my dad spoils me and always sticks up for me and that she can never do anything because he yells at her. She tells my aunt all this BS and totally exagerates alot of it.
Recently my dad went into the hospital to have surgery and my mom came home from the hospital and put some canned goods in a bag and then said she was taking it to my aunt. She asked me and my brother if we wanted to go and I said no so my brother went. When they got over there, my mom started talking about me and crying to my aunt about things that happened 5-6 years ago. She exagerated it so much and it got my aunt mad as hell at me. And then afterwards my cousin called my aunts and my aunt blabbed to her about me. My mom kept talking about me and then started in on my brother.
The next day my brother told me all this. I then was mad and started crying because my dad always told me that she does this to everyone so she can get attention and sympathy from people. I then went outside where my mom was sitting and I was acting mad. She asked me if I was mad because of school or worried about school and I told her no. She then says "are you mad at me.?" and I said "yea maybe" and she says "well do you hate me that bad.?" and im like "yeah" so then she says "well if you dont like it, the doors over there". Afterwards I went in and told my dad what was going on and I broke down crying about it. He then went outside and told her to stop crying on peoples shoulders. She then came inside and asked my brother if he told me what happened at my aunts the night before and he said yeah. Then my mom explodes and starts yelling and tries to turn it all around on me and says "that little basturd is gonna come out smiling because were arguing" refering to me.
She told my brother that night when they were driving home from my aunts to not tell anyone about what she told my aunt and not to say anything about what my aunt said about me. My brother came out and told me that everytime my dads in the hospital that she goes and cries on my aunts shoulders about us. I guess hes witnessed it before because he was bothered by what my mom was doing and finally told me.
My mom is so two faced though and gossips. My aunt is the same way and gossips and constantly talkHealth Question & Answer
Years ago my mom used to go around to her friends and cry on their shoulders about my dad being mean to her and being an asshole. She used to exagerate alot to them and cry about family problems she had with him. They would actually believe my mom and stick up for her and make her feel good and give her the attention. They would get mad at my dad and believe that he was this person my mom told them about. In the ending, she would come out smiling and thought it was funny and she felt better about herself.
As years went on she still played games. When I was born, I never remember my mom being there for me. She was always either at her friends house or working. Sometimes she would call in work and say she was sick just to go to her friends house. She hated to work and claims to this day that she "worked all her life" when she probably worked 25 years. Well my dad was always the one spoiling me and spending time with me when I was little. He gave me all the attention and is really a great father. My mom was NEVER there for me. I dont have a strong bond with her at all because shes an emotional rollercoaster.
When I turned 8 years old my dad had a heart attack and got CHF (currently right now i'm 16 turning 17 in a few days). I'm not the best behaved kid there is and ill admit that. As I was growing up and going through puberty around 11 years old I used to have mood swings and I would throw and break stuff and treat my parents like shyt.
Well last year I dropped out of school in 9th grade. My whole school life I used to get teased and in middle school I got teased and bullied because of my weight. I developed social anxiety and all I did was skip school and got in trouble and it put my parents in a mess emotionally. I'm totally a different person though and have been for the past 3-4 years now. I dont have mood swings and I dont get angry, I might yell at my parents but thats it. The only thing wrong with me now is school and im in the process of talking to this woman to get me into GED classes.
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Heres the problem with my mom; She always wants to argue with either me, my dad, or my brother. Everyday if somethings going great, she will start complaining or start making remarks about something to start an argument. Everytime my parents get into an argument, she says "ARE U HAPPY NOW, THOMAS IS GONNA COME OUT SMILING, HE LOVES IT WHEN WE ARGUE!" and totally turns the whole thing onto me and I never had anything to do with it.
For the past year or so shes been crying to my aunt (my dads own sister) about how I treat my dad and my mom. She would tell my aunt that my dad spoils me and always sticks up for me and that she can never do anything because he yells at her. She tells my aunt all this BS and totally exagerates alot of it.
Recently my dad went into the hospital to have surgery and my mom came home from the hospital and put some canned goods in a bag and then said she was taking it to my aunt. She asked me and my brother if we wanted to go and I said no so my brother went. When they got over there, my mom started talking about me and crying to my aunt about things that happened 5-6 years ago. She exagerated it so much and it got my aunt mad as hell at me. And then afterwards my cousin called my aunts and my aunt blabbed to her about me. My mom kept talking about me and then started in on my brother.
The next day my brother told me all this. I then was mad and started crying because my dad always told me that she does this to everyone so she can get attention and sympathy from people. I then went outside where my mom was sitting and I was acting mad. She asked me if I was mad because of school or worried about school and I told her no. She then says "are you mad at me.?" and I said "yea maybe" and she says "well do you hate me that bad.?" and im like "yeah" so then she says "well if you dont like it, the doors over there". Afterwards I went in and told my dad what was going on and I broke down crying about it. He then went outside and told her to stop crying on peoples shoulders. She then came inside and asked my brother if he told me what happened at my aunts the night before and he said yeah. Then my mom explodes and starts yelling and tries to turn it all around on me and says "that little basturd is gonna come out smiling because were arguing" refering to me.
She told my brother that night when they were driving home from my aunts to not tell anyone about what she told my aunt and not to say anything about what my aunt said about me. My brother came out and told me that everytime my dads in the hospital that she goes and cries on my aunts shoulders about us. I guess hes witnessed it before because he was bothered by what my mom was doing and finally told me.
My mom is so two faced though and gossips. My aunt is the same way and gossips and constantly talkHealth Question & Answer
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You need Jesus, and I'll pray for your family. Forgive your mom . Honor your mother and father so your days on earth will be longer. You will feel so much better. It's good to pray to Jesus to help your mother. Find a good nondenominational church and make some friends. Your parents might follow you in you footsteps. Count your blessings, protect them and you family.Health Question & Answer