How to live with depression?!


Question: How to live with depression.?
My name is Carina. And I have been struggling with severe depressions for about 11 years now. Of course, it hasn't all been bad times, but most of them. I was recently dumped the love of my life, my best friend and I nor I find my self in an existential crisis. He was my rock. And now my foundation is ruined. I miss him terribly. I don't know what do without him. In fact, I can't see the point of living without him. I am getting help, well I am in theprocesss of getting help any way. But, I been living with this illness for 11 years now. And it just hurts to much. If anyone has any tools that has worked for them, tools for coping with the struggle that is waking up in the morning and going about there day, I wouldappreciatee it. At this point, I can't get out of bed. Health Question & Answer


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I hate to be a barer of bad news, but you will probably struggle with this for your entire life. Medication might help, if you can stand the side effects. Having said that, the trick to living with depression is two things. 1. Be kind to yourself. 2. Use rationality to fight back. By being kind to yourself, I mean you need to accept that you will have limitations in your life due to depression. If a person is in a wheel chair, they shouldn't get mad at themselves for not being able to climb Mount Everest. If a person has diabetes, they shouldn't get mad at themselves for not being able to eat sugar. Likewise, when your depression prevents you from doing what you want to do, don't hate yourself for it. Depression is an illness, not a matter of personal will and it's not a failing. You could try making a rule for yourself that for every three days you stay out of bed, you allow yourself one day to stay in bed. You could also try and do one chore a day (like the dishes or vacuum) instead of getting mad at yourself for not getting them all done. You could also use structure from a job or school or exercising with a friend to structure your time so you are more motivated to get out of bed. By using rationality, you can keep depressive thoughts in check. If you think to yourself "I'm stupid" then you should purposely make a list which lists things you are good at, or look at rewards you've gotten. If you think "no one likes me", you should keep postcards and holiday cards you receive and look at them to remind you of the people who love you. You could also join a support group. also, you need to realize that you can live without your boyfriend. He was probably a good support for you, and having a support network is important, but one person does not a support network make. You are grieving for the person you have lost, keep in mind that this is normal and it will pass. It's okay for you to grieve over him, so let yourself grieve and don't beat yourself up over it. Build up a new support network for yourself of friends, a local depression support group, your doctor/therapist, and your family. Remember that these people care about you and most important of all, be kind to yourself. Health Question & Answer

i have had this for about 15 years. i couldnt get out of bed but a few years ago i did get out. im alive and kicking now. not 100% but good. i practice coping skills. i can help if you wantHealth Question & Answer

Hi Carina,
I used to go out with this girl for 4 years and we both working hard to get far in life. Until years later, i started to getting sick and very tired, we lost our relationship and havent talk to her for months. Later on, like on Christmas, i gave her a call, just to greet christmas and from there, we started to get along again and now she live with her new bf but that didnt even affect our friendship and until now we became close friends.
if you dont let this heavy pain go you have a chance to suffer more, it is a simple as that. By letting go means, just drop it, like a heavy rock in your shoulder but when you start doing this process you gotta strt from your innerself. Ask yourself, 'can i accept this as how things is.?' Maybe our brain and body doesnt want to accept this way but Can you accept that you cannot accept.? This way, your mind cant control you anymore. if there is more pain inside you, just let it be there (this is also part of acceptance) and just watch it crave for more pain however if you dont react to this, it will eventually fade and move on. Thsi is the true acceptance as our very own nature's gift to us not to say, this is a little bit spiritual itself. This is the real peace.

All the best for you

- KRHealth Question & Answer

I find there is no security on relying on people, all relationships are founded in sand they will eventually crumble or at least become not has solid as they had been.
I find prayer and meditation is the only thing that is there all the time. God loves me, when I was in depression for 2-1/2 years( I remember never getting dressed, never going out, relying on others to take care of me) all I could remember is living in a deep hole.
God was holding me from sinking any further. Then one day I just woke up in the morning and I was free of the depression. I can't say I am always a Pollyanna, but at least I can function as a human being again.
Prayer does help!!Health Question & Answer

Hi Carina, I'm sorry to hear about your loss, that has to hurt terribly.

You said you're getting help, that is a good first step. Sometimes we get so involved in things we need an "outside observer" to help us see what is going on.

Are you getting counseling for the depression.? I hope so... you can also get anti-depressants to help you feel better - if you can't afford them there are a lot of programs available to help.

While you may have the depression for a long time, it can be treated, and with the proper medication and therapy - you will be back to your normal happy self soon.

If you want to talk - feel free to send me a message.

Best of Luck - and Happiness - to You :-)
Paul.Health Question & Answer



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