My mom commited suicide, now what do I do?!

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I am really sorry for you and your family at this time. You are so young to loose your mum. There is no way that asking your mum not to kill herself made her go ahead with it, infact you probably made her feel that bit better for that time! I know you probably feel like your mum chose to leave you and your sisters but in her mind she probably felt she didn't have a choice as she was probably suffering from mental illness and she thought she was doing the right thing.
It's not your fault that this happened to your mum and you have to remember that.
I don't know how you will deal with it but you will and so will your family, one day at a time and hopefully with loads of support from friends, family and maybe even professionals you will gain some understanding and strength to go on.

I really do wish you all the best in the future.
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I'm sorry for your loss. Nothing you did had anything to do with her death, people that are suicidal are so despairing that nothing anyone says or does makes a difference to how bad they feel, even her love for you. It's very, very sad but the balance of their mind is disturbed. She literally couldn't help herself. the best advice I can give you as individuals and as a family is to get bereavement counselling to help you come to terms with what's happened. She was suffering from depression, her suicide doesn't mean she didn't love you. It's okay to be angry with her as well as upset. I hope you get the help you need.Health Question & Answer

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First let me say that I am very sorry to hear about your loss, you are very strong and brave....

You did not do this, you had nothing to do with her fate. This is not my opinion this fact..people who commit suicide have been struggling with mental and sometimes physical illness for a long time and their decision is a bad one, but they choose it not realizing the pain that they leave others behind with.....

You should really see a counselor of some kind, they can properly treat you for this tragedy, you will need to learn to forgive her, forgiveness does not absolve the person who wronged you, but it allows you to let go and release the pain, anger and hurt that you have, it is healthy and will only benefit you....
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I'm so sorry for your loss But don't blame your self your mother was probably really hurting inside. She was not thinking about the effect that her death would have on you and your sisters she just wanted stop feeling so sad all the time. Now that she is gone you need to step up big time for your sisters they need you. also remember don't be like your mom if you feel depressed talk to someone anyone that will listen.Health Question & Answer

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Making her promise not to kill herself wouldn't have been what killed her. The fact that she killed herself is nothing against you or your sisters. Depression is a mental illness, and as a mental illness it really impairs your judgement. I know you don't want to think of it this way, but it was basically a bit of insanity that caused her to do this. There was nothing anyone could have done. It's not your fault.Health Question & Answer

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Oh babe, theres nothing you could of done, confronting her was the right thing to do. I know you must be hurting but for her to do that she needed help from a professional you did nothing to make that worse or encourage it. Best thing to do is forgive her, find it in your heart to say "mom it's okay" she shouldn't of done that, there is other routes she could of taken to deal with what she was going through and leaving her children isn't right but forgiveness alot of the time makes alot of the hurt go away.

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When somebody commits suicide, it's usually because they have lost all hope.What you said to her didn't push her over the edge. Yes she lied to you, but I'm sure her intentions were to protect you & your siblings. No it doesn't make it okay. But try to imagine how terribly sad your mom must have been to make the choice she did. Talk to her..Tell her how you feel..ask her what you need to. In your own time you will understand and be able to forgive her. Your letter deeply saddens me and my heart & prayers go out to you.Health Question & Answer

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Please don't be angry with your mum when you are not well like this it is so hard to tell someone as you don't have pain and cannot explain it its not because she did not love you i sure but because.sometime life is so hard and she must have wanted help and did not feel able to ask for it i am so sorry that you feel you were abandoned but life is so hard sometime that we do not think Straight and she probable did not want to worry you i am sure you will understand one day how she felt and why it happened Good luck in all you do xxHealth Question & Answer

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I am sorry for your loss, there is no way I could even begin to understand what you & family are dealing with. All I can say is that you, your sisters, and anybody else who is effected by this tragedy should speak to somebody on a professional level.

Be strong, I will keep you in my prayers.

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Try to forgive her.Health Question & Answer

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hun don't ever think you had anything to do with your mom doing what she did. Talk to a professional and take care xHealth Question & Answer

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