How would I explain why I want to go to the counsellors to the doctor?!
Question: How would I explain why I want to go to the counsellors to the doctor.?
Judged on what I said in this question
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I don't want to sound too full on.
My aunty said that my doctor will want to know why I want counselling,
So how can I explain everything.?
Please, it's serious.
Don't give me stupid answers or I'll report you.Health Question & Answer
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
I don't want to sound too full on.
My aunty said that my doctor will want to know why I want counselling,
So how can I explain everything.?
Please, it's serious.
Don't give me stupid answers or I'll report you.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
I've read your previous question and it breaks my heart - my thoughts are with you sweetheart. I appreciate the addictive nature of self-harming, but please, whatever you do, use all your strength not to attempt suicide again.
Now, on to your question: The key thing for me to remember whenever I go to a Doctor for something I don't like talking about it is to tell myself that they've heard it all before. Your Doctor, I can guarantee you, has heard stories similar to yours several times before (unfortunately there are many people who self harm and have been abused, etc). He/she will be used to hearing those stories, and as such, should be receptive and supporting. Try to keep that in mind.
In terms of what to actually say, I'd just start out simple, for example "I've been feeling really depressed for several months and I want to get a referral to a counsellor." The Doctor will prompt you for more information most likely, and it's up to you how much you give. If he asks what is wrong you can say "I've had some abuse in my life, and consequently I've started harming myself." If he needs more information just keep answering in your own time.
Keep in mind though, the key things he needs to determine are that you are not a danger to yourself or to anyone else, and that you are currently living in a safe environment. To reassure him of this, you can tell him you no longer live with your abusers (if that is indeed the case) and that you have no desire to hurt anyone else (if that is indeed the case). You seem to be having suicidal thoughts though, and that will concern the Doctor. A good idea is to make a 'no-suicide agreement' which is often used by mental health professionals. You simply sign a 'contract' saying you won't attempt suicide for a week, or a month, or whatever the time frame you decide on is, and give that to the Doctor. BUT, if you are in danger, or in danger of hurting yourself or anyone else, it is important that you are honest with the Doctor. There are a range of acute treatments and care plans available that can help you.
Another idea: Perhaps if you don't want to talk about the reasons you want to see a counsellor you can print out the Yahoo Answers question you linked to in this question and give it to the Doctor to read. Often, putting something in writing for someone to read is less awkward than talking about it out loud.
Whatever you decide to do, please seek help as soon as possible. Keep in mind there IS NO REASON why, with appropriate care and rehabilitation, that you can't lead a happy and fulfilling life - you just need to take the first few steps of action.
Best of luck, and keep us updated. Health Question & Answer
Now, on to your question: The key thing for me to remember whenever I go to a Doctor for something I don't like talking about it is to tell myself that they've heard it all before. Your Doctor, I can guarantee you, has heard stories similar to yours several times before (unfortunately there are many people who self harm and have been abused, etc). He/she will be used to hearing those stories, and as such, should be receptive and supporting. Try to keep that in mind.
In terms of what to actually say, I'd just start out simple, for example "I've been feeling really depressed for several months and I want to get a referral to a counsellor." The Doctor will prompt you for more information most likely, and it's up to you how much you give. If he asks what is wrong you can say "I've had some abuse in my life, and consequently I've started harming myself." If he needs more information just keep answering in your own time.
Keep in mind though, the key things he needs to determine are that you are not a danger to yourself or to anyone else, and that you are currently living in a safe environment. To reassure him of this, you can tell him you no longer live with your abusers (if that is indeed the case) and that you have no desire to hurt anyone else (if that is indeed the case). You seem to be having suicidal thoughts though, and that will concern the Doctor. A good idea is to make a 'no-suicide agreement' which is often used by mental health professionals. You simply sign a 'contract' saying you won't attempt suicide for a week, or a month, or whatever the time frame you decide on is, and give that to the Doctor. BUT, if you are in danger, or in danger of hurting yourself or anyone else, it is important that you are honest with the Doctor. There are a range of acute treatments and care plans available that can help you.
Another idea: Perhaps if you don't want to talk about the reasons you want to see a counsellor you can print out the Yahoo Answers question you linked to in this question and give it to the Doctor to read. Often, putting something in writing for someone to read is less awkward than talking about it out loud.
Whatever you decide to do, please seek help as soon as possible. Keep in mind there IS NO REASON why, with appropriate care and rehabilitation, that you can't lead a happy and fulfilling life - you just need to take the first few steps of action.
Best of luck, and keep us updated. Health Question & Answer
Don't worry about sounding full on, they probably won't even care.
First of all, the doctors appointment is to request counselling, you won't need to go into all your details that day. He or she could not counsel you even if they wanted. It's not their job.
Just go to them and say: I was wondering if I could see a counsellor because I have so many problems on my mind...it's overwhelming. I've had problems with abuse and eating disorders that I can't get over and really need some help to address a whole bunch of things.
Then s/he will either ask for more info or get on with referring you.
You don't even need to say sexual abuse when you bring it up. Just abuse. You can start out fairly tame, with few details. Just express that you need help sorting your head out, rather than listing all the problems in your life.
Then see how it goes. If s/he is not taking it seriously enough or needs to know what specific area you need counselling for then tell him what you think is necessary, bit by bit after s/he asks stuff.
FYI stop threating to report people , not only is it against the rules to do so, but you will attract people who will report you just for saying it. Health Question & Answer
The doctor does not need to know all the details. The fact that you know that a psychological issue is causing your physical problems should be enough. You can mention that you have abuse in your past and that you're trying to work through some other issues and think couselling would be beneficial.
That should be just about all that you need to say.
I wish you the very best of luck. Health Question & Answer
That should be just about all that you need to say.
I wish you the very best of luck. Health Question & Answer
I work in a medical clinic.... in my clinic all you would have to say is that you have some personal issues you would like to discuss with a counselor, just be straight with your doc most MD's are willing to help people who want help. Health Question & Answer
Say you're having personal problems that you'd like to keep confidential.Health Question & Answer