ZHow can I break my shyness/social anxiety?!
Question: ZHow can I break my shyness/social anxiety.?
Once that weird anxiety is out of my stomach, I know and people have told me I'm really charismatic and all that, but recently, I have moved to a new school and I'm having a hard time socializing because this extreme anxiety gets in me and its like I lose all my intelligences and humor because of it... Anybody experience something similier to this.? any advise on this will help, but no just "go see a therapist" please.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Totally normal thing, really. Just begin by making friends and establishing small bonds with people over time. Allow time to work in your favor.Health Question & Answer
Try to be more social.
Make yourself go up to more people or just ask people simple questions.
MAKE yourself do this often and soon it will be natural to you.
I used to be very shy, but I made myself do things like this and I am much more comfortable socially.
And don't worry about making friends, you will.
I always worry about whether or not I will make new friends when I go somewhere new, and I ended up worrying about it for nothing because I end up making tons of new friends!Health Question & Answer
Make yourself go up to more people or just ask people simple questions.
MAKE yourself do this often and soon it will be natural to you.
I used to be very shy, but I made myself do things like this and I am much more comfortable socially.
And don't worry about making friends, you will.
I always worry about whether or not I will make new friends when I go somewhere new, and I ended up worrying about it for nothing because I end up making tons of new friends!Health Question & Answer
i'm like that and i get really nervous in front of crowds so i joined an improv club. if you don't know what improv is, it's when you go up in front of people (depending how many people are in the group) with at least 1 other person and you play games without being prepared or thinking about what you're gonna say. if you still don't understand, just google/yahoo it.Health Question & Answer
Baby steps, do something like join a club.
I still do not feel confident but joined the chess club , gained a few friends and since i was very good at chess ( i did not know that was the best in the school) i even represented the school in outside compettitions, my hand sweat at the bigging. now i feel better.Health Question & Answer
I still do not feel confident but joined the chess club , gained a few friends and since i was very good at chess ( i did not know that was the best in the school) i even represented the school in outside compettitions, my hand sweat at the bigging. now i feel better.Health Question & Answer
Try doing something amazing and see if you can make some good friends. I have problems like this too. But around my friends i feel no preasure at all! also try to join others and see what they want too do. Just try to ignore that urge to feel shy!Health Question & Answer
wake to the day with looking in the mirror and saying i am a wonderful person. deep breathing (sounds corny) but it works. talk to your doctor about meds that can help with that.Health Question & Answer
I've got the same problem. The best solution is to little by little step out of your comfort zone. Take baby steps and talk just a little bit more as each day goes by. Do NOT go to a shrink! They're more nuts than we are! LOL!Health Question & Answer
i'm not sure how old you are, but my advice is loosen up and have a cocktail. don't overdue it. just get loose and mingle. Health Question & Answer
Join a "socialisation club" in ur area such as toastmastersHealth Question & Answer
I went to 13 different schools in 12 years as an undergrad, so believe me I know what feeling like an outsider is like. I know that shyness can be crippling and limit the enjoyment of life and the world around us. Besides doing your best as whatever is at hand, here is my best recommendation for anyone who experiences shyness and social anxiety.
In social settings don't obsess about a whole room full of people who don't know you or who you think may not care for you. Instead think about only the person or group you are nearest to at any given point. Push yourself to introduce yourself and say hello first. Make small talk about an innocuous subject. Avoid political subjects and religion. Movies, sports, music, TV is safe. Ask the person about themselves. Showing an interest is always a good way to break the ice. If you feel uncomfortable, smile and excuse yourself by saying something like "Nice talking to you, can you point me to the the rest room(or the refreshments, etc).?" Move around and mingle a bit.
Being a good listener and showing interest in someone else goes a long way. It's no crime to not be the life of the party, most people aren't. Don't worry about saying the wrong thing. If you do, move on. A smile and pleasant demeanor will go a long way. There is an expression "Fake it til you make it". Act comfortable, smile and try to relax. Eventually you may actually be comfortable and feel relaxed.
But here's the best advice I can give you: Find an issue larger than yourself to think about that forces you to be among people in a situation where you think about others or the work at hand more than yourself. For instance, if you like animals, try volunteering to help out at the local shelter. You will be thrown among people with similar interests and animals that need your help.
Being active in a cause you believe in will take you out of yourself and help you think of others and their needs and aspirations and less about what others may think of you. (Believe it or not, most people don't have the time or inclination to spend much time thinking about you in particular and what you might feel are your shortcomings -- and they probably wouldn't even notice or care anyway).
Volunteer to help other people make their lives better or improve their quality of life: help build houses for families at Habitat for Humanity, hold someone's hand as a volunteer for Hospice, read books or magazines to someone who can't do it for themselves at a nursing home, hospital or elder care facility, read to children at the local library's story hour program. Sort donations and stock shelves for the local food bank. Join a group that packs shoe boxes with school supplies for kids in Afghanistan and Iraq, or care packages for our guys and gals over there.
Helping others and working for a cause you believe in will give you a reason to feel real pride in yourself and your accomplishments. It will expose you to interesting, new people in low stress, non-competitive settings while pushing your own personal envelope. Best of all it will give you a chance to help make the world a better place and make you confident of your own place in it. Health Question & Answer
In social settings don't obsess about a whole room full of people who don't know you or who you think may not care for you. Instead think about only the person or group you are nearest to at any given point. Push yourself to introduce yourself and say hello first. Make small talk about an innocuous subject. Avoid political subjects and religion. Movies, sports, music, TV is safe. Ask the person about themselves. Showing an interest is always a good way to break the ice. If you feel uncomfortable, smile and excuse yourself by saying something like "Nice talking to you, can you point me to the the rest room(or the refreshments, etc).?" Move around and mingle a bit.
Being a good listener and showing interest in someone else goes a long way. It's no crime to not be the life of the party, most people aren't. Don't worry about saying the wrong thing. If you do, move on. A smile and pleasant demeanor will go a long way. There is an expression "Fake it til you make it". Act comfortable, smile and try to relax. Eventually you may actually be comfortable and feel relaxed.
But here's the best advice I can give you: Find an issue larger than yourself to think about that forces you to be among people in a situation where you think about others or the work at hand more than yourself. For instance, if you like animals, try volunteering to help out at the local shelter. You will be thrown among people with similar interests and animals that need your help.
Being active in a cause you believe in will take you out of yourself and help you think of others and their needs and aspirations and less about what others may think of you. (Believe it or not, most people don't have the time or inclination to spend much time thinking about you in particular and what you might feel are your shortcomings -- and they probably wouldn't even notice or care anyway).
Volunteer to help other people make their lives better or improve their quality of life: help build houses for families at Habitat for Humanity, hold someone's hand as a volunteer for Hospice, read books or magazines to someone who can't do it for themselves at a nursing home, hospital or elder care facility, read to children at the local library's story hour program. Sort donations and stock shelves for the local food bank. Join a group that packs shoe boxes with school supplies for kids in Afghanistan and Iraq, or care packages for our guys and gals over there.
Helping others and working for a cause you believe in will give you a reason to feel real pride in yourself and your accomplishments. It will expose you to interesting, new people in low stress, non-competitive settings while pushing your own personal envelope. Best of all it will give you a chance to help make the world a better place and make you confident of your own place in it. Health Question & Answer