Every time I say something mean to someone only when they are being mean to me every one gets all mad and acts?!
Question: Every time I say something mean to someone only when they are being mean to me every one gets all mad and acts.?
like Im a mental liar and I end up crying myself to sleep alone in a desolate place and getting suicidal. I don't understand why I do this. It take every thing serious, and i do what I have to do when they are being mean to me. Every one says I come off as a mental bully, but Im not Im a very kind person that helps everyone and it kills me to have to be mean and ugly and kind of aggressive to them. I notice here a lately I am very talkative and I don't understand why.Why am I getting emotional and suicidal and why am I so talkative.? Is their something wrong with me.? Please non criticizing advice. Please.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
You're emotional and suicidal because you're depressed. You should see a counsellor or a dr if you can to control your emotions.
I understand how you feel. I have feeling the same way a dozen times like you. But it's not always appropriate to get upset at other people.
Like for example if someone cuts in front of you, it's not appropriate to say something out loud and sound angry to them. Maybe they didn't see you or something else but you always have to trust that the whomever was not deliberately trying to be rude to you.
In most cases, you cannot read the person's mind and it's always best to be safer than to be sorry.
Was the person aggressive to you.? If not, it's best never to use aggression to get your point across. I know it's frustrating in feeling as if your feelings are ignored or that people never listen or they're so selfish.
Getting upset at someone may make you feel better in the short term but it just builds negativity within you and around you. That is you begin to think that you're right that people are mean but that might not be true. You waste time feel as if there's no justice in this world.
Even if it's true that people are mean to you and you have an urge to defend your rights, you should be careful about how you respond to people.
It makes it harder for people to want to be around a negative person especially if you got upset at them before. also if others saw you behave angrily to others they may be afraid of you. I am sure that's not what you want.
You have to find to other ways of having to deal with social problems. Count to ten. Don't allow yourself to get angy at people even if you have every right to.
I am not saying it's easy of course. But many things are not really worth the energy to get upset about. It does more harm than good for you. You end up feeling more depressed afterwards and can't concentrate on other things that you need to pay attention to.
I feel sorry for you because i understand how you feel. We all walk in different shoes and you can't expect everyone to understand how we feel.
However, are you only rude to people who are rude to you.? Yes, there are truly selfish rude people. If you have truly rude friends that are really bad, you should drop them because they're only making your life worse. You don't want to turn into them.
You should try to surround yourself with people who don't abuse you.
Feel free to email me and i'll try to listen and be your friend.
I am sure with if you can get some help and support from a professional, you will be able to rationalize better and get your life on track.Health Question & Answer
I understand how you feel. I have feeling the same way a dozen times like you. But it's not always appropriate to get upset at other people.
Like for example if someone cuts in front of you, it's not appropriate to say something out loud and sound angry to them. Maybe they didn't see you or something else but you always have to trust that the whomever was not deliberately trying to be rude to you.
In most cases, you cannot read the person's mind and it's always best to be safer than to be sorry.
Was the person aggressive to you.? If not, it's best never to use aggression to get your point across. I know it's frustrating in feeling as if your feelings are ignored or that people never listen or they're so selfish.
Getting upset at someone may make you feel better in the short term but it just builds negativity within you and around you. That is you begin to think that you're right that people are mean but that might not be true. You waste time feel as if there's no justice in this world.
Even if it's true that people are mean to you and you have an urge to defend your rights, you should be careful about how you respond to people.
It makes it harder for people to want to be around a negative person especially if you got upset at them before. also if others saw you behave angrily to others they may be afraid of you. I am sure that's not what you want.
You have to find to other ways of having to deal with social problems. Count to ten. Don't allow yourself to get angy at people even if you have every right to.
I am not saying it's easy of course. But many things are not really worth the energy to get upset about. It does more harm than good for you. You end up feeling more depressed afterwards and can't concentrate on other things that you need to pay attention to.
I feel sorry for you because i understand how you feel. We all walk in different shoes and you can't expect everyone to understand how we feel.
However, are you only rude to people who are rude to you.? Yes, there are truly selfish rude people. If you have truly rude friends that are really bad, you should drop them because they're only making your life worse. You don't want to turn into them.
You should try to surround yourself with people who don't abuse you.
Feel free to email me and i'll try to listen and be your friend.
I am sure with if you can get some help and support from a professional, you will be able to rationalize better and get your life on track.Health Question & Answer
Sometimes if your craving attention (and you may not realize it) you unintentionally take it out on others. If your mind is in a bad place all your thoughts will be negative, so you will say negative things that feel right to say but you dont truely mean them. My suggestion is to try and get your mind into a good place, focus on the good things in life, even the little things and dismiss the bad things.
If you only say mean things to people when they are being mean to you then its simple, dont play their games, let them say mean things to you and dont say anything back, if they are right in what they say about you then all you should say is sorry, dont argue and dont say anything mean back to them! That way people cant kick off at you for being mean.
also maybe you need some new friends, it sounds like they are ganging up on you.Health Question & Answer
If you only say mean things to people when they are being mean to you then its simple, dont play their games, let them say mean things to you and dont say anything back, if they are right in what they say about you then all you should say is sorry, dont argue and dont say anything mean back to them! That way people cant kick off at you for being mean.
also maybe you need some new friends, it sounds like they are ganging up on you.Health Question & Answer