Would you stop seeing psychiatrist like this?!
Question: Would you stop seeing psychiatrist like this.?
My shrink is experience (about 70 years old), real nice and gentle, super kind and patience...like many other people's grandpas. He is my uncle(mom's younger brother)'s former classmate in university (found out accidentally by me after few visits). I really like him and respect him (as a doctor) but his CBT "talk-talk-talk" treatment doesn't help me much. Meds. are v. good though to stablize my mood.
I faxed to him alot to ask questions, sometimes cried for help when I have suicidal ideation. He answered all my faxes EVERYTIME (or called me ) and sometimes within 2 mins. I treated him like a super model (my dad.?my uncle.? or transference.?.?.?not sure). I bought him gifts (he accepted all) [ boundary crossed.? or he's afraid if he rejected, he's going to hurt my feeling.?]
He has mentioned he's retiring soon but how soon he's not sure. I am a BPD and I am sooooo afraid and uneasy about separation. I told him and he didn't answer me directly. Sometimes he casually asked me to see another shrink. I yesterday faxed him and told him to give up seeing me as a patient as I found and felt that I am very troublesome and demanding too much from him and sooner or later would burn him out. I expected him to say "o.k. If you don't want to come see me, you can see someone else..." but he faxed back, " NO, I have not given you up and I still expect you to come for next appointment..." What to do.?.?.? Health Question & Answer
I faxed to him alot to ask questions, sometimes cried for help when I have suicidal ideation. He answered all my faxes EVERYTIME (or called me ) and sometimes within 2 mins. I treated him like a super model (my dad.?my uncle.? or transference.?.?.?not sure). I bought him gifts (he accepted all) [ boundary crossed.? or he's afraid if he rejected, he's going to hurt my feeling.?]
He has mentioned he's retiring soon but how soon he's not sure. I am a BPD and I am sooooo afraid and uneasy about separation. I told him and he didn't answer me directly. Sometimes he casually asked me to see another shrink. I yesterday faxed him and told him to give up seeing me as a patient as I found and felt that I am very troublesome and demanding too much from him and sooner or later would burn him out. I expected him to say "o.k. If you don't want to come see me, you can see someone else..." but he faxed back, " NO, I have not given you up and I still expect you to come for next appointment..." What to do.?.?.? Health Question & Answer
Answers:
I think you see yourself as a burden when you are not - you are a patient, a friend and a family member.
Cognitive behavioral therapy isn't effective with everyone and eventually he might stop that treatment with process of elimination - meds are good for chemical imbalances of the brain.
CBT is a very long process and you're so lucky not to pay a dime!
Have you told him that you feel it isn't working for you dear.?
If you haven't been having that treatment for a long time then try giving it some time - trust in his practice.
It seems that you are far from giving him burnout, most people who work in health care with that much experience experience burnout long before 70yrs, it seems he's really passionate about his job.
I think you should turn up for your next appointment and work with him, he may not want to retire until after you are better and obviously wants to help you. You're very lucky and I hope you take advantage of the opportunity he's offered you to stay on.
Good luck!
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Cognitive behavioral therapy isn't effective with everyone and eventually he might stop that treatment with process of elimination - meds are good for chemical imbalances of the brain.
CBT is a very long process and you're so lucky not to pay a dime!
Have you told him that you feel it isn't working for you dear.?
If you haven't been having that treatment for a long time then try giving it some time - trust in his practice.
It seems that you are far from giving him burnout, most people who work in health care with that much experience experience burnout long before 70yrs, it seems he's really passionate about his job.
I think you should turn up for your next appointment and work with him, he may not want to retire until after you are better and obviously wants to help you. You're very lucky and I hope you take advantage of the opportunity he's offered you to stay on.
Good luck!
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