Nervous breakdown! Plez help.?!
Question: Nervous breakdown! Plez help..?
I'm recent college grad (may 2008) in graphic design who has a job, but here's the catch: It's only seasonal, temporary, and it's closed during the winter. I've been job hunting for the past two months for a permanent position, and I've only gotten as far as the interview stage four times, no offers yet, any jobs like waitress or grocery stores might consider me too old or overqualified cause of my degree. MY DEGREE IS A PIECE OF SH#T AND I AM BURNING IT!! My friends been trying to get me a job at the grocery store he works at, but I told him that I'm too old and they'll turn me down for having a four year degree in graphic design. (I'm very old at 25). This is a bad situation, so I'm going back to my current job next year if nothing remote turns up (I don't even know if my job will be there next year cause of the economy is hurting). I became self employed about three weeks ago, and my biz is going nowhere so far. Moneys tight, so I can't even afford to run a website now. I still live at home like a loser with a supportive family, but I thought about starving a few days out of the week and not see my friends for a while so that I can save money on food and gas for the next five months and won't have to feel like I'm mooching or freeloading. Of course, my mom thought this idea was unhealthy, but I must save money while job searching, and I don't want to be a burden on anyone. I'm trying to pick up odd freelance jobs over the winter if I'm lucky. I'M HAVING A HUGE NERVOUS BREAKDOWN CAUSE I HAVEN'T FOUND ANOTHER GOOD JOB YET! I'm to the point of no return. I've done everything, from following up with interviewers, to trying to grow my own business, so far no results, and I'm to the point of suicide because of it, WHICH IS REALLY BAD AND CRAZY! I'm hyperventilating right now! Of course my friends and family tend to bullsh*t me by saying that I'm doing everything I can, the economy sucks, and that I shouldn't beat myself up about this and that I worry way too much! It's so difficult for me to have a positive attitude right now after hearing that the DOW Jones crashed another 700 points and more layoffs! WTF.?.? So, I wonder, since there's no results for me, CAN I JOIN THE ARMY OR THE NAVY--am I too old for that.? I got that idea from the movie Waiting. I just want something great to happen before I kill myself! Is joining the army an option for me.?.?Health Question & Answer
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This is obviously one of those times in life when you've gotta get tricky....You need to look at the whole situation as a challenge and as bad as it gets you have to come back even trickier and more willing to overcome your obstacles. Try turning everything on its head and look at it all from a different perspective - try to come up with unique, even bizarre ways to solve each issue. You could even start at the most bizarre answers and work backwards until you arrive at something do-able. Have you considered starting in a volunteer position, posting an unusual resume in unusual places, bartering for rent, or offering your friends the benefit of your skills or becoming something altogether different -maybe a caretaker job would offer a place to live and some cash or you could find a like minded, successful, adult to coach you, or_____ etc. It would help if you handle it all like a time of great possibility and focus only on 'cures' instead of looking things negatively. Don't spend time listing your woes, but list your crazy and sane answers to it all instead. They call it brainstorming I guess -Oh and yeah, brainstorm with others, network as much as possible. And don't forget the peace that some find in having only the basics in life. It is said that it's not a matter of getting the things in life that will make you happy, but of being happy with what you've got. Good luck. PS: You might benefit from seeing a counselor or joining a support group before you get any more frustrated. It'd be a shame for your health to suffer any more than it has and depression is a real possibility. Hang in there, something will break and it doesn't have to be you!Health Question & Answer
There are lots and lots of options for you. The main thing right now is to figure out how to calm yourself down, because when you get upset and stress builds up, things can look worse or different then they really are. I know the exact feeling.... so I know that it is WAY harder said then done, but do anything you can do right now to calm down so that you are thinking rationally. Depression/anxiety medication may also help get you though this period.... just try and calm down right now and if worse comes to worse, call whoever you can even if it is a crisis center.Health Question & Answer
you dont need to mention your degree on your resume when applying for these lower wage jobs, you can also lie on your resume and say youve worked for a couple years in a grocery store in australia or something like that, theyll never look into it. i know this might provoke feminist ire but being a girl does open some possibilities for you. have you considered maybe pushing things to the next stage with some guy you like who likes you, who happens to have his own place and a stable job.? im sure he'd be happy to take you on as a roommate and support you while you look for a job. in the meantime, mooch mooch all you can, but keep up an appearance of not wanting to mooch, with your parents, or anyone else. you have to do what you have to do to survive, there's no dishonour in that. get rid of this suicide idea, frankly its rather stupid. i think suicide can be fine if done in a calm logical mood, but you're just in a temporary panic, key word temporary. be patient, things will work out for you. i know it may sound silly, im even surprised at myself to suggest it, but embracing some religion could be of help to you, providing you a focal point to allow faith that things will be alright. sort of a fatalistic "it's part of God's plan, who am i to worry or question it." anyways, if youd ever like to talk more, or have a more immediate person to talk with, email me, ill give you my msn and we can talk there. Health Question & Answer