Group therapy question.?!
Question: Group therapy question..?
ok so i went to my new group session for the first time today bla bla i have some anxiety disorder.. bla bla everyone in there is depressed. But there is a hella hot chick in there who is single and all but i was wondering this.
Do you think it would be bad to write her a little note telling her that i think she is pritty bla bla bla.? i mean she's not there to get a bf.. and i dont want to make it awkward or anything or scare her away from the group...
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Do you think it would be bad to write her a little note telling her that i think she is pritty bla bla bla.? i mean she's not there to get a bf.. and i dont want to make it awkward or anything or scare her away from the group...
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Answers:
I participated in group therapy for almost 4 years.
We were told not to build friendship (outside of the therapy) with other people from our group. I believe this rule applies to every group therapy.The main reason is because, a bond between these people will be formed and then others from the group will feel excluded. also because, as the friendship grows you will confide in each other instead of the group in therapy.
It is inappropriate to "flirt" or start an intimate relationship with another member of your group. It so happens that when I was in my group therapy, two people started a secret intimate relationship outside of therapy and when the therapist found out, they were both expelled out of therapy for not following the rules.
The main goal of group therapy is to feel secure with the other people. You need to be able to trust them and share your deepest secrets. Some people living with depression (or other illnesses) might have lived sexual abuse in the past, and you giving this "note" to the girl might make her feel VERY uncomfortable. I know I was myself abused as a child and when another member of my group "flirted" with me, it made me extremely uncomfortable (to a point where I could no longer sit near him and would feel bad every time he would glance my way.)
So basicaly, the good thing is having "hot chicks" in your group therapy will be one more thing to motivate your attendence but, unfortunately you cannot aknowledge your feelings/attraction towards her/them.
If you still want to know for sure, ask your therapist if it is ok to make friends with other members of the group outside of the therapy. But I personally would not suggest it.
Hope I've answered your question (even though I "busted your
bubble")
Good luck and keep strong ;)Health Question & Answer
We were told not to build friendship (outside of the therapy) with other people from our group. I believe this rule applies to every group therapy.The main reason is because, a bond between these people will be formed and then others from the group will feel excluded. also because, as the friendship grows you will confide in each other instead of the group in therapy.
It is inappropriate to "flirt" or start an intimate relationship with another member of your group. It so happens that when I was in my group therapy, two people started a secret intimate relationship outside of therapy and when the therapist found out, they were both expelled out of therapy for not following the rules.
The main goal of group therapy is to feel secure with the other people. You need to be able to trust them and share your deepest secrets. Some people living with depression (or other illnesses) might have lived sexual abuse in the past, and you giving this "note" to the girl might make her feel VERY uncomfortable. I know I was myself abused as a child and when another member of my group "flirted" with me, it made me extremely uncomfortable (to a point where I could no longer sit near him and would feel bad every time he would glance my way.)
So basicaly, the good thing is having "hot chicks" in your group therapy will be one more thing to motivate your attendence but, unfortunately you cannot aknowledge your feelings/attraction towards her/them.
If you still want to know for sure, ask your therapist if it is ok to make friends with other members of the group outside of the therapy. But I personally would not suggest it.
Hope I've answered your question (even though I "busted your
bubble")
Good luck and keep strong ;)Health Question & Answer
The fact that you are interested in a girl is fine...but this is probably a way of distracting yourself from the benefit that you might get in the group. This is normal but not helpful.
Personally, I would be friendly but keep my focus on my heatlth. I would talk to the person leading the group about the issue.
I might be apt to write the girl a note but say that you need to pay attention to what's going on in the group....but maybe could do something after the group.
Again, I would check with the group facilitator firstHealth Question & Answer
Personally, I would be friendly but keep my focus on my heatlth. I would talk to the person leading the group about the issue.
I might be apt to write the girl a note but say that you need to pay attention to what's going on in the group....but maybe could do something after the group.
Again, I would check with the group facilitator firstHealth Question & Answer
You're moving WAY too fast.
also, I don't know what age you are but people don't write notes to other people saying they think they are hot. That's pretty childish and doesn't make much sense.
Leave her alone and just get on with the group. If she is depressed and you have problems too then even if something did happen between you, it is not going to be good, especially when you break up (which there is a 99.8% chance you will) and then the person has another problem to deal with. Probably including suicidal feelings
But it is sweet that you're concerned. Just at least wait to see if she shows interest and get to know her...
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also, I don't know what age you are but people don't write notes to other people saying they think they are hot. That's pretty childish and doesn't make much sense.
Leave her alone and just get on with the group. If she is depressed and you have problems too then even if something did happen between you, it is not going to be good, especially when you break up (which there is a 99.8% chance you will) and then the person has another problem to deal with. Probably including suicidal feelings
But it is sweet that you're concerned. Just at least wait to see if she shows interest and get to know her...
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First of all I think you gotta offer your friendship, if all the people in there have problems don't give her another, help her. Health Question & Answer