I'm feeling neglected by my GF, or am i just crazy?!
Question: I'm feeling neglected by my GF, or am i just crazy.?
Hi, About a month ago my girlfriend of 6 year decided to join a Co-Ed Business Fraternity at our school. In order to be accepted each pledge must go through an 8 week pledge class process. This means that she has meetings, fund raisers, party's est... that she has to attend 5-6 days a week. This includes EVERY Saturday night. So when all is said and done, I get to see her for maybe 4-5hrs a week.
Its just really hard for me to take a back seat to a group of people who she just met. I am a pretty emotional guy (which really sucks) and I just feel like she is choosing these people over me. It seems like if she WANTED to, she could have worked a lot harder to make more time for us, but instead she is CHOOSING to do more with these other people... Outside of the required time. I understand that this is a big deal to her and she is trying to develop relationships with new friends... I
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Its just really hard for me to take a back seat to a group of people who she just met. I am a pretty emotional guy (which really sucks) and I just feel like she is choosing these people over me. It seems like if she WANTED to, she could have worked a lot harder to make more time for us, but instead she is CHOOSING to do more with these other people... Outside of the required time. I understand that this is a big deal to her and she is trying to develop relationships with new friends... I
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Wow. That is an extremely tough situation. The real key issue here is trust, which I assume you have between each other especially considering all of the co-ed events she goes to. After eight weeks I am sure all of the events will calm down and she will have alot more time for you but until then this road has to be hard. If I were in your position I would sit down with her and explain how you understand all of her commitments she has with this fraternity but you are feeling slightly neglected. Make sure you let her know that you support her one hundred percent, but it is just hard for you. Maybe that way she knows that you are not having trust issues.. ect. and know that you just miss her company. Good luck.Health Question & Answer
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This is not acceptable in my opinion. I know you can feel its your fault, but in my opinion its all on her. My first girlfriend was bipolar, and I would be the one who was always upset. I thought it was my fault since she never got upset. I am now with a new girl, and I never feel the way I did when I was with my first girl. I was constantly depressed, and feeling totally unappreciated. My new girl, we spent every day of the summer together, and now we can only see each other on the weekend, and we treasure every moment together. If this is your first girl, it can be really really hard to let go, but it sounds like the relationship is starting to burn out. Just remember, just because you are the one who feels bad about the situation doesn't mean its your fault. question: does she do any sort of drugs including alcohol.? if she does and you don't, that could easily be the problem. I used to be a huge stoner, and i couldn't smoke at my new gf's house. I would take off early every day so i could go home and smoke. if she is a heavy drinker and your not, its time to end the relationship im sorry to say. drugs can really kill a relationship.Health Question & Answer
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