MY MOMS games are eating me alive inside!?!? HELP ME PLEASE!?!
Question: MY MOMS games are eating me alive inside!.?!.? HELP ME PLEASE!.?
I'm 16 years old turning 17 in 6 days. I dropped out of school last year in 9th grade because of social anxiety because I used to get bullied. I'm not a perfect kid in the past and ill admit that. When I was growing up around puberty, I used to have anger problems and would throw and break stuff and yell my parents and curse. My dad got sick when I was 8 years old and got CHF. To this day hes always in the hospital because of his CHF it seems like every other month.
My aunt (my dads sister) had a sick husband (my uncle) and she took care of my uncle for 5 years. He died about 2 years ago, and ever since then all she does it gossip about people and talk about everyone. She complains about the hospitals and how they treated him and how they took care of him badly. She loves reading gossip magazines about other celebrities. I dont mean to sound mean, but she tries to make herself look like shes perfect, she has bummy clothes, she has only 1 tooth, she has long gray strangly hair and shes fat. She tries to have this cocky/sassy/confident attitude like she doesnt care what other people say about her. When shes around my dad or me or anyone else, she has this fake bubbly personality and constantly laughs and giggles, which is so damn fake! She thinks that she knows everything when she gossips about stuff.
NOW heres the part about my mom: Years ago she used to go to her friends house and cry on her shoulders about how mean my dad was to her. She used to cry to my grandma too about how mean he was to her also. She would exagerate so much to the point where they would turn against my dad and hate him. They would start treating my dad differently. She would then laugh about it to my dad and felt good because she got her friends to hate him. Well her friends arent smart at all, and they all have screws loose and are slow. Shes the one that tries to be the smart when and acts like she knows it all when shes talking and gosssiping to them. She constantly talks about her friends behind their backs. She will go to one of her friends house, and then go to her other friends house and blab about her other friend to them. She constantly plays head games with me and my dad and sometimes my brother. Like she'll mumble under her breath about stuff right in front of us, and then we'll respond to her mumbling and she'll say "WHAT ARE U TALKING ABOUT!.? I DIDNT SAY NOTHING" for instance today, my mom told me to mow the lawn and I didnt do it, she goes and looks and says to my mom "i thought u said he was going to do it" and then he says "he'll do it my god, he isnt just gonna jump because you said to do it" and she mumbles and says "well you dont give a F**k if he does it or not" and then my dad heard her and responded and she said "I didnt say nothing what are you talking about, I was saying I had to go pee because thomas is in the bathroom" and then she came crying to me and smacking her lips and then I jumped her and yelled at her because I heard her say it.
Well recently my dad was in the hospital. My mom went to my aunts house to "visit" and my brother went with her. After they got over there, my aunt (my dads sister I told you about earlier up there^) mentioned something about me and then somehow it turned into a big gossip gathering about me. She started getting on my brothers *** about us not going up to the hospital and "comforting our mother" when my dad goes there and all this other stuff. Then my mom told her that my dad has always told me and my brother that he DOES NOT want us up there to see him because his lungs fill up and he cant breath and its scarey. Then my aunt says "well they have to grow up and face it, they're not kids nomore".
About 2 months ago I emailed a counselor at this vocational school that controls the GED classes and controls all of the programs at the vocational school. She emailed me back and we discussed some things about me and she told me she would need to have my parents siganature so I could take GED classes because I was underage. She then said she would email me the next day and tell me about the GED classes and more about the program. I emailed her 3 times that same week because she never emailed me and told me. I figured this was because school had just started and maybe she was busy with schedules and stuff. Well its almost 2 months later and for some reason I havent emailed her LOL which I dont know why! I was so happy about this whole GED thing and told my parents about it. My mom then goes and runs and tells my aunt about it and she said "maybe hes lying". They are thinking that I was making up this whole thing because I didnt wanna go back to school. Well I still have all the emails that counselor sent me saved and I have the proof. I even showed my dad right when I got the first email from the counselor. It just makes me mad cuz they're gossiping so much that they're saying "i might be lying". I have like 5-6 emails from the counselor saved. I had my whole future planHealth Question & Answer
My aunt (my dads sister) had a sick husband (my uncle) and she took care of my uncle for 5 years. He died about 2 years ago, and ever since then all she does it gossip about people and talk about everyone. She complains about the hospitals and how they treated him and how they took care of him badly. She loves reading gossip magazines about other celebrities. I dont mean to sound mean, but she tries to make herself look like shes perfect, she has bummy clothes, she has only 1 tooth, she has long gray strangly hair and shes fat. She tries to have this cocky/sassy/confident attitude like she doesnt care what other people say about her. When shes around my dad or me or anyone else, she has this fake bubbly personality and constantly laughs and giggles, which is so damn fake! She thinks that she knows everything when she gossips about stuff.
NOW heres the part about my mom: Years ago she used to go to her friends house and cry on her shoulders about how mean my dad was to her. She used to cry to my grandma too about how mean he was to her also. She would exagerate so much to the point where they would turn against my dad and hate him. They would start treating my dad differently. She would then laugh about it to my dad and felt good because she got her friends to hate him. Well her friends arent smart at all, and they all have screws loose and are slow. Shes the one that tries to be the smart when and acts like she knows it all when shes talking and gosssiping to them. She constantly talks about her friends behind their backs. She will go to one of her friends house, and then go to her other friends house and blab about her other friend to them. She constantly plays head games with me and my dad and sometimes my brother. Like she'll mumble under her breath about stuff right in front of us, and then we'll respond to her mumbling and she'll say "WHAT ARE U TALKING ABOUT!.? I DIDNT SAY NOTHING" for instance today, my mom told me to mow the lawn and I didnt do it, she goes and looks and says to my mom "i thought u said he was going to do it" and then he says "he'll do it my god, he isnt just gonna jump because you said to do it" and she mumbles and says "well you dont give a F**k if he does it or not" and then my dad heard her and responded and she said "I didnt say nothing what are you talking about, I was saying I had to go pee because thomas is in the bathroom" and then she came crying to me and smacking her lips and then I jumped her and yelled at her because I heard her say it.
Well recently my dad was in the hospital. My mom went to my aunts house to "visit" and my brother went with her. After they got over there, my aunt (my dads sister I told you about earlier up there^) mentioned something about me and then somehow it turned into a big gossip gathering about me. She started getting on my brothers *** about us not going up to the hospital and "comforting our mother" when my dad goes there and all this other stuff. Then my mom told her that my dad has always told me and my brother that he DOES NOT want us up there to see him because his lungs fill up and he cant breath and its scarey. Then my aunt says "well they have to grow up and face it, they're not kids nomore".
About 2 months ago I emailed a counselor at this vocational school that controls the GED classes and controls all of the programs at the vocational school. She emailed me back and we discussed some things about me and she told me she would need to have my parents siganature so I could take GED classes because I was underage. She then said she would email me the next day and tell me about the GED classes and more about the program. I emailed her 3 times that same week because she never emailed me and told me. I figured this was because school had just started and maybe she was busy with schedules and stuff. Well its almost 2 months later and for some reason I havent emailed her LOL which I dont know why! I was so happy about this whole GED thing and told my parents about it. My mom then goes and runs and tells my aunt about it and she said "maybe hes lying". They are thinking that I was making up this whole thing because I didnt wanna go back to school. Well I still have all the emails that counselor sent me saved and I have the proof. I even showed my dad right when I got the first email from the counselor. It just makes me mad cuz they're gossiping so much that they're saying "i might be lying". I have like 5-6 emails from the counselor saved. I had my whole future planHealth Question & Answer
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TAKE THE BULL BY ITS HORNS. If you dont receive back the email that you are expecting, GO up to the highschool or place of education that you will be seeking your GED and talk to them PERSONALLY. GET GOING AND DO IT NOW.
It seems to me that YOU are getting involved in your mom, dad, aunts, uncles life which is plagued with gossip (thats what old people do) and you should be leading a young life, with young friends. Since when does a 17 year old care what old people think.?
also get a part time job at Home Depot or TGIF or Michaels or something just to get out of the environment you are in. Its not good for you. Go to school part time at night and take some responsibility for your life. Try to hang out with people your own age and have teenage problems not yentering, gossiping old peeps probs.
Good luck to you t_ . I do wish you the very best. Once you get that GED, then you can move on up in the world. Health Question & Answer
It seems to me that YOU are getting involved in your mom, dad, aunts, uncles life which is plagued with gossip (thats what old people do) and you should be leading a young life, with young friends. Since when does a 17 year old care what old people think.?
also get a part time job at Home Depot or TGIF or Michaels or something just to get out of the environment you are in. Its not good for you. Go to school part time at night and take some responsibility for your life. Try to hang out with people your own age and have teenage problems not yentering, gossiping old peeps probs.
Good luck to you t_ . I do wish you the very best. Once you get that GED, then you can move on up in the world. Health Question & Answer
First of all, this was way too long.
Second, you're letting the lives of other people affect you too much.
Dropping out of school probably wasn't a good idea, even if you were bullied. If school was THAT bad, then you should have gone to a different school or something. Sorry to be blunt, but I think you're gonna have even greater social problems when you're older. For that, you need to talk to people beyond Yahoo Answers, and get professional help.Health Question & Answer
Second, you're letting the lives of other people affect you too much.
Dropping out of school probably wasn't a good idea, even if you were bullied. If school was THAT bad, then you should have gone to a different school or something. Sorry to be blunt, but I think you're gonna have even greater social problems when you're older. For that, you need to talk to people beyond Yahoo Answers, and get professional help.Health Question & Answer
First of all, it sounds like you're playing a few games yourself. First, what does your aunt's physical appearance have to do with anything.? And have you ever really sat and thought about WHY she acts how she does.? Her husband has passed away, she obviously has low self esteem, and she is trying to be optimistic. She probably gossips or judges in order to make herself feel better which is likely a never ending battle with her. Try empathy sometime. It'll do you wonders.
As far as your mom and dad----man, everyone has issues similar to these. I feel for you that your dad is ill, and I am sorry about that. But that means you need to step up and act responsibly towards him and your mom. Quit playing them off one another. I know you will think you aren't doing that and deny it, but from your question it certainly sounds as if you do. Listening in on conversations, trying to get your dad to go against your mom, etc.
And as far as your mom and dad's issues between each other; that's between them. I know it's tough to see them argue or be nasty to one another. So tell them respectfully and with an open heart, how you feel about these things. The only thing you can do is discuss.
As for the school stuff. Why are you blaming your mom and aunt.? Sure they said you might be lying, and yeah that's isn't cool. But you wouldn't have heard it in the first place if you weren't being nosy, and secondly PROVE them wrong! Show your mom the proof, and get going on your education. Keep in touch with your counselor cause it is your responsibility to do so.
You have family issues, I hear ya. We all do. But you need to take some responsibility for yourself. You blame your mother and aunt for gossiping and being nosy, but by involving yourself in their antics, and listening in, you are doing the same thing! Just let that stuff go, and worry about you, and your own business. Get your school stuff going, and talk to your mom and dad. And try not to be so judgemental of everyone around you. Everyone goes through their own tough times and rough patches, and sometimes we aren't the best person we can be. No one is perfect.Health Question & Answer
As far as your mom and dad----man, everyone has issues similar to these. I feel for you that your dad is ill, and I am sorry about that. But that means you need to step up and act responsibly towards him and your mom. Quit playing them off one another. I know you will think you aren't doing that and deny it, but from your question it certainly sounds as if you do. Listening in on conversations, trying to get your dad to go against your mom, etc.
And as far as your mom and dad's issues between each other; that's between them. I know it's tough to see them argue or be nasty to one another. So tell them respectfully and with an open heart, how you feel about these things. The only thing you can do is discuss.
As for the school stuff. Why are you blaming your mom and aunt.? Sure they said you might be lying, and yeah that's isn't cool. But you wouldn't have heard it in the first place if you weren't being nosy, and secondly PROVE them wrong! Show your mom the proof, and get going on your education. Keep in touch with your counselor cause it is your responsibility to do so.
You have family issues, I hear ya. We all do. But you need to take some responsibility for yourself. You blame your mother and aunt for gossiping and being nosy, but by involving yourself in their antics, and listening in, you are doing the same thing! Just let that stuff go, and worry about you, and your own business. Get your school stuff going, and talk to your mom and dad. And try not to be so judgemental of everyone around you. Everyone goes through their own tough times and rough patches, and sometimes we aren't the best person we can be. No one is perfect.Health Question & Answer
Hmm. Hate to sound overly critical, but it sounds less like a question, more like a rant.
Spoken to friends about it.?
Could help.
Get some other ideas on it.Health Question & Answer
Spoken to friends about it.?
Could help.
Get some other ideas on it.Health Question & Answer
I read your whole story here.. the whole thing is real load on the eyes and heart. I'm sorry you go through this. Be strong and know that you are going through these trials and tribulations for a reason. Everything happens for a reason. IMO. Surround yourself with friends who become your true family.Health Question & Answer
You can make up your mind to be anything you want. When you decide to do that don't worry about what other people say just do it. Put your energy into doing the school work or job work then you'll be
too tired to care what they say.Knowing you're doing it is more rewarding than talking about it anyway. Good luckHealth Question & Answer
too tired to care what they say.Knowing you're doing it is more rewarding than talking about it anyway. Good luckHealth Question & Answer