Ok so here's the scoop, I have a over obsessive boyfriend that calls every 20 minutes what should I do?!
Question: Ok so here's the scoop, I have a over obsessive boyfriend that calls every 20 minutes what should I do.?
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He's afraid of losing you. Just tell him frankly you don't like being in a spotlight of maximum security.Health Question & Answer
Hi Stacie,
OK, so firstly you should decide if you want to continue with this relationship, or if you think that with a little effort you can get him to moderate his behaviour.
So there are a couple of approaches to this. I would personally use a little of both approaches.
Firstly, the direct approach. Tell him gently that you have other things to do than talk to him every 20 minutes. You must have other things to do like study, work, chores in the house or even if you are out with other friends.
Secondly, the wean him off so many calls. If you expect him to go from calling you three times an hour one day, to three times a day the next, you expectations may be a little high. Don't answer all his calls. Now I am not saying to stop answering all of his calls, this will increase his obsessivnes. Every now and again you must have other things to do than talk to him.
In addition to this, it is worth mentioning, that while you are with him, you extend him the politeness of not answering your phone every five minutes. Spend some time focusing on him and only him, so that he knows that you are with him. This will make him secure in the fact that he is your man even though you have other things going on in your life.
Good luck.
LHealth Question & Answer
OK, so firstly you should decide if you want to continue with this relationship, or if you think that with a little effort you can get him to moderate his behaviour.
So there are a couple of approaches to this. I would personally use a little of both approaches.
Firstly, the direct approach. Tell him gently that you have other things to do than talk to him every 20 minutes. You must have other things to do like study, work, chores in the house or even if you are out with other friends.
Secondly, the wean him off so many calls. If you expect him to go from calling you three times an hour one day, to three times a day the next, you expectations may be a little high. Don't answer all his calls. Now I am not saying to stop answering all of his calls, this will increase his obsessivnes. Every now and again you must have other things to do than talk to him.
In addition to this, it is worth mentioning, that while you are with him, you extend him the politeness of not answering your phone every five minutes. Spend some time focusing on him and only him, so that he knows that you are with him. This will make him secure in the fact that he is your man even though you have other things going on in your life.
Good luck.
LHealth Question & Answer
Hi Stacie, it seems as though this guy is doing everything in his power to drive you away.
Sit him down in private, and explain that although you think very much of him, you are entitled to see and speak to other people as friends, in deed the world would be a boring place if you were not.
H e has to accept that no one can control another person, that you are entitled to a freedom of choice on who you communicate with, and that if he can't change his ways, then a parting of the ways seems inevitable.
it may also be worth asking him why he is like this, has a past g/f done the dirty on him.? reassurance that you are for him and him alone in a relationship may also help.
Good luck,
Mike t.Health Question & Answer
Sit him down in private, and explain that although you think very much of him, you are entitled to see and speak to other people as friends, in deed the world would be a boring place if you were not.
H e has to accept that no one can control another person, that you are entitled to a freedom of choice on who you communicate with, and that if he can't change his ways, then a parting of the ways seems inevitable.
it may also be worth asking him why he is like this, has a past g/f done the dirty on him.? reassurance that you are for him and him alone in a relationship may also help.
Good luck,
Mike t.Health Question & Answer
This is a HUGE flag. It can range from obsession to insecurity to abusive personality (actually, this is one of the first signs of a potential abuser). Run, run, tell him to stop and if he can't then run, even if you have to get a restraining order.
Tell him to stop and talk about it with him. Remember that this trust issue is about him, not you. You can compromise a little, like schedule times for you two to talk, but you cannot accept violations of that schedule because it will then continue and get worse to unknown proportions.
Even if he is nice or dealing with issues, this is unacceptable behaviour. It will interfere with your life. You can love someone and want them to get better but be unable to be with them. If he can't stop, you have to forgive yourself for leaving.Health Question & Answer
Tell him to stop and talk about it with him. Remember that this trust issue is about him, not you. You can compromise a little, like schedule times for you two to talk, but you cannot accept violations of that schedule because it will then continue and get worse to unknown proportions.
Even if he is nice or dealing with issues, this is unacceptable behaviour. It will interfere with your life. You can love someone and want them to get better but be unable to be with them. If he can't stop, you have to forgive yourself for leaving.Health Question & Answer
Was it like this when you both started dating.? If it was, then he probably doesn't think he is doing anything wrong. However, if this just started happening then you should be able to tell that he is pretty needy. Wants to be by your side all the time. My suggestion is to just talk to him and and assur him that everything is cool. Other than that if you can't stand it, then move onto new territory.Health Question & Answer
Dump him. Okay fine...give him a chance. Let him know that you need him give you more space. Everyone needs time alone and basically to live. You can't accomplish things at home if your are on the phone constantly. Is it that he doesn't trust you.? That is not a good situation. When in a relationship, one of the important things to me is autonomy...read below. He is probably just immature. Just be honest with him and tell him how you are feeling--but be nice. Good luck. Health Question & Answer
i feel ya. i just got rid of one that did that. i flat out told him it has to quit. i couldn't always answer my phone at the drop of a hat because he was insecure and jealous (even though he had nothing to be jealous of..i was usually at work). it never quit so i got rid of him. i knew that was probably the beginning of bigger issues. Health Question & Answer
Talk to him and tell him that this attitude his becoming a problem with you. If he doesn't understand and try to change his behavior, then he isn't worth the effort from you. Find someone that will respect your boundaries and wishes.Health Question & Answer
Tell him to take a hike, and if he calls again it will be his last call, ever. That is the first sign of jealousy, you'll be a battered wife before long.
Peace.Health Question & Answer
Peace.Health Question & Answer
he don't need to be your boyfriend. obcessive in nature. Dump him, get a restraining order and watch your back. That is irritating and I had a boyfriend like that and that can drive you crazy.Health Question & Answer
talk to him kindly and not in an abusive way and tell him frankly the way u feel about those phone calls, but dont hurt his feelings, put urself in his shoe, it would be very hurting and embarrassing if he hurt ursHealth Question & Answer
Tell him to take a chill pill/ relax if that doesn't work out then break up and get a restraining order on him and change your phone numberHealth Question & Answer
dump him and change your phone number. thats not normal. and, like the first person said, a restraining order could be benifited from.Health Question & Answer
Just tell him to stop calling all the time,say that a phone call once or twice a day is enough.Health Question & Answer
You must be hot! Wow! Well, that's a bit much though. Tell him to chill out and if he doesn't split from him till he does.Health Question & Answer
Tell him to give you a little respect and cut it out. If he refuses, find yourself a better boyfriend.
Good luck!Health Question & Answer
Good luck!Health Question & Answer
Dump him. Change your phone number.
Get a restraining order if you have to.Health Question & Answer
Get a restraining order if you have to.Health Question & Answer
Your boyfriend have trust issue.Health Question & Answer
if its bothering you, dump him. block him from calling you. if you like it then you prolly wouldnt be asking...Health Question & Answer