A friend just died. She was more than aquaintance but not much more. I don't feel anything. Why?!


Question: A friend just died. She was more than aquaintance but not much more. I don't feel anything. Why.?
We went on a lunch date just last week. I feel sorry for her, but I don't think i can call it shock. I didn't know her well enough for shock. Could I have a disasociation disorder.?Health Question & Answer


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death is as natural as birth, and not showing, (or having) emotion for an acquaintance is not uncommon. Everyone has their own degree of grief, do not think yourself unusual or dysfunctional because of your individual feelings. You may find that at times you will miss your 'acquaintance', and that might be the extent, or you may never give it another thought. No matter, what matters is how you react in life. Be kind, and respect others, be true to yourself. Health Question & Answer

Not necessarily, you are expressing sadness in your own way. I wonder if today we now seem to expect to feel absolute despair at anything remotely sad. You don't say how this person died, if it was a traumatic death then you may be feeling an element of shock and your "lack" of tears etc could be to come although if you didn't know her that well it might not.
I don't why you want to pin a label on this unless you already have a recognised mental health problem. If you don't then I would say not to worry. We are all different, you might find in a few weeks time you suddenly find yourself crying, or if you go to the funeral etc that might be your time for sorrow. If you said you had absolutely no feelings about the matter at all....that would be a bit more of a worry.
For now I would just take a time out and remember your friend as fondly as you can and remember there will be others who were very close and you might be able to support them through this sad time.Health Question & Answer

everyone responds differently to death. don't judge your reaction. it may change over time. you do not have a disassociation disorder...that is something different. Health Question & Answer

you are probably very devastated, but for some reason you dont feel sad. you will when you see her in a coffin. that will make you blubber and weep according to this question. I'm so sorry. I give my regards.Health Question & Answer

I don't know. But the way you feel about someone maters. Imagine if you loved her allot! And she was killed by your bff. That's probably when the pain comes.Health Question & Answer

it will just hit u later o im like that the death of my grandma hit me 4 months after i had a good cry and was okHealth Question & Answer



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