Sexual abuse ............................!
Question: Sexual abuse ...........................?
I've been sexually abused by someone very close to me.
Because of it I have issues. I have self injured and now I am currently battling an eating disorder.I see a counselor once every few weeks about my issues but she doesn't know I've been sexually abused.
Nobody does. We were talking today and she said she thinks there's something behind my issues that I'm not telling her. She is right, but I don't know how to tell her.I asked her after we talked if she would have to report it if i told her I was sexually abused in the past. She said as long as it was over she wouldn't tell. Then I left.....but here's the thing..I want to tell her, but I don't want to tell her the person that did it and that its happened recently. I want to tell her it was somebody in my past, a few years ago and its long gone. I wouldn't name a real person because that would be wrong. But I need to tell her I have been sexually abused so I can receive proper counseling...... and I know I should tell the truth but Im not ready yet .Okay so here's my questions!
Do you think its a good idea or a bad idea.?
Do you think its wrong to lie about the details of the abuse.?
Do you have any other suggestions.
Please don't be judgmental
You probable have no idea
How hard it is
To be in this situating
Im only 14
and I didn't asked for this
and please no emo crap =]
Thanks people!!!
Sorry I douple posted
I usually dont
and I find people who double post
are annoying attenion seeking trolls
but I need more answers
This is one of the most important question I think I've ever asked anybody..................sorry againHealth Question & Answer
Because of it I have issues. I have self injured and now I am currently battling an eating disorder.I see a counselor once every few weeks about my issues but she doesn't know I've been sexually abused.
Nobody does. We were talking today and she said she thinks there's something behind my issues that I'm not telling her. She is right, but I don't know how to tell her.I asked her after we talked if she would have to report it if i told her I was sexually abused in the past. She said as long as it was over she wouldn't tell. Then I left.....but here's the thing..I want to tell her, but I don't want to tell her the person that did it and that its happened recently. I want to tell her it was somebody in my past, a few years ago and its long gone. I wouldn't name a real person because that would be wrong. But I need to tell her I have been sexually abused so I can receive proper counseling...... and I know I should tell the truth but Im not ready yet .Okay so here's my questions!
Do you think its a good idea or a bad idea.?
Do you think its wrong to lie about the details of the abuse.?
Do you have any other suggestions.
Please don't be judgmental
You probable have no idea
How hard it is
To be in this situating
Im only 14
and I didn't asked for this
and please no emo crap =]
Thanks people!!!
Sorry I douple posted
I usually dont
and I find people who double post
are annoying attenion seeking trolls
but I need more answers
This is one of the most important question I think I've ever asked anybody..................sorry againHealth Question & Answer
Answers:
ok to start with yes i do now how hard it is i am 15 ive been cutting for over 2 years and have been sexually abused so i know what its like and there will be no judgement from me in fact well done for getting help and seeing a canceller
anyway about your problem if you want to tell her what happened tell her she has probably guessed by now anyway but you only have to tell her what you want so if you don't want to name names don't i understand fully why you don't but it is defiantly NOT wrong to say who it is they have broken the law they are the ones who have done something wrong not you ok
tell you were sexually abused and if she asked who, say your not ready to give names or something but if you feel you want to tell her then then tell her when your ready about when just say its over now and don't say exactly when,
try to tell the truth without revealing more then you want to
just one thing she will be able to help you the best if she knows everything but that said you should not say anything before you feel ready sorry this is a 2 sided thing but thats how it is i can't make a decision for you i can just state the facts
i hope this helped and if you ever want to talk just email me
good luck with getting betterHealth Question & Answer
anyway about your problem if you want to tell her what happened tell her she has probably guessed by now anyway but you only have to tell her what you want so if you don't want to name names don't i understand fully why you don't but it is defiantly NOT wrong to say who it is they have broken the law they are the ones who have done something wrong not you ok
tell you were sexually abused and if she asked who, say your not ready to give names or something but if you feel you want to tell her then then tell her when your ready about when just say its over now and don't say exactly when,
try to tell the truth without revealing more then you want to
just one thing she will be able to help you the best if she knows everything but that said you should not say anything before you feel ready sorry this is a 2 sided thing but thats how it is i can't make a decision for you i can just state the facts
i hope this helped and if you ever want to talk just email me
good luck with getting betterHealth Question & Answer
I think you should tell your counselor the truth. If you don't tell the abuse will continue. That is NOT good for you. Been where you are at. You need to tell. Otherwise you will continue to get abused and you are wasting time in counseling. If you are to heal you have to be honest with yourself, and your counselor.Health Question & Answer
Tell your councelor the truth, because if she catches you in a lie, she won't believe anything you say after. And even worse, the person who did this to you get's away with what he did to you.Health Question & Answer
Please, sweet thing, confide totally in your therapist; How, really, could that hurt more than you are hurting right now.?Health Question & Answer
Dont hide anything from you counselor and i think you need to see a counselor at least twice a week in your sistuation.
I belive one of the worse think that you can do is hide your pain because you will fell worse
It might hurt to confront the abusers but you will fell better when you realise there details cause they will be sure not to do it again this goes with both of them.
The people who done this to you should be punished (jail in my case) and i dont care if they still love you or something cause no one needed to be treated like the way you be treated
And dont worry you will be alright just let it all out and you will fell much better
Good luck with this My FriendHealth Question & Answer
I belive one of the worse think that you can do is hide your pain because you will fell worse
It might hurt to confront the abusers but you will fell better when you realise there details cause they will be sure not to do it again this goes with both of them.
The people who done this to you should be punished (jail in my case) and i dont care if they still love you or something cause no one needed to be treated like the way you be treated
And dont worry you will be alright just let it all out and you will fell much better
Good luck with this My FriendHealth Question & Answer
wow,to have to deal with all that stuff at 14 is overwhelming isnt it.?i know you said you dont want to tell her who and when it happened but i think you are ready to,if you are looking for counseling then you are one brave person,and you owe it to yourself to tell her everything,thats the only way you can totally heal.you need to tell her who and that it has happened recently,and by doing this you can stop it from happening to someone else.good luck,you have made the first hard decision,take the next step and tell her everything,you will be glad you did ok.?Health Question & Answer
Tell your counselor. It's going to be hard, even if you don't say who it is or what happened it's good to get it out.
What they did to you was wrong. your a kid and it's not your fault. It has taken me a long time to grasp that.
your counselor is there to help you so use it to your advantage. The longer you bottle it up the worse your going to feel. When you let it out its like a big boulder off your shoulders.
I would tell her.
If ya want to talk more to somebody who's gone through it go ahead an email me I have no problem with that.
good luck hun. It's hard. but I promise it gets better.Health Question & Answer
What they did to you was wrong. your a kid and it's not your fault. It has taken me a long time to grasp that.
your counselor is there to help you so use it to your advantage. The longer you bottle it up the worse your going to feel. When you let it out its like a big boulder off your shoulders.
I would tell her.
If ya want to talk more to somebody who's gone through it go ahead an email me I have no problem with that.
good luck hun. It's hard. but I promise it gets better.Health Question & Answer
>> I wouldn't name a real person because that would be wrong.
WHAT.? Because.?
Counseling is a total waste of time if you're not forthcoming. You say you find "attention seeking trolls" annoying - and yet you are obviously being one with these stupid games. You go to counselor - pay money - and then play a stupid guessing / withholding game.?
You want the attention and the bull to continue more than you want to be healthy - Otherwise, you'd get on with the program.
You "want to tell her", but "don't want to name someone" - EMO game playing at it's finest. If you want to tell her then just tell her.
It doesn't matter when it was, you're a minor and she's legally bound to report it. She'll lose her license otherwise. What is is what is - get with the program, get well, get past it, and get a good life.
Or, you can be "the sad little abused game-playing child" forever. Whichver thing seems most fun to you...Health Question & Answer
WHAT.? Because.?
Counseling is a total waste of time if you're not forthcoming. You say you find "attention seeking trolls" annoying - and yet you are obviously being one with these stupid games. You go to counselor - pay money - and then play a stupid guessing / withholding game.?
You want the attention and the bull to continue more than you want to be healthy - Otherwise, you'd get on with the program.
You "want to tell her", but "don't want to name someone" - EMO game playing at it's finest. If you want to tell her then just tell her.
It doesn't matter when it was, you're a minor and she's legally bound to report it. She'll lose her license otherwise. What is is what is - get with the program, get well, get past it, and get a good life.
Or, you can be "the sad little abused game-playing child" forever. Whichver thing seems most fun to you...Health Question & Answer
you need to tell her, no matter who did that to you. The only way to get better is to tell her all of your issues so u can get them resolved, and u need to tell her that it happened recently, because saying it happened a few years back makes it sound like you arent as concerned anymore about it. You can't just hide these things under the bed and forget about them. It's important to say everything that went on. And who said you had to tell the person that did it to you.? If they know who it is, they might be able to do something about it now. Dont wait. Health Question & Answer
first off: I was molested in an airport bathroom when i was 8
i have a fear of public bathrooms, hard to trust people (even though i am posting this on the internet, but whatever) and i have commitment issues (also do in-part to an abandoning father) and yeah
so i do know what it was like, and getting touched by people
so pretty much whenever someone who gets raped/molested, the next time it happens (if it happens) the tend to freeze up, rather than a person who was not molested, fight back.
but back to your question:
1) yes i think it is a great idea to tell her
last year around november, i had to go to counceling because i was suicidal, my sister tried offing her self (we didn't try together, i went to counceling because she failed to kill herself which was good) and counceling helped after a while. its not good to lie in there. just fyi
2) yes i think it is wrong to lie. sorry to say, but even if it is someone close. Chances are they are going to do it again, if not to you, then to someone else. And i am sure you don't wish for someone else to go thorugh what you are going through.
(i am 16 btw, and the therepy was when i was 15) so yeah...
if you wish to email me and talk about this, i check my email almost daily. so just email me if you want to talk okay.?
good luck.Health Question & Answer
i have a fear of public bathrooms, hard to trust people (even though i am posting this on the internet, but whatever) and i have commitment issues (also do in-part to an abandoning father) and yeah
so i do know what it was like, and getting touched by people
so pretty much whenever someone who gets raped/molested, the next time it happens (if it happens) the tend to freeze up, rather than a person who was not molested, fight back.
but back to your question:
1) yes i think it is a great idea to tell her
last year around november, i had to go to counceling because i was suicidal, my sister tried offing her self (we didn't try together, i went to counceling because she failed to kill herself which was good) and counceling helped after a while. its not good to lie in there. just fyi
2) yes i think it is wrong to lie. sorry to say, but even if it is someone close. Chances are they are going to do it again, if not to you, then to someone else. And i am sure you don't wish for someone else to go thorugh what you are going through.
(i am 16 btw, and the therepy was when i was 15) so yeah...
if you wish to email me and talk about this, i check my email almost daily. so just email me if you want to talk okay.?
good luck.Health Question & Answer
sweetie you have to tell her the truth! this will have a huge impact on your adult life and you dont need to harbor this pain and keep enduring this type of pain. please tell her. he has to get what he deserves. think about it, if he still out there on the loose think of how many girls he might abuse and rape if you dont say anything. guys like that dont stop with one girl, they keep doing it over and over. for the sake of your life and the lives of other girls tell her the whole truth and let the counselor take action!!!!!! please! its people lives!Health Question & Answer
My father was a rapist....he raped me from 5 to 14yrs old. I never reported him. I am now 31.He has been dead for 4 yrs . I have severe issues with sex and I am always misserable.I had acounselor once and I lied about what happened.I never got treatment and I definitly regret it.I know that the reason I have the bad relationships and the hate for sex is because i never dealt with the issues...you have to open up to someone or it will start to eat you up inside.I have flashbacks in the middle of the day(out of the blue) and night terrors ,you dont want this i promise.deal with this before its too late.Health Question & Answer